UReshma Qureshi wayeneminyaka eli-17 kuphela xa umlanya wakhe wangaphambili wamgalela iasidi ebusweni. Noko ke, akazange avume ukuba eso siganeko silawule ikamva lakhe. Wabelana ngohambo lwakhe noFemina.
'Ndandingafumani unyango kangangeeyure ezine. Mna nosapho lwam saya kwizibhedlele ezibini ukuze sifumane unyango olukhawulezileyo kodwa sajikiswa ngenxa yokungabikho koMLILO. Singakwazi kuzinceda yaye sifuna uncedo olungxamisekileyo, saya kwisikhululo samapolisa, yaye okwalandelayo yaba kukuncinwa iiyure ezininzi—ngalo lonke elo xesha ubuso bam babutshisa ngenxa yeasidi. Kulapho ndaqala khona ukugabha, apho ipolisa elinobubele lasinceda ukuba siqalise iinkqubo zonyango. Noko ke, ngelo xesha ndandingasenamehlo. U-Reshma Qureshi ubalisa ngentlungu ebuhlungu yena nosapho lwakhe ababephantsi kwayo kwimizuzu emva kokuba usibali wakhe, u-Jamaluddin, emgalele ngeasidi ebusweni nge-19 kaMeyi ka-2014.
Le ndoda ineminyaka engama-22 ubudala yashiya ikhaya (e-Allahabad) kunye nodade uGulshan kwi-tow ngosuku lwentlekele. Ngelixa wayeza kuvela kuviwo luka-Alimah, lo mva wayengxamele ukuya kwisikhululo samapolisa njengoko amapolisa ayefumene apho akhoyo unyana wakhe owayexhwilwe ngumyeni wakhe wangaphambili, uJamaluddin (aba babini babeqhawule umtshato kuphela. kwiiveki ezimbalwa ngaphambi kwesiganeko). Kungekudala emva koko, i-duo yamkelwa nguJamaluddin, owafika kwindawo kunye nezihlobo ezimbini. Bebona ingozi, aba dade bazama ukusaba, kodwa uReshma wabanjwa waza watsalwa phantsi. Wagalela iasidi ebusweni bam. Ndiyakholelwa, usisi wam wayejongwe kodwa, ngelo xesha, ndahlaselwa, utsho.
Ngephanyazo, umhlaba wakhe wawuwohlokile. Ngeli-17 kuphela ngelo xesha, esi siganeko asizange simkhathaze nje ngokwasemzimbeni kodwa nasengqondweni. Intsapho yakowethu yayilihlwili, yaye nodade wethu wayesoloko ezigxeka ngokundehleleyo. Kwiinyanga emva konyango, xa ndazibona esipilini, andizange ndiqaphele intombazana emi apho. Kwakubonakala ngathi ubomi bam buphelile. Ndazama ukuzibulala izihlandlo ezininzi; ixhala, amalungu osapho lwam batshintshisana ukuba ndibe nam 24*7, uyachaza.
Eyona nto yayenza yambi le meko lutyekelo loluntu lokugxeka nokuhlazisa uReshma ngale ntlekele. Wayebufihla ubuso bakhe ngenxa yokungakhathali kwabantu. Ndandijongene nemibuzo enjengale, ‘Kwakutheni ukuze akuhlasele ngeasidi? Wenze ntoni?’ okanye ‘Ihlwempu, ngubani na oya kulitshata.’ Ngaba abafazi abangatshatanga abanalo ikamva? uyabuza.
U-Reshma uyavuma ukuba owona mceli mngeni mkhulu kumaxhoba ohlaselo lwe-asidi kukubekwa ibala eluntwini. Kuye kunyanzeleke ukuba bazifihle ngaphaya kweengcango ezivaliweyo kuba kumaxesha amaninzi, abenzi bobubi baziwa ngabo. Ngokwenyani, njengamatyala odlwengulo, inani eliphezulu lohlaselo lweasidi alide lifikelele kwiifayile zamapolisa. Amaxhoba amaninzi anikezela kukwenzakala kwawo ngaphambi kokuba kufakwe i-FIRs, kwaye izikhululo zamapolisa ezininzi ezilalini ziyala ukubhala ulwaphulo-mthetho kuba amaxhoba aqhelene nabahlaseli bawo.
Kwakumalunga neli xesha apho Yenza Uthando Lungabikho Izikrweqe, ingeniso engenzi nzuzo ehlaziya abasindileyo kuhlaselo lweasidi pan India, yeza njengentsikelelo ngokufihlakeleyo. Baye bancedisa ngemali kutyando lwakhe kwaye kutsha nje, uye wenziwa ukwakhiwa kwamehlo eLos Angeles. I-NGO, kunye nosapho lwam, yayiyeyona nkqubo yenkxaso inkulu ngamaxesha obunzima. Andikwazi ukubabulela ngokwaneleyo ngayo yonke into, utsho. Namhlanje, oneminyaka engama-22 ubudala bubuso be-Make Love Not Scars, kwaye i-CEO yayo, u-Tania Singh uye wanceda u-Reshma ukuba abhale imemori yakhe- Ukuba nguReshma , eyakhutshwa kunyaka ophelileyo. Ngencwadi yakhe, ujolise ekufundiseni abantu abasindileyo kuhlaselo lweasidi. Abantu bayalibala ubuso emva kweentlekele esifunda ngazo yonke imihla. Ndiyathemba ukuba incwadi yam ikhuthaza abantu ukuba balwe ngamaxesha abo anzima, kwaye baqonde ukuba eyona nto imbi kakhulu iyaphela.
UReshma uye wafaka isikhalazo ngakubophuli, kwaye ityala lisaqhuba. Omnye wabo wanikwa isigwebo esithambileyo ekubeni wayeselula (17) ngethuba kusenzeka esi siganeko. Ukhululwe kunyaka ophelileyo. Nam ndandineminyaka eli-17 ubudala. Ndiphuma njani kwimeko endandibekwe kuyo? utsho. Ixhoba lixoxa ngelithi ngelixa imithetho ekhusela amaxhoba ohlaselo lwe-asidi ikhona, ukuphunyezwa ngumngeni. Kufuneka sityale imali kwiintolongo ezininzi nakwiinkundla ezikhawulezayo. Ukusilela kumatyala kukhulu kangangokuba akukho mzekelo umiselwa abenzi bobubi. Xa kukho uloyiko lwesiphumo, aboni baya kucinga kabini ngaphambi kokuba benze ulwaphulo-mthetho. E-Indiya, amatyala aqhubeka iminyaka, abaphuli-mthetho baphuma ngebheyile kwaye bakhululwa kwangoko ukuze bakhulule amabanjwa amatsha, ucacisa uReshma.
Sele kudlule iminyaka emihlanu luhlaselo, kwaye namhlanje, uReshma uzibophelele ekufundiseni abo bamngqongileyo ngesi senzo simanyumnyezi kunye nesiphumo esisithathayo kwabo basindileyo. Umzamo wakhe wokufikelela unobangela wamfumana ithuba lokuhamba umgaqo weenqwelo-moya kwiVeki yefashoni yaseNew York ngo-2016, nto leyo eyamenza waba lixhoba lokuqala lokuhlaselwa kweasidi ukwenza oko. Iinkumbulo zeqonga, uReshma uyavuma, ziya kuhlala zihleli entliziyweni yakhe. Imodeli ifanele ukuba igqibelele-intle, ibhityile kwaye ide. Ndihambe eyona ndlela inkulu nangona ndisinde kuhlaselo lweasidi, kwaye oko kwandibonisa ukomelela kwenkalipho namandla obuhle bokwenyani, utsho.
U-Reshma ungumbhali, imodeli, i-anti-acid campaigner, ubuso be-NGO, kunye nosindileyo kwi-acid-attack. Kwiminyaka ezayo, unqwenela ukuba ngumdlali weqonga. Ukujongana nentlekele kunokuthatha yonke inkalipho yakho, kodwa umntu kufuneka akhumbule ukuba kwenye indawo kwixesha elizayo yimihla apho uya kuhleka kwakhona, iintsuku apho uya kuyilibala intlungu yakho, iintsuku apho uya kuvuya ukuba usaphila. Iya kuza, kancinci kwaye kabuhlungu, kodwa uya kuphila kwakhona, uqukumbela ngelithi.
