Akukho nto ityhala amaqhosha abazali njengesandi somntwana omncinci ohlalisa ihuku eqinileyo yasekhohlo kwaye…kwimizuzwana emihlanu kamva… Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqalise ukukhangela i-smackdown yabo elandelayo, cinga ezi mpikiswano ngokuchasene (soloko) nokungenelela.
ENXULUMENEYO: Ungayeka njani ukulwa neqabane lakho phambi kwabantwana
monkeybusinessimages/getty iamgesUngquzulwano lubasa ubuchule bokuyila
Ubhala iYunivesithi yasePennsylvania unjingalwazi wolawulo kunye nengqondo UAdam Grant ungene INew York Times : Isakhono...ukuba nengxoxo entle engabi yeyobuqu ibalulekile ebomini. Kodwa yileyo abazali abambalwa abayifundisa abantwana babo. Sifuna ukunika abantwana ikhaya elizinzileyo, ngoko ke siyabanqanda abantakwethu ekuxabaneni kwaye sineengxabano zethu emva kweminyango evaliweyo. Nangona kunjalo ukuba abantwana abaze bavezwe ekungavisisani, siya kuphelela ekunciphiseni ubuchule babo. Ukwenza ityala labo, ukuthetha-thethana, ukuyekelela, ukuthatha uxanduva-kukho izakhono zobomi ezizuzwa ngokulahla igumbi lokuhlala. Kwaye musa ukuziva unetyala kakhulu malunga (ngokusempilweni) ukuthengisa izinto kunye neqabane lakho ngaphakathi kweendlebe zabaphulaphuli abancinci. UGrant ucaphula a funda enxulumanisa ngokuthe ngqo ubuchule bokudala babantu abadala kunye nokukhulela kumakhaya angavisisaniyo: Iziphumo zatyhila ukuba ungquzulwano lwabazali lwalunxulumene kakhulu nenqanaba lamva labantu abadala lokuyila.
Imifanekiso Yabantu/Imifanekiso kaGettyUkusombulula iingxabano zabo kwenza abantwana bazimele
Iingcali zengqondo zithethelela *zolile* ukubandakanyeka ukuba imilo yabantwana inyukela kwinqanaba lobundlobongela. Kodwa iblogi yobuzali kunye nomama wamakhwenkwe amane uMelissa L. Fenton ulumkisa ngongenelelo lwamadolo. Yena uzisa phezulu oku isithuba sentsholongwane njengomzekelo wokulamla i-run amok: andinalo ixesha lokuququzelela unyango lomdaniso womntakwethu (kwaye ukuba nabani na ungowokuqala kumgca wokufumana unyango apha kuya kuba njalo. I ), uyabhala. Ubomi bokwenyani abunjalo, apho sinongenelelo lonyango imini yonke, kwaye okukhona abantwana bam besazi ngokukhawuleza ukuba kufuneka bafunde izakhono zokulungisa iiyantlukwano zokwenyani, ngcono...Andifuni ukuba abantwana bam basoloko bexhomekeke mna, okanye umntu wesithathu, ukuququzelela uxolelwaniso.
skynesher / Getty imifanekisoUkulwa kubalungiselela ibala lokudlala...
Abantwana abaqhele ukuxambulisana abothuki xa bethobela xa bejamelene nongquzulwano. Ukuba asifane sibone amakhenkce, sifunda ukuphepha isoyikiso songquzulwano, ubhala uGrant. Ukungqina iingxoxo-kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kuzo-kusinceda sikhule ulusu olutyebileyo... Akukho xesha lingcono kunobuntwana lokufunda indlela yokuyitya-kwaye uyithathe. Kwaye akukho mchasi ungcono wokuziqhelanisa, iingcali zengqondo zithi, kunabantakwethu.
Imifanekiso Yabantu/Imifanekiso kaGetty…kwaye ubalungiselele impumelelo yomsebenzi
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