Iintsana ziqala nini ukuncuma? Ngelixa abanye bedanyaza uncumo esibelekweni, usana oluqhelekileyo luqhekeka i-grin ngokunxulumene nentshukumo yeemvakalelo (ebizwa ngokuba luncumo lwasentlalweni) malunga neenyanga ezimbini. Sekunjalo, ngokutsho kukaGqr. Dyan Hes, umalathisi wezonyango we Gramercy Pediatrics kwisiXeko saseNew York, inokwenzeka kwangoko kwiiveki ezintandathu.
Kodwa ziziphi izizathu zoncumo? Yaye yintoni onokuyenza ukuze ubakhuthaze? Siye sajongana no Dr. Hes for the hows, whats and whys of bringing on a happy face. Nantsi into esiyifundileyo.
Xa Abazali banokulindela ukubona uncumo lwabo lokuqala loluntu
Ukuzihlangula kuGqr. Hes phambi kokuba singene ngaphakathi: Akukho nkqubela phambili ibekwe ematyeni. Uninzi lweentsana ziyancuma xa zigqiba iinyanga ezimbini ubudala, utshilo. Kodwa ezinye iintsana zinokuba noncumo lwasentlalweni kwiiveki ezintandathu kwaye abanye banokuluphuhlisa xa kufutshane neenyanga ezintathu. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci akaluboni uncumo kanye kumanqaku eenyanga ezimbini, ungakhathazeki. Yonke into iyahluka, kuxhomekeke kumntwana.
Ungawuchaza njani umahluko phakathi koncumo olukwintlalontle xa luthelekiswa nolulo lwe-reflex (imeko enerhasi)? Uncumo lwasentlalweni ludla ngokuphendula ngokuthe ngqo kwinto ethile. Khawutsho, ukufunda incwadi yebhodi ehlekisayo. Okanye utshintsho oluphezulu lwe-diaper. Ukuba umntwana wakho osandula ukuzalwa uyancuma ngokunxibelelene naloo nto-impembelelo yangaphandle-yinyani. (Kwanombono kamama wabo unokuvusa intsini.) Uya kukwazi kwakhona kuba uya kubona amehlo abo ekhanya. Nakwiintsana ezisanda kuzalwa, kukho unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo olubonakala kakhulu xa ludanyaza uncumo lokwenyani.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba uncumo lufutshane kwaye alukhethi-okanye lwenzeka ngelixa belele-kunokwenzeka ukuba kube yinto elula. Ngaphambi kweenyanga ezimbini ubudala, ezinye iintsana ziba neentsizi okanye uncumo lwamandulo. Oku kusenokuba kukudlula kwerhasi, uGqr. Hes uyacacisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo akukho njongo yentlalontle ngolu ncumo kwaye abanakuphinda bafuneke kwakhona xa befuna. (Uncumo lwasentlalweni luqhele ukuphinda-phindwa ngalo mzuzu xa uphinda wenza into efanayo.)
Nantsi into eqhubekayo ngoPhuhliso lomntwana wakho okokuqala bencuma
NgokukaGqr. Hes, le mpumelelo yindlela yabo yokunxibelelana. Iintsana zikonwabela ukujonga ubuso bakho ngokusondeleyo kwaye zizama ukutolika intetho yakho, utshilo. Xa usana luncuma, lusabela kuvuselelo olulujikelezileyo kwaye luyaqonda ukuba lufumana iimvakalelo ezonwabileyo kumntu omdala xa lusenza, ngoko lufunda ukulwenza kwakhona.
Yinto engunobangela kunye nesiphumo. Umntwana wakho uyaqonda ukuba uncumo yindlela yokusebenzisana nabanye. UGqr. Hes wongezelela ngelithi: Yindlela yabo yokunxibelelana ngaphandle kokukhala.
Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze ufumane uncumo kuMntwana wakho
Eyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza ukukhuthaza abantwana ukuba bancume kukuthetha nabo. Isikhumbuzo esivela kuGqr. Hes: Iintsana ziyakwazi ukubona i-intshi ezili-10 ukuya kwezi-12 ukusuka ebusweni babo ngeli xesha, ngoko kulungile ukuba nantoni na oyenzayo ukwenza uncumo lwakho oluncinci lwenzeka ngokusondeleyo.
Kwakhona, njengomama kunye notata, ukwindawo ephambili xa kufikwa ekufumaneni i-grin. Iintsana zidla ngokubancumela abazali bazo phambi kwabantu ezingabaziyo nezingekakhululeki kunye nabo, utsho uGqr. Hes. (Ekugqibeleni, baya kube betshintshiselana ngee-grins nabantu abangabaziyo, nabo-nangona oko kuya kufikelela esiphelweni okwethutyana xa bebetha inqanaba lengozi yabangamaziyo malunga neenyanga ezintandathu.)
Elinye iqhinga kukusebenzisa amabinzana azibaxayo ngokwakho. Ngamanye amazwi, yiyani nonke kuloo ncwadi idlale ngokugqithisileyo okanye ukucula iingoma. Kwaye akubuhlungu ukubonisa indlebe yakho-endlebeni xa kukho into eyolisayo wena.
Unokufumana umzimba kunye nosana lwakho olusanda kuzalwa. Cinga: ukuvuthela iraspberry ukwanga esiswini sakhe okanye ukumbetha phezulu naphantsi. Ukudlala i-peekaboo yenye indlela ezamayo kunye nenyani yokubona uncumo. Okanye linganisa ingxolo yezilwanyana ngelixa ubambe ithoyi yakhe ethandwayo okanye into yokudlala ayithandayo. I-sillier, ingcono, kunjalo.
Ngexesha ebetha iinyanga ezine ezinesiqingatha ukuya kwezintlanu, uncumo lwakhe luya kuza nokuhleka kwesisu esikhulu, naye.
Xa Unexhala Lokuba Umntwana Wakho Akancumi
Ukuba uphumelele uphawu lweenyanga ezintathu kwaye umntwana wakho akakancumi, kuyafaneleka ukuba uqhagamshelane nogqirha wabantwana ukuze ubazise, utsho uGqr. Hes. Kodwa, kwakhona, ukuba akwenzeki ngamanqaku eenyanga ezimbini, nika umntwana wakho igumbi lokushukuma. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, la maxesha luqikelelo nje.
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