Lo nyaka ubunzima ebantwaneni. Kwaye ngelixa wena Unokwazi ukuba umntwana wakho uvakalelwa okwesibhakabhaka ngenxa yokuba akakwazanga ukumbamba ugogo okanye abone utitshala wakhe kumntu ngeenyanga, umntwana wakho akanalo isigama sokukuxelela indlela avakalelwa ngayo-eyenza ukujongana neemvakalelo. nangakumbi. Ngena: iitshathi zeemvakalelo. Sacofa ingcali yengqondo uGqr. Annette Nunez ukufumanisa ukuba ezi tshathi zikrelekrele zingakunceda njani nina bantwana ukuba nichonge kwaye nilawule iimvakalelo zabo (nezona zoyikeka ngokwenene).
Yintoni itshati yeemvakalelo?
Itshathi yeemvakalelo yitshati okanye ivili elibhala iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo okanye iimvakalelo. Kukho iinguqulelo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo zale tshati, kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngoobani abaphulaphuli ekujoliswe kubo. Umzekelo, iVeelings Wheel eyenziwe ngu UGqr. Gloria Willcox , ineemvakalelo ezimbalwa ezisisiseko (ezifana nolonwabo kunye nempambano) ezithi ke zinwebe kwezinye iindlela zovakalelo (zithi, zichwayite okanye zinxunguphale) njalo njalo, zikunika ngaphezu kwe-40 iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo onokukhetha kuzo (bona inguqulelo yethu eprintwayo yelivili. ngezantsi). Kungenjalo, unokuba netshathi yeemvakalelo ezilula ngakumbi elungiselelwe abantwana abancinci ebhala nje iimvakalelo ezimbalwa ezisisiseko (unokufumana nomzekelo oprintwayo woku ngezantsi).
Onke amaqela obudala anokungenelwa kwitshathi yeemvakalelo, utsho uGqr. Nunez, esongeza ukuba anokuba luncedo kubantwana abangekaqala ukuya esikolweni ukuya kutsho kumabanga aphakamileyo. Ngeke ufune ukusebenzisa itshathi yeemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ze-40 kumntwana omncinci kuba uphuhliso, abayi kuqonda oko, uyongezelela.
UKaitlyn CollinsItshathi yeemvakalelo ingabanceda njani ngokukodwa abantwana?
Iitshathi zeemvakalelo ziyamangalisa kuba njengabantu abadala siyawazi umahluko phakathi kweemvakalelo ezintsonkothileyo, uchaza uGqr. Nunez. (Ngamanye amazwi, uyazi ukuba xa ubambe umboneleli wakho we-inshurensi ngemizuzu ye-45 ukuba uziva udidekile kwaye ucaphukile). Abantwana, kwelinye icala, abanakukwazi ukuqonda ezo mvakalelo zinzima ngakumbi. Kwaye ukukwazi ukuchonga iimvakalelo ibaluleke kakhulu-njengesakhono sobomi esibalulekileyo, sibalulekile. Kungenxa yokuba abantwana abafunda indlela yokuchonga kunye nokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo ngokufanelekileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba babe novelwano kwabanye, bahlakulele iingxaki ezimbalwa zokuziphatha kwaye babe nomfanekiso omhle kunye nempilo ephilileyo yengqondo. Kwi-flip side, ukuphazamiseka okuza kunye nokungakwazi ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo kunokukhokelela ekuqhumeni kunye nokuphazamiseka.
Oku kukwazi ukuchonga iimvakalelo zakho kubaluleke kakhulu ngoku, utsho uGqr Nunez. Kukho utshintsho oluninzi oluqhubekayo-abantwana abaninzi baziva iintlobo ezininzi zeemvakalelo, ngoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantwana bachonge indlela abaziva ngayo, ngakumbi ukuba sekhaya okanye ukuba seZoom iminxeba kubenza bazive bediniwe okanye benomsindo. okanye udanile okanye ukruqukile. Kwaye nasi esinye isizathu sokuba itshati yeemvakalelo inokuba luncedo ngakumbi, xa kujongwa imeko yangoku: Ukufunda indlela yokuchonga iimvakalelo nako kunokunceda ixhala . Ngo-2010, abaphandi baqhuba a uphononongo kwizifundo zophando ezahlukeneyo ezili-19 ezinabathathi-nxaxheba abangabantwana ukusuka kwi-2 ukuya kwi-18 leminyaka ubudala. Into abayifumeneyo kukuba abantwana abangcono babechonga kwaye babhale iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo, emva koko bambalwa iimpawu zoxinzelelo abazibonakalisileyo.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo: Ukufunda indlela yokuchonga nokuvakalisa iimvakalelo ngendlela eyakhayo kunceda abantwana baphuhlise izakhono abazidingayo ukuze babalawule ngokufanelekileyo.
UKaitlyn CollinsYaye izicangca zeemvakalelo zinokubanceda njani abazali?
Amaxesha amaninzi abantu abadala baya kuyibiza kakubi imvakalelo yomntwana, utsho uGqr. Nunez. Usenokuthi, ‘Owu umntwana wam uziva ekhathazeke ngokwenene,’ ngokomzekelo. Kodwa ke xa ubuza umntwana ukuba, ‘Kuthetha ukuthini ukuxhalaba?’ uya kufumanisa ukuba abanalo nofifi! Itshathi yeemvakalelo okanye yeemvakalelo ngumbono olula onceda umntwana aqonde ukuba ukukhungatheka luhlobo lomsindo. Kwaye ke xa uzisa itshathi yeemvakalelo emntwaneni, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuchonga [imvakalelo ephambili] kwaye emva koko ungaqhubela phambili kwiimvakalelo ezinzima ngakumbi ezifana nokuxhalaba, ukukhungatheka, ukuzingca, ukuvuya, njl.
