Umamazala wam osokolayo ngokwezimali ufuna ukuyongena. Ndimyeke?

Amagama Aphezulu Ebantwaneni

Umama womyeni wam unengxaki yemali kwaye ufuna ukuhlala nathi. Ndiyamthanda. Ulungile kubantwana, kwaye ebesoloko emxhasa unyana wakhe kunye nomtshato wethu. Kodwa andikwazi ukucinga ukuba ndiziva ndikhululekile ukuba naye malunga ne-24/7, kwaye ndinexhala malunga nokuba ukufudukela kwakhe kuza kwenza ntoni kubomi bethu basekhaya. Ngaba iindlela zabantwana bam abancinci ziya kuphazamiseka? Ngaba isingqi sethu silusapho siyatshintsha? Ngaba uya kuhlala apha ekhaya? Umyeni wam ucinga ukuba simncede. Senza ntoni?



Kungokwemvelo ukuziva uneemvakalelo ezixubeneyo malunga noku, ngakumbi ukuba ungumntu ongalufuniyo utshintsho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ufuna ukuvuyisa umyeni wakho kwaye uncede umkhwekazi wakho abuyele ezinyaweni zakhe. Kodwa nawe unemida, ubomi bentsapho obumiselweyo nabantwana bakho kunye nesingqi kunye nomyeni wakho osonwabelayo. Ke, njengezinto ezininzi, kufuneka ulalanise.



Kufuneka uncede. Ndiyazi ukuba isenokungakhululeki, kodwa yeyomyeni wakho umama . Uyamthanda. Wamkhulisa, kwaye uyinxalenye yobukho bakhe. Ukumvalela ngaphandle ngokupheleleyo mhlawumbi bekuya kumenzakalisa iimvakalelo zomyeni wakho ngendlela enkulu. Endaweni yoko, kuya kufuneka uthi ewe ekuncedeni ngelixa useka iinkcukacha zokuhlala ezibalulekileyo kwimpilo yakho. Nantsi into omele uyixoxe nomyeni wakho kunye nomamazala ngaphambili.

Uzohlala ixesha elingakanani?

Ukuba awuziva ukhululekile ngokupheleleyo ngombono wokuba umkhwekazi wakho ahlale nawe, ukwazi ukuba ukuhlala kwakho kunokunyusa ixhala lakho. Ingaba yinyanga okanye iinyanga ezintandathu, ufuna ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni isicwangciso. Ngaba ukhangela umsebenzi? Ngendlu ephantsi? Ngaba ekugqibeleni ufuna ukuphelela phi kwaye ixesha lakhe kunye nawe lingaqhubela phambili njani loo njongo? Misela ixesha elilindelekileyo lokuhlala kwakhe kwaye uxelele umyeni wakho ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukunamathela kuloo nto.



Ufuna ntoni xa ehlala nawe?

Ngaba unayo indawo yendalo kamamazala wakho, njengegumbi lokulala elongezelelweyo kunye negumbi lokuhlambela? Ngaba ufuna imoto okanye uhlobo lwesithuthi, yaye ngubani oza kumnceda kule nto? Ngaba uya kube umsonga ekuthengeni kwakho igrosari yeveki kunye nezinto ezithunyelwayo, okanye ngaba uza kuhlala ekwazi ukuzimela ngelixa ehlala nawe? Ngaba ucela imali, okanye olunye uncedo lwemali, ngaphaya kwendawo yokuhlala? Kuhle ukuba ube nokuqonda ukuba ungakanani umthwalo owukhululayo-kwaye ngubani oza kuba noxanduva lokunyamekela iimfuno zakhe.

Yiyiphi imigaqo esisiseko kunye nabantwana?



Uyayazi imeko. Ukuba umkhwekazi wakho unotyekelo lokuba ngumzali, ukubangxolisa okanye ukufundisa abantwana bakho, abasele beyazi imithetho yendlu yakho yaye benenkqubo yabo yesiqhelo, usenokufuna ukuxelela umyeni wakho ukuba awulunganga ngokubakhulisa kwakhe. Linda de kwenzeke kube kanye. Nokuba uyambiza okanye umyeni wakho uyakwenza, kubalulekile ukumisela ukuba xa kufikwa kubuzali, nobabini nibeka imithetho. Ukuba awenzi abantwana bakho bagqibe isidlo sabo sangokuhlwa, oko kukuwe. Ukuba uyabavumela bangayihoyi imisebenzi yasekhaya iyure kamabonwakude, kunjalo.

Uqhubeka njani ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zobudlelwane bakho?

Uya kuba nomthwalo owandisiweyo kunye nendawo encinci kuwe ngelixa umamazala wakho ehlala nawe. Ukuba unoloyiko lokuba ubudlelwane bakho okanye ixesha lobudlelwane obusondeleyo liya kutyhalelwa kwi-burner yangasemva, olo loyiko lufanelekile. Ngoko cwangcisa kwezo ntsuku zobusuku! Buza umkhwekazi wakho ukuba angathanda na ukujonga abantwana rhoqo ukuze wena nomyeni wakho nikwazi ukuphinda niqhagamshelane. Oku kufanele kube yinto engafanelekanga, kodwa khumbula ukuphuma endlwini kwaye uzenzele ixesha. Usenokuziva udiniwe xa usekhaya, kodwa ufanele ukwazi ukuphuma rhoqo nomntu onokubukela abantwana.

Khumbula: Wonke umntu ufuna uncedo ngamaxesha athile, kwaye ukuhlala okwethutyana kunokukunceda usondele kumntu obalulekileyo kubomi bomyeni wakho. Qiniseka ukuba uyayichaza imida yakho ejikeleze abantwana, ixesha losapho kunye nemali, kunye neendlela ozifunayo ngexesha lakhe ekhayeni lakho. I-perks nayo intle. Abantwana bakho banokuthanda ukuba nomnye umntu odlala naye, kwaye umyeni wakho unokulonwabela ixesha kunye nomama wakhe njengoko ekwinguquko.

Vumela umyeni wakho ayilawule le meko.

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Kodwa ngethemba, ukuhlala ixesha elifutshane kunye nemida kuya kukuvumela wena kunye nosapho lwakho lonke ukuba nikhule ngeendlela ezintsha.

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