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Wonke umntu obhinqileyo udlula kwisigaba ebomini bakhe xa ehlaselwa yimibuzo enje- 'Utshata nini?,' 'Kutheni ungayifumani indoda utshate?', 'Ubomi bumalunga nokutshata, ukuba nabantwana kwaye ukuhlala ngolonwabo kunye nabo. '
Ayiveli kuluntu, kodwa uninzi lwamaxesha ngamalungu osapho lwabo, abamelwane kunye nabahlobo ababeka abafazi kwiimeko ezinobungozi. Kunzima ukuba bayazi ukuba oku kunokubangela uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo nakulo mfazi.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ngenxa yeemeko zengcinezelo, abasetyhini abakwazi ukuhambisa iimvakalelo zabo ngokufanelekileyo kwaye baphela beziva bevalelekile kwimeko kwaye bengakwazi ukwenza isigqibo. Baninzi abantu basetyhini abazinikezelayo phambi koxinzelelo lomtshato kwaye babeke esichengeni imisebenzi yabo ngenxa yamalungu osapho.
Kwangokunjalo, ibali likaVani (igama litshintshiwe) ukusuka ePatna lahlukile. Emva kokugqitywa kwesidanga sobunjineli, njengamantombazana amaninzi, uVani wayecinezelwe kakhulu ngabazali kunye nezihlobo ukuba batshate. Ekuqaleni, akazange abahoye kwaye wathi ufuna ukusebenza njengomphuhlisi wesoftware endaweni yoko. Uye wathi, 'Umsebenzi ophumelelayo yiyo yonke into endiyifunayo ngoku. Makube yile nto bendifuna ukuba yiyo. '
Kodwa, ngubani okhathalele uluvo lomfazi, akunjalo? Nokuba sele ejoyine umphuhlisi wesoftware kwinkampani enethemba lokuba usapho lwakhe luza kuyeka ukumnyanzela ukuba atshate. Imeko zaba mandundu kwaye ekugqibeleni emva kweenyanga ezintathu, kwafuneka ayeke umsebenzi wakhe ukuze atshate.
Ayisiyixeleli into yokuba ukuba ebenganyanzelwanga ukuba atshate, ngewayethe wagxila kwikhondo lomsebenzi wakhe kwaye wenza into ngawo.
Funda kwakhona: Umtshato awusoloko uyinto ebonakala ngathi: Ngaphakathi kubomi besibini saseIndiya
Ngokufanayo, kwelinye icala, umfazi obizwa ngokuba nguNiti (igama litshintshiwe) waseKoderma, e-India, watshata emva kokuzalwa kwakhe kwama-21. Njengabafazi abaninzi abaphupha ngobuhlobo obuhle kunye neqabane, naye wayenomdla ngomtshato wakhe kwaye yayilixesha lokonwaba kuye. Wayephupha amaxesha amnandi athumela umtshato wakhe, kodwa, izinto azizange zihambe njengoko bekucwangcisiwe kwaye kuphela emva konyaka, wayecinezelwe ukuba nabantwana.
Waxelelwa ngumama wakhe kunye nomyeni wakhe, 'Ukuba ngumama kuya kukugqibezela njengomfazi.' UNiti wayengakholwanga kwaphela kuba kwakusekutsha kakhulu kuye ukuba abe ngumama kwaye akhulise umntwana.
Emva kokuchitha iminyaka emi-2 yobomi bakhe bomtshato, uqhubeka nokungahoyi oko kuthethwa ngamalungu osapho kunye nezihlobo. Wayengachasani nokuba ngumama, yonke into awayeyifuna yayikukulungiselela ngokwengqondo nangokwezimali ukwamkela umntwana. Eyona nto wayeyifuna yayikukusebenza, into ayithandayo ngentliziyo yakhe yonke.
Kwakukho ixesha apho kwakunyanzelekile ukuba abafazi batshate emva kokufikelela kwiminyaka ethile. Kodwa, kunzima kubantu abanengqondo yoosolusapho ukuba baqonde ukuba abantu basetyhini banezinye izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka. Banomdla wabo kunye nokukhetha amakhondo omsebenzi kwaye bayathanda ukuchitha 'ixesha lam'. Ewe, okwangoku sonke siyiqondile into yokuba ukuzinakekela akukungazingci. Ukutshata okanye ukuba nabantwana kunokwahluka kumfazi kuye kwabasetyhini kwaye uluntu alunakho ukunika aba basetyhini ixesha elimiselweyo lokwenza olu khetho.
Kutshanje, iphulo elinegama elithi 'Amaxesha abekiweyo' lenziwe yi-SK-II, inkampani yolusu, ukuphonononga ulindelo lobomi babafazi abane abavela kumazwe amane ahlukeneyo, benembono eyahlukileyo. Ixesha laba bafazi lahlukile kumbono woomakhulu babo, oomama kunye nabahlobo abasenyongweni. Udliwanondlebe lwathathwa yintatheli yaseMelika kunye nombhali uKatie Couric.
Funda kwakhona: Izinto ezimangalisayo ezinokwenziwa ngabafazi endaweni yokucinga ngamadoda
Ngaphambi kodliwanondlebe kunye nokuntywila kwincoko naba bafazi bane,
UKatie uthe, 'Kwenzeka ntoni xa amaphupha engqubana nolindelo? Sonke simele ukubetha amanqanaba athile: isidanga, umtshato, usapho.
Umlingisi ophumelele amabhaso wase-China, u-Chun Xia wayengomnye wabafazi abane ekwenziwa udliwanondlebe no-Katie Couric. UChun, owaziwa ngokuvakalisa izimvo zakhe kunye nokuthetha ngokuxhobisa abanye abantu basetyhini baseTshayina. Ukhumbule ukuba ngamanye amaxesha, wayebuzwa ngabantu malunga nomtshato. Ndihlala ndibuzwa, 'awufuni kutshata? Awufuni ukuqala usapho kwaye ube nabantwana njengoko kufanelekile kule minyaka yakho? ' Kodwa inyani kukuba andifuni okwangoku. Andikakulungeli, utshilo. Ukholelwa ukuba ulonwabo lungavela kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo ngokunjalo kwaye aluthintelwanga emtshatweni.
Ngelixa wayethetha noKatie, omnye umfazi, uMaina (25) uthe, abantu baseJapan bababiza njani abantu basetyhini 'njengeempahla ezingathengiswayo', ukuba abatshati phakathi kweminyaka engama-25 ukuya kwengama-30. Umama wakhe wathi, 'Ndifuna ngokwenene ukuba afumane indoda elungileyo kwaye atshate, abonwe njengempahla yomtshato.'
Emva kodliwanondlebe, uKatie wanceda aba bafazi kunye neentsapho zabo ukuba baqonde amaxesha abo. Amaxesha abonisa indlela apho wonke umntu wasetyhini abubonayo ubomi bakhe ngokuchaseneyo noko kwakucingwa ziintsapho zabo kunye nezihlobo zabo.
Kumfazi ngamnye oselula, kwenziwa amaxesha amabini abekiweyo. Inye imele ulindelo. Enye, iminqweno yabo, 'ucacisile uKatie. Kuhlala kunqunyulwa phakathi kwamaphupha nolindelo. Kodwa ngaba ukubona umahluko kungakhokelela ekuqondeni okungakumbi? '
Emva kokubona nokuqonda umahluko kulindelo kunye neminqweno amalungu osapho kunye nabafazi babenakho ukuba nencoko engcono malunga nomtshato kunye nobomi obuzayo.
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Akukho nto iphosakeleyo malunga nokuba nexhala ngeentombi zakho okanye uzitshate kwiminyaka yobudala abazali baziva ngathi 'kulungile', kodwa, umntu kufuneka athathele ingqalelo iminqweno kunye nolindelo lwabantwana babo, ngakumbi iintombi.