Uloyiko lwethu luyanda ngakumbi kunesiqhelo kwezi ntsuku, kodwa oomama, ngakumbi, abanqongophala ngamaxhala kwiimvakalelo zabo-ubhubhane okanye hayi. Umbhali othengisa kakhulu kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi (kunye nomama oselula) uGabrielle Bernstein unendlela yokuzikhathalela yena ngokwakhe. Kwisiqendu samva nje se-podcast yosapho Mama uBrain , ephethwe nguDaphne Oz kunye noHilaria Baldwin, uBernstein wabelane ngamaqhinga akhe okunqumama, ukubonakalisa kunye, kakuhle, ukuphefumla ngexesha lokuvalelwa.
1. Ibangelwe yi-COVID-19? Zama 'Ukubamba Intliziyo' okanye 'Ukubamba Ngentloko'
UHilaria Baldwin: Ngendingayithethi le nto ukuba ibingekho, kodwa umyeni wam uneminyaka engama-35 enxilile. Kwaye yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bethu. Ubethetha nam kakhulu malunga nokuba unzima kangakanani [ubhubhane] kubantu abasebenza nzima bezolile kwaye bezabalaza kuba iyoyikeka nyani ngoku. Abantu babodwa. Ubomi bahluke kakhulu. Abantu baphelelwe yimisebenzi. Ngawaphi amacebiso kunye namaqhinga kunye nezixhobo onokuxhobisa ngazo abantu ababandezelekileyo?
UGabrielle Bernstein: Kumalunga nokuzilawula. Xa siziva singalawuleki, sibuyela kwiipatheni zokukhobokisa. Andicebisi nangayiphi na indlela ukuba umntu osele enxilile oneminyaka engama-35 uyokuthatha isiselo. Akanguye. Kodwa usenokuba wenza umdlalo ngokutya okanye udlala nomabonwakude okanye enye into. Kodwa ayinguye kuphela, ngumntu wonke. Nditsho nabantu abangazazisi ukuba ngamakhoboka. Xa siziva singalawuleki, sisebenzisa ezinye izinto-ukutya, isondo, i-porn, nantoni na-ukwenza i-anesthetize oko kuphazamiseka kunye naloo mvakalelo yokungakhuselekanga. Kulapho izixhobo ezizilawulayo zokhuseleko zingena khona.
Into elula kukubamba. Kukho ukubamba intliziyo kunye nokubamba intloko. Kuba intliziyo ibambe, ubeka isandla sakho sasekhohlo entliziyweni yakho kunye nesandla sakho sasekunene phezu kwesisu sakho kwaye unokuvala amehlo akho okomzuzwana. Emva koko, phefumlela ngokunzulu kunye nokuphefumla, wandise i-diaphragm yakho kwaye kwi-exhale uyivumele ukuba ifinyeze. Ukuphefumlela ngaphandle. Exhale ngaphakathi. Njengoko uqhubeka nalo mjikelo wokuphefumla, thetha izinto ezithambileyo nezothando kunye novelwano kuwe. Ndikhuselekile. Konke kulungile. Ukuphefumla ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Ndinomphefumlo wam. Ndinalo ukholo lwam. Ndikhuselekile. Ndikhuselekile. Ndikhuselekile. Thatha nje umoya wokugqibela kwaye uvule amehlo akho, emva koko uyeke loo moya uhambe.
Unokwenza ukubamba intloko apho isandla sakho sasekhohlo sisentliziyweni yakho kwaye isandla sakho sasekunene sisentlokweni yakho. Olu lubambelelo olukhulu lokhuseleko ngokunjalo. Yenza into efanayo. Phefumla nje ixesha elide kwaye unzulu okanye utsho Ndikhuselekile okanye umamele ingoma epholileyo kuwe okanye umamele ukucamngca. Inokunceda ngokwenene.
Ndikwangumlandeli omkhulu weEmotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Ngokwesiseko i-acupuncture idibana nonyango. Indlela elula yokuzama ngokwakho kukucofa phakathi kwepinky kunye nomnwe weringi. Kukho le ngongoma apho kwaye la manqaku avuselela ingqondo yakho kunye nala ma-meridians amandla ukukhulula uloyiko olungenangqondo olunzulu, uxinzelelo, ukuxhalaba-nokuba yintoni na. Ngoko ke, xa uqaphela ukuba uhlaselwa yi-panic attack okanye ukhululekile kwaye uziva ungalawuleki, khomba kule ndawo phakathi komnwe wakho we-pinky kunye nomnwe wakho womsesane kwaye kwakhona, sebenzisa loo mantra efanayo. Ndikhuselekile, ndikhuselekile, ndikhuselekile.
2. Ukuba oko akusebenzi, zama iTekhnoloji ebizwa ngokuba 'yiRage kwiPhepha'
Bernstein: Oku kusekelwe ngokwenene kwiimfundiso ze UGqr. UJohn Sarno owabhala kakhulu malunga nendlela iimeko zethu zomzimba ezingokwengqondo. I-'Rage on the Page' practice ilula. Xa ndiyenza, ndidlala umculo wamazwe amabini, ovuselela macala omabini engqondo yakho. Ungaya kuYouTube okanye iTunes okanye Spotify ukuze uyifumane. Emva koko, ndicaphuka imizuzu engama-20. Ithetha ntoni le nto? Ndizibekela ixesha, ndicime ukuringer kwefowuni yam, ndicime zonke izaziso kwaye ndiyacaphuka ngokoqobo kwiphepha. Ndiyayikhupha. Ndibhala yonke into engqondweni yam: Ndiyacaphuka le meko. Ndiyazicaphukela. Andikholelwa ukuba ndiyithethile loo nto kuloo fowuni. Iyandikhathaza into yokuba ndiyityile loo nto. Ndiyacaphuka ngazo zonke iindaba eziqhubekayo. Ndivele ndaphambana. Umsindo kwiphepha . Xa imizuzu engama-20 iphelile, ndiye ndivale amehlo am—ndisaphulaphule umculo wamazwe amabini—ndiye ndizivumele ukuba ndiphumle. Emva koko, ndiya kwenza ukucamngca imizuzu engama-20.
Uninzi loomama bayayiva le nto kwaye bacinge, bajike, andinayo imizuzu engama-40! Yenze ixesha elide kangangoko unako. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ngumsindo kwiphepha lephepha. Nokuba unokwenza imizuzu emihlanu yokucamngca emva koko, kulungile. Injongo kukuchitha ixesha ulahla uloyiko lwakho lwe-sub-conscious. Ngenxa yokuba xa singaphandle kolawulo kwaye sifuna ukubuyela kwiipatheni zokulutha, asizange siqhubekisele izinto ezingenangqondo eziza kuthi. Kwaye sonke sidiniwe ngoku. Onke amanxeba ethu obuntwana avuselelwa. Lonke uloyiko esinalo lokuziva singakhuselekanga luyaxhokonxa.
UDaphne Oz: Ngaba uncoma 'ukugquma kwiphepha' into yokuqala ekuseni? Okanye ngaphambi kokulala?
Bernstein: Ngokuqinisekileyo kungekhona ngaphambi kokulala ngenxa yokuba awufuni ukuzivuselela. Ngaphambi kokulala malunga nokuhlamba okanye a yoga nidra , olukukucamngca ubuthongo. Ndithanda ukucaphuka kwiphepha ngo-1. kuba xa umntwana wam elele. Ngoko ke, ndithatha loo 40 imizuzu ngoko. Kodwa unokwenza kusasa kanye xa uvuka, kwakhona, kuba kuthetha ukuba kuhlanjululwe. Fumana yonke loo nto ingaphantsi komsindo kunye noloyiko kunye nexhala kunye ne-angst ngaphandle, emva koko uqale usuku lwakho.
Olu dliwano-ndlebe luhleliwe lwaza lwacuthwa ukuze lucace. Ukufumana okungakumbi kuGabrielle Bernstein, mamela ukubonakala kwakhe mva nje kwipodcast yethu , ‘Ubuchopho bukaMama,’ kunye noHilaria Baldwin noDaphne Oz kwaye ubhalise ngoku.
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