Akukho ndlela ilula yokuthetha oku. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uziva ulusizi ngalo lonke ixesha malunga nawe ngenxa yento oyithethileyo okanye oye wayenza, okanye uye waphinda wehlelwa ziziganeko ezingathandekiyo kubo, ngokuqinisekileyo ukubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Okona kubi kakhulu, ubudlelwane obuyityhefu bukwenza uzive ngathi yonke into engathandekiyo eyenzekayo lityala lakho.
Ngokwendalo yabo, ubudlelwane bekufanele ukuba busityebise, buncede ukuba sikhule kwaye sizive ngcono. Amaqabane afana nezibuko ezisinceda ukuba sizijonge ngokucacileyo, sixelele ukuba nini kwaye siphi na kwaye sinceda ukuba sijonge ngcono xa singekho. Hayi ngenye indlela.
Umfanekiso: Shutterstock Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba iimpawu azisakukhwazi eludongeni kodwa zisuka ngaphakathi kwentloko yakho kwaye wenza yonke into ongakwaziyo ukumamela, ujonge kwaye uyazi, uyalazi ixesha lokuhamba.
Ukuphuma kubudlelwane obuyityhefu kunokuba ngomnye wemisebenzi eyoyikisayo, ngakumbi ukuba ukholelwa ukuba uwedwa. Awuwedwa. Kufuneka ufumane umntu ofanelekileyo onokumthemba okanye indawo efanelekileyo yokujonga into ekufuneka uyenzile. Inkxaso isoloko ikude.
Nantsi into enokukunceda ucwangcise inkqubo yakho yokuphuma ngaphandle komthungo.
Inyathelo 1: Thembeka ngenkohlakalo kuwe.
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Zibuze ukuba kutheni ukhetha ukuhlala kwimeko, nto leyo ikushiya uziva umbi ngakumbi kunokuba wawungekho kuyo. Kungcono ukuba wedwa kunokuba uzive unetyala, usoyika, uneentloni kwaye ubekwe ikheswa ngulo mntu ubujonge ukwakha ubuhlobo naye. Naphi na apho uziva usilela kakhulu, nokuba uyayazi okanye awuyazi, yeyona ndawo uziva umbi kakhulu. Ubusoloko womelele ngaphambi nangaphandle kobudlelwane kunokuba unjalo ngoku. Yivume loo nto.
Inyathelo lesi-2: Fumana i-Achilles Heel.
Uninzi lobudlelwane obuyityhefu bunekhonkco emntwini, ngokusekelwe apho loo mntu uvakalelwa kukuba kufuneka ahlale kubudlelwane. Abasetyhini baya kukholelwa ukuba kuxhomekeke kwimali yabo endodeni, okanye ebantwaneni, okanye ibala elibi kakhulu ekuhlaleni. Akukho mntwana ufuna ukukhula ebona iimpawu eziyityhefu zomzali omnye zitshabalalisa amandla obomi bomnye. Akukho sixa semali siya kuba lixabiso elaneleyo ukuze uzixabise. Ukuba awukuvumi oko, ngoku lixesha lokuyeka ukufunda eli nqaku nangakumbi. Ibala lentlalo yindlela yoluntu yokulawula. Ukuguqula oko ngokuziqonda ngokugqithisileyo iintloni zabo, kwaye ukuba kukho imfuneko, yizise ngokufihlakeleyo kwingqwalasela yabo bafuna ukukukhohlisa ngokukoyikisa ekungeniseni into abagqiba kwelokuba ilungile okanye ayilunganga.
Inyathelo lesi-3: Xhagamshelana kwakhona nabadala, iindawo zakho ezisempilweni.
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Ngaphambi kokuba sibe kubudlelwane obuyityhefu, kwakukho iindawo zobomi bethu ezazinganxulumananga, ezazisinika uvuyo olukhulu. Ngalo lonke ithuba, uzincamile ezo. Kukho konke okunokwenzeka, kungenxa yokuba iqabane elinetyhefu livakalise ukuba kufuneka wenjenjalo, ngokuthe ngqo okanye ngokungathanga ngqo. Ngoko nangoko qalisa into ehambisana naloo migca, nokuba ayinabungozi njengokulima, okanye ikhosi ye-intanethi yokufunda ulwimi olutsha, okanye ukufundisa abantwana, okanye ukunceda umntu omdala ngezinto ezisisiseko. Fumana indlela yokufumana ezinye (okanye ezininzi) iindawo ekugxilwe kuzo ezingathathi hlangothi kwaye zinika uvuyo. Zonwaba kwezi.
Inyathelo 4. Kancinci, ngokuthula yakha isiseko ngaphandle kobudlelwane.
Eyodwa onokuthembela kuyo kuso sonke esitsha, isahluko esisempilweni sobomi bakho. Akukho ntloni ngokuba wedwa. Inokuba sisiseko seemvakalelo, eyemali, okanye isiseko somzimba samalungiselelo okuhlala. Kubalulekile ukwenza oku ngokuthe ngcembe, kwaye ungavumeli iqabane elinetyhefu ukuba lazi. Qala ukucwangcisa ngokuzolileyo kwaye kwangaphambi kwexesha, ngosuku oza kuhamba ngalo. Okwangoku, ungenzi nto ukuvumela omnye umntu abone ukuba uceba oku. Enyanisweni, bavumele baqhubeke bekholelwa ukuba basenolawulo olupheleleyo phezu kwakho.
Inyathelo lesi-5: Hamba. Ngokulula, ngokuthe cwaka kwaye ngokukhawuleza.
Umfanekiso: Shutterstock Ungaze ujonge ngasemva. Ungaze ubavumele baqhagamshelane nawe kwaye bakuxelele indlela abazisola ngayo, ukuba baya kwenza nantoni na ukukubuyisela, kwaye baya kutshintsha. Abayi kuyenza. Baya kungqiba, babongoze, bagrogrise, mhlawumbi bade babe ngamazwi, babe nobundlobongela ngokwasenyameni. Yazi nje, ukuba ubundlobongela babo kunye nomnqweno wabo wokukubetha, lingakanani inqanaba labo lokoyikisa ngokupheleleyo kunye nokothuka ngokuphulukana nawe. Bahlala bethembele kuwe ukuba ube yingxowa yokuphambuka kunye ne-punching bag ngenxa yehlazo kunye nenkohlakalo yabo, ekuza kufuneka bajongane nayo bodwa. Yilumkele oku, kwaye ujongane nayo ngokuzimeleyo.
Ukuba unokwenza oku, akukho sizathu sokuba ungabi nayo indlela ngokuthe ngcembe yokuphilisa yonke intwana yentliziyo yakho eyifaneleyo.
