Njengoko ndandihlikihla isisu sosana lwam oluxabisekileyo olusandul’ ukuzalwa ngesandla esinye kwaye ndikroba ifowuni yam ngesinye, ndabona inqaku eloyikeka kakuhle kwindawo yeendaba ephawulekayo eyayinobuso babantwana abaselula njengoko babebukele umabonwakude. Umhlathi otyhafileyo kwaye ugobile, abantwana bajonge ntsho kwizikrini, bejonge ngakumbi i-zombie kunomntu.
Ndiphefumlele elovumba litsha limnandi entanyeni yentombi yam eleleyo, ndancamisa isidlele sakhe esincinci, kwaye ndafunga ukuba soze abe ngomnye waba bantwana be-zombies.
Ukanti silapha. Iminyaka emihlanu, umntakwethu omnye, kunye nobhubhani wehlabathi kamva…
Yiza nee zombies ukuze umama afumane ikhefu.
Isitalato saseSesame yayisisiyobisi sethu sokungena xa umdala wam wajika omnye. Kwakubonakala kumsulwa ngokwaneleyo. Ngapha koko, yayifundisa. Ndikhulele kuyo, kwaye ndaphuma kakuhle…ndiyacinga. Iingoma ezilula kakhulu kwaye Cocomelon , kwalandela ukujikeleziswa kweengoma zabantwana kunye neekhathuni ezikhaphayo. Kodwa ezo, njengomculo onemifanekiso. Baye basinceda ukuba siphumelele ukuqeshwa konyango lomzimba kunye nohambo lwemoto. Babengafane babale njengomabonakude. I-Blaze kunye noomatshini beMonster ibiyizibalo. Super Kutheni! ebefunda. Paw Patrol yaba…umsebenzi weqela kunye nokusombulula iingxaki, ndiyaqikelela?
Owona mboniso uceliweyo wangoku wabantwana bam ababini abasaqala isikolo ngu...drumroll, nceda…Iividiyo zikaYouTube zabantwana abangaqhelekanga bedlala ngoonodoli. *Ugqume amehlo unikina intloko.
Ngoku leyo—imfihlelo yam elihlazo, umnakekeli wam we-elektroniki—kunzima ukuyithethelela.
Phakathi kwabahlobo bam babazali, ixesha lesikrini elinxulumene ne-Covid yinto wonke umntu ahlekisa ngayo kodwa angaze alilinganise. Sonke sicinga ukuba abantwana babukele ngakumbi umabonwakude…kodwa ngaba, iyure ngosuku? Iiyure ezintlanu ngosuku? Ngaba imidlalo yevidiyo ibala? Ngaba Bubble Guppies ifakwe phantsi kweTV efundisayo?
Xa umhlobo kamama kwisakhiwo sam ngelishwa wabethwa nguCovid ngaxeshanye nomyeni wakhe kunye nentombi yabo eneminyaka emithathu ubudala, ndacebisa ukuba ayilahle imithetho yexesha lesikrini kwaye intombi yakhe ibukele yonke iTV. Wandithumelela umyalezo othi: 'Ndinguye kwaphela. Ubukele, ngathi, iiyure ezimbini ezipheleleyo zikamabonwakude ngosuku.'
Loo nto yandimisa endleleni yam.
Kwiiveki nje ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, abantwana bam babukele iiyure ezimbini zeTV phambi kwesidlo sakusasa. Xa sonke sasisempilweni ngokupheleleyo.
Ndiyazi ukuba bubusika ubhubhane kwaye ndizama ukonwabisa abantwana abakhutheleyo abahlala kwindawo ene-1200-square foot, amagumbi amabini esixeko esinegumbi lokulala ngaphandle kweyadi engasemva ... kodwa ngaba ndiyi-monster? Okanye ngaba abantu bachitha iiyure ngexesha lescreen sabo lidityanisiwe ngendlela efanayo abadlala ngayo inani leziselo abazisela ngeveki kumzimba wabo wonyaka?
Ndiqale ukunikela ingqalelo ngakumbi kwiincoko eziqhelekileyo malunga nexesha lesikrini kwaye ndaqaphela ukuba nangona abazali beqhula ngokuphandle malunga nokuba lingakanani ixesha lesikrini abantwana babo abalifumanayo, akukho mntu ukhankanye inani leeyure. Okanye ukuba benzile, inani beliphantsi ngokwenene. Bendiya kubona iposti kaFacebook ethetha into enje, ndigqibile ukuba ngumzali namhlanje. Ndafaka isiqendu ‘sePaw Patrol’ ndaza emva koko ndaya kulala! Um...isiqendu esinye sinemizuzu engama-22 ubude. Xa iveki ende kwaye ndigqibile ukuba ngumzali ngolu suku, ndivula ifilimu ende.
Ndandifuna iimpendulo. Ndiye ndagcwala kwi-Instagram yam. Kuvoto olungekho nzulu lwenzululwazi endilwenzileyo kuMbali wam we-Instagram, abazali bathi abantwana babo bafumana ixesha lesikrini elingakumbi kunokuba bebekhululekile, beqaphela ukuba imali ibiyiyure enye ukuya kwezintathu ngosuku.
Eyona nto yayibangela umdla kum, nangona kunjalo, yayingabazali ababekhaliphile ngokwaneleyo ukuvuma ukuba abantwana babo babukela ngaphezu kweeyure ezintathu zesikrini ngosuku. Abazali abaye bavuma ukuba abantwana babo banqwenela iividiyo ze-unboxing okanye ezirekhodiweyo zabanye abantwana abadlala imidlalo yevidiyo. Omnye umama onesibindi owathi wayishiya iTV ixesha elide ngenye intsasa ethile— ebesazipholele wavuka kancinci -ukuthi yena abantwana uthathe inyathelo lokuqala lokuyicima. Kwaye qikelela ntoni? Akazange azive enetyala kuba ukuphumla okongezelelekileyo kwamenza wasebenza ngakumbi waza wazibandakanya nabantwana ngaloo mini. Khawufan’ ucinge.
Kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, ndidlan' indlebe nengcali yomntwana uGqr. Tovah P. Klein, umbhali we-How Toddlers Thrive kunye nomlawuli we-Barnard College Centre for Toddler Development, kwinqaku endandilibhala. Ukuzama ukwenza udliwano-ndlebe ngefowuni nabantwana abangekaqala ukuya esikolweni endlebeni ngokubanzi kundenza ndibe nexhala elimangalisayo. Bendiya kuzama ukugxila emsebenzini wam ngelixa ndiziqinisa ngehlazo lokulwa kwabantwana basekhaya okanye isicelo sembiza. Ekupheleni kodliwano-ndlebe, uGqr. Klein wathi, Unabantwana? Baphi? Andiva nto.
Ndaqhula, Owu, kungenxa yokuba ndibenze bazinza nge-iPad kunye nomboniso wabo ombi weYouTube.
Ndandilindele ukuhleka kokuqonda, kodwa ndafumana into ebhetele ngakumbi-ukuqinisekiswa.
Nangona kunjalo ukuhlala kwihlabathi elingenalo isikrini kulungile, uGqr. Klein uthe izikrini zinokusebenza njengesixhobo esiyimfuneko sokusinda kwemihla ngemihla. Zezinye zeendlela zethu ezimbalwa zonxibelelwano kunye nokuzonwabisa kwangaphakathi. Uye wandiqinisekisa ukuba ngelixa izikrini zinokuba yinyani yethu yangoku, akufuneki ibe likamva lethu. Njengoko imozulu iphucuka kwaye abantu bayagonywa, iintsapho ziya kuchitha ixesha elininzi ngaphandle-kude nezikrini. Ke akukho mfuneko yoxinzelelo ukuba abantwana bakho bancanyathiselwe okwethutyana kwizikrini (ezinomxholo ovunywe ngumzali) rhoqo kunokuba ungathanda.
Njengoko wayethetha, ndaphantse ndatyhafa ngenxa yolonwabo. Ngaba ndiyakholelwa ukuba ndingayeka ukuziva ndinetyala kumama malunga nexesha lesikrini? Ndaziva ngathi ndifuna umqondiso ovela kwindalo iphela. Ndabona okwesibini Amy Schumer vuma uGqr. Klein ngosuku olulandelayo, ndanikezela ngee-iPads.
Kwezi ntsuku ndizama ngako konke okusemandleni am ukulinganisa phakathi kokusebenza, ukudlala nabantwana bam, ukujikelezisa iithoyi zabo kunye nokuseta. Umntwana oxakekileyo -Imisebenzi yesimbo. Kwaye xa sonke sifuna ikhefu omnye komnye, ndizama ukungaziva ndinetyala ngokusebenzisa izikrini njengesixhobo esiluncedo. Kodwa ndizama ukutshintsha uhlobo lukamabonakude esiwubukelayo xa kunokwenzeka.
Andiwanyanzeli amantombazana ukuba abukele izinto eziphakamileyo zemfundo, kodwa xa ndifumana umboniso onokufundisa kunye nokonwabisa, ndiyawukhuthaza ngokwenene. Ngoko hamba uye Emily’s Wonder Lab eyazisa abantwana bam kwindlela yesayensi kuhlaziyo UMnu. Wizard uhlobo lwendlela. Uthando ku Izzy's Koala Kingdom ngokubonisa umfanekiso wezona critter zithandekayo emhlabeni kunye nentombi emnandi yogqirha wezilwanyana ebakhathaleleyo; iyathomalalisa kwaye iyonwabisa kwaye iyazisa. Kwaye vuyisa Bluey ukunceda bobabini abazali kunye nabantwana basebenzise izakhono zentlalo-ngokweemvakalelo, ukucinga, kunye nokuhleka ukuhamba imini.
Kwaye ezi vidiyo zimbi zikaYouTube zabantwana abangaqhelekanga bedlala ngoonodoli...ndiyabulela kuwe. Ndiyathandabuza ukuba ufundisa abantwana bam nantoni na eluncedo, kodwa uyandivumela ukuba ndisebenze ngoxolo xa kuyimfuneko. Andikwazi ukulinda de ube sesipilini sokujonga ngasemva, kodwa kwangaxeshanye, andazi ukuba besinokusinda njani kobu bhubhane bube bubusika ngaphandle kwakho.
