UKim Anami ufuna ukuba ube neentlobano zesini ezivuthuza ingqondo. Ukuzichaza ngokwesondo ngokupheleleyo kunye nomqeqeshi wobudlelwane yenza iipodcasts ezinikelwe kukhanyiselo lwe-orgasmic, ikhokelela amaqela amancinane abafundi ekugxileni kumanqaku agqwesileyo eendawo kunye ne-orgasms efanayo kunye nokwenza into ebizwa ngokuba kung fu kwilungu lobufazi . Ngoko xa i-sexpert yasitshela ukuba i-sexpert ye-sexpert elula yokuqhelanisa imikhwa inokutshintsha ubomi bethu bobulili ngendlela engcono, sonke sasiyindlebe (kwaye, ngokucacileyo, i-labia engaphantsi kokuzivocavoca). Ukuba ufuna ukungena kuyo ngenene, u-Amani unentlaninge ye 'sex savant salons' okt iiklasi ze-intanethi, ezizayo, kodwa nantsi enye ekunene, ngoku, uphuculo lwangoku kumava akho avuselelayo onokuwaphumeza, pronto.
1. Ziqhelise ukuphefumla ngendlela efanelekileyo
'Amandla okwabelana ngesondo ngamandla obomi,' utshilo uAnami. Kodwa ngexesha lokuvuswa, ukuphefumla kwabantu abaninzi kuya kuba nzulu kwaye bayayiqinisa imizimba yabo kunokuba bavumele ukuvuselela ioksijini ukuba ijikeleze kwimiphunga yabo kunye negazi. 'Xa siphefumla ngokunzulu, sivuselela kwaye sakhe amandla, ngoko siziva sinamandla ngakumbi emva kokwabelana ngesondo kunokuba sifune ukulala ngesondo.' UAnami uthi kubalulekile ukuziqeqesha kwakhona kulo lonke ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo, ukwenza ukubala okune kokuphefumla kunye nezibalo ezine zokuphefumla ngaphandle ngexesha lokwenza uthando ukulibazisa i-orgasm. Kunokuba 'kugqatso oluqhelekileyo lokugqiba isini, sibeka kuqala ukuphefumla nzulu esiswini nakwamanye amalungu esini.' Ukubiza oku 'ukuvuna amandla okwabelana ngesondo' kwaye uthi ngokuziqhelanisa nokuziphatha, kuya kubuphucula ubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo nge-100 lepesenti.
2. Zama ukunyaniseka okugqibeleleyo
Unxibelelwano lubaluleke kakhulu. UAnami uthi 'sisini ngaphambi kokwabelana ngesondo.' Egameni lezesondo ezingcono, umcebisi ucebisa umgaqo-nkqubo 'wokucoca-njengoko-uhamba' wokuba nengxoxo ecacileyo, evulekileyo ngamaxesha onke ukwenzela ukuba amandla okwabelana ngesondo akwazi ukuhamba ngokulula phakathi kwakho. 'Amaxesha amaninzi abantu abenzi unxulumano phakathi kwe-barometer yoqhagamshelwano lwabo omnye nomnye.' Umzekelo, uAnami uyacacisa, uthi bekukho ingxabano ngesidlo sakusasa. Xa kufika ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo ngexesha lokulala kwaye akukho mntu usemoyeni, mhlawumbi ungquzulwano olungasonjululwanga ekuqaleni kosuku luchaphazele i-vibe iyonke. Xa imibhangqwana ivakalelwa ubunzima beenyaniso ezidlulileyo ezingabonakaliyo, u-Anami ucebisa ukuba nentliziyo-to-ntliziyo, kuba 'i-feng shui yobudlelwane babo ithetha ukuba bayicimile loo ndawo, kwaye iintliziyo zabo kunye nezitho zangasese zivulekile.'
3. Gcina 'ukubila' kuqhubeka
Ukwabelana ngesondo akufuneki kukhawulelwe kwixesha lokulala; ifanele ibekho ngalo lonke ixesha ize ‘ibile,’ ucebisa uAnami. Cinga ngobomi bakho obunomtsalane ngokweqondo lobushushu: Amanzi angumkhenkce ayaqhawulwa, ngelixa amanzi abilayo emele i-orgasm. Ukuhlala kwiqondo lobushushu elitshisayo ngamaxesha onke kuthetha ukuba kulula kakhulu ukufikelela kwindawo yokubilisa, kuba akufuneki ukuba uhambe kuzo zonke izigaba zokuqala ngomkhenkce onyibilikayo. 'Abantu abaninzi bayahlulahlula ngesondo, njengokuba yenzeka ebusuku. Basenokuwa kunye kwaye babe neepompo ezimbalwa kwaye bubomi babo bonke bokwabelana ngesondo, ”utshilo. UAnami uthi itekisi yothando okanye evuselela inkanuko ebudeni bemini, enenkumbulo ebuhlungu efana nale, ‘Ubumhle kakhulu; Ndiyakuthanda ukuloo ndawo' okanye 'Andikwazi kulinda ukwenza oku kuwe ngokuhlwanje' kuhamba indlela ende yokugcina ingqalelo kunye namandla encwina phakathi kwakho.
4. Yomeleza amalungu akho angasese
Siphazamisa le ntetho evuselelayo kwisifundo sebhayoloji ekhawulezayo. Zonke izini zine Izihlunu zePC (leyo sisihlunu se-pubococcygeus), sisihlunu esifana ne-hammock esisuka kwi-pubic bone ukuya kwithambo lomsila. Ibizwa ngokuba 'yi-pelvic floor' kwaye sisihlunu osisebenzisayo xa uyeka ukuphuma komchamo phakathi kokuchama. Esi sihlunu sixhasa onke amalungu akho e-pelvic (okucacileyo) kwaye, xa somelele, sibuyisela umva ukungakwazi ukuzibamba komchamo kwaye sinyuse ukuthambisa kubantu abanezitho zangasese zabasetyhini. Kubantu abanezitho zangasese zamadoda, yenza ukuba ulawulo lwe-erectile kunye namandla phezu kwe-erections yabo (ngaphantsi kwe-obvi). Indlela yokwakha izihlunu ezantsi phaya? U-Anami uyamcebisa yoni iqanda ikiti , eqhayisa ngayo yomeleza i-vaginas kwisondo esingcono sosuku olunye. Kucetyiswa ukuba kusetyenziswe imizuzu emi-5 ukuya kweli-10, kathathu okanye kane ngeveki. Ikhredithi eyongezelelweyo: Kwi-CrossFit ye-vaginas, jonga i-Anami kwi-intanethi Iiklasi zeKung Fu zangasese .
5. Ungatyi kakhulu okanye usele ngaphambi kokuba uye ngesondo
'Ukutya kwangaphambi kwesondo kufuneka kube lula kodwa kunempilo, kuphezulu kwiiprotheyini kunye nokutya okupheleleyo. Awufuni ukuba kwisiqaqa sokutya okanye usindwa,' utsho uAnami. Ngaphandle kwezinto ezisebenzisekayo, izizathu zakho zokungatyi kakhulu zinokuquka umnqweno wokuziva ukhaphukhaphu yaye udlala, kungekhona i logy okanye ukozela. Kwaye ngelixa abantu abaninzi basebenzisa utywala ukuze bangene emoyeni, u-Anami uthi ngumqobo wokuziva unxibelelene ngokwasemzimbeni nasemphefumlweni. Kodwa kukho ikhemikhali enye enxilisayo ayivumileyo: itshokolethi emnyama yendalo. 'Iqulethe i-phenylalanine, enokuthomalalisa-ndifumana itshokholethi emnyama yendalo esebenza kakhulu ngaphezulu kwe-85 pesenti, indawo apho zonke izibonelelo zonyango zikhahlela khona,' utshilo u-Anami. 'Ngaphezu koko kukho ukongezwa kwamandla okuhle.'
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