Xa kuziwa kwindlela umntwana wakho adlala ngayo, kuyavela ukuba ayisiyiyo yonke into eyonwabisayo kunye nemidlalo. Ngokutsho kwesazi ngezentlalo UMildred Parten Newhall , kukho amanqanaba amathandathu ahlukeneyo okudlala ukususela ebusaneni ukusa kwisikolo sabasaqalayo—yaye ngalinye linika umntwana wakho ithuba lokufunda izifundo ezibalulekileyo ngaye nangehlabathi. Ukuziqhelanisa nezi ntlobo zahlukeneyo zokudlala kunokukunceda uzive ukhululekile ngokuziphatha komntwana wakho (Heyi, loo nto inqabileyo kaloliwe iyinto eqhelekileyo!)
ENXULUMENEYO: Iindlela ezi-8 zokuQhagamshela nabantwana bakho xa uthiyile ukudlala
Andy445/Getty ImifanekisoUkudlala Okungenamsebenzi
Khumbula xa u-zero wakho ukuya kwiminyaka emibini ubudala wayevuya ngokugqibeleleyo ehleli ekoneni kwaye edlala ngeenyawo zakhe? Nangona kusenokungabonakali ngathi kukho nantoni na ayenzayo, itoti yakho ixakekile ithatha ihlabathi elimngqongileyo ( oh, iinzwane!) kunye nokujonga. Ukudlala ngokungenzi nto linyathelo elibalulekileyo eliya kummisela kwixesha elizayo (kunye nokusebenza ngakumbi) kwexesha lokudlala. Ke mhlawumbi gcina ezo zinto zokudlala zintsha zibiza xa enomdla ngakumbi.
ferrantraite/Getty ImifanekisoUkudlala Wedwa
Xa umntwana wakho edlala kangangokuba akaqapheli mntu wumbi, uye wangena kwinqanaba lokudlala wedwa okanye elizimeleyo, elidla ngokubonakala malunga neminyaka emibini nemithathu. Olu hlobo lokudlala luyahluka kakhulu ngokuxhomekeka kumntwana, kodwa inokuba xa umntwana wakho omncinci ehleli ngokuzolileyo nencwadi okanye edlala nesilwanyana asithanda kakhulu. Umdlalo wedwa ufundisa abantwana indlela yokuzonwabisa kunye nokuzimela (kunye nokunika umzuzu oxabisekileyo kuwe).
Juanmonino/Getty ImifanekisoUkubukela umdlalo
Ukuba uLucy ubukele abanye abantwana bebaleka isilayidi izihlandlo ezili-16 kodwa akazibandakanyi kulonwabo, ungakhathazeki ngezakhono zakhe zentlalontle. Usandula kungena kwinqanaba lokudlala elibukeleyo, elihlala lisenzeka ngaxeshanye kumdlalo wedwa kwaye eneneni lilinyathelo lokuqala elibalulekileyo lokuthatha inxaxheba kweqela. (Yicinge njengokufunda imithetho ngaphambi kokuba utsibe kanye.) Umdlalo obukeleyo udla ngokwenzeka kwiminyaka emibini enesiqingatha ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu enesiqingatha.
asiseeit/Getty ImifanekisoUmdlalo ofanayo
Uya kukwazi ukuba umntwana wakho ukweli nqanaba (ngokuqhelekileyo phakathi kweminyaka emibini enesiqingatha kunye neyesithathu enesiqingatha) xa yena nabahlobo bakhe bedlala ngezinto zokudlala ezifanayo. ecaleni omnye komnye kodwa hayi nge kunye. Oku akuthethi ukuba bangama-frenemies. Enyanisweni, mhlawumbi banebhola (nangona ithoyizi yam! I-tantrum ayinakuphepheka-uxolo). Nantsi into ayifundayo: Indlela yokutshintshisana, ukunikela ingqalelo kwabanye nokulinganisa ukuziphatha okubonakala kuluncedo okanye kumnandi.
FatCamera / Getty ImifanekisoUkudlala ngokudibeneyo
Eli nqanaba likhangeleka lifana nomdlalo ofanayo kodwa libonakala ngonxibelelwano lomntwana wakho nabanye ngaphandle kolungelelwaniso (kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo lwenzeka phakathi kweminyaka emithathu nemine). Cinga: abantwana ababini abahleli ecaleni bakha isixeko saseLego…kodwa besebenza kwizakhiwo zabo. Eli lithuba elihle lokwazisa izakhono ezixabisekileyo ezifana nokusebenzisana kunye nonxibelelwano. (Jonga indlela inqaba yakho engena ngayo kakuhle phezu kwenqaba kaTyler?)
FatCamera / Getty ImifanekisoUmdlalo wentsebenziswano
Xa abantwana ekugqibeleni bekulungele ukudlala kunye (ngokuqhelekileyo malunga nexesha beqala isikolo kwiminyaka emine okanye emihlanu), baye bafikelela kwinqanaba lokugqibela lethiyori kaParten. Oku kuxa imidlalo yeqela okanye imidlalo yeqela iba yonwaba ngakumbi (kubantwana abadlalayo nakubazali ababukeleyo). Ngoku bakulungele ukusebenzisa izakhono abazifundileyo (njengokuhlalisana, ukunxibelelana, ukusombulula iingxaki kunye nokunxibelelana) kwezinye iindawo zobomi babo kwaye babe ngabantu abadala abasebenza ngokuzeleyo (kakuhle, phantse).
