Kulungile, ulibize kakubi igama likaKamala Harris kanye. Akukho ngxaki-iyenzeka. Usekela mongameli wada wenza i ukuya ngephulo lakhe lokufundisa abantu indlela yokubiza igama lakhe. ( Nd : Kubizwa ngokuba yi-Comma-Lah). Ngoku, unokuqengqeleka amehlo ubuze, Ngaba yinto enkulu ngokwenene? Spoiler Alert: Ewe. Ewe yiyo. Nasi isizathu sokuba kubalulekile ukwenza konke okusemandleni akho ukubiza igama likaKamala Harris-kunye nazo zonke I-BIPOC amagama aloo nto—ngokuchanekileyo.
1. Uh, ungusekela mongameli waseUnited States
Kubekho ama-48 abongameli baseMelika ngaphambi kweHarris. Sikwazile ukubiza amagama kaJoe Biden, uDick Cheney kunye no-Al Gore ngokuchanekileyo ngokulula. Kutheni le nto kunzima ukutsho ngokuchanekileyo uKamala? Ngaba inokuba nento yokwenza nento yokuba uHarris akangomfazi kuphela kodwa ngumfazi wemibala? Uyabheja. Sibonisa: I-double standard. Sinemvakalelo yokuba ungawabiza amagama afana noTimothee Chalamet, URenee Zellweger kunye namagama abalinganiswa abayintsomi abanjengoDaenerys Targaryen. Ke unako, kwaye kufuneka, ufunde indlela yokuthetha igama lomnye wawona manani abalulekileyo emhlabeni, usekela-mongameli wase-United States.
2. Idlulela ngaphaya kweKamala Harris
Abantu abaninzi abazami ukubiza kakubi igama lomntu. Kodwa xa ungathathi amanyathelo okuzilungisa, uxelela ihlabathi, Jonga, eli gama linzima, kwaye andinakukhathazeka ukuliqonda. Oku kungafuni ukwenza okulungileyo ngusekela mongameli wase-United States kubonisa ukuba awukwazi nokufumana yena igama lilungile, kutheni ungakhathala nge-BIPOC yemihla ngemihla ebomini bakho okanye nabanye abantu abadumileyo (abanje ngo-Uzoamaka Aduba, Hasan Minaj, Mahershala Ali okanye Quvenzhane Wallis)?
3. I-microaggression eyingozi
Heyi, ucalucalulo lwakho luyabonakala. Ukuba ukhe wathetha into enje, ndiza kukubiza ngokuba nguXYZ 'kumntu onemibala okanye ugqibe kwelokuba unamathele ekubizeni amagama ngendlela engeyiyo kuba kunzima kakhulu ukwenza ngenye indlela, ubonisa ukuba-ngokunokwenzeka ngokungazi. —jonga lo mntu njengomnye okanye ngaphantsi. Oku yi microaggression , ehlazisa i-BIPOC ukuba ithule okanye ilungise amagama abo ukuze afaneleke.
Kwaye ayisiyombono yethu nje ethobekileyo. Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu banemibono kunye nokucalula amagama athile nangaphambi kokuba umntu afumane ithuba lokuzazisa. Ngokutsho kwe IZiko leSizwe loPhando lwezoQoqosho , abantu abanamagama 'abaNtsundu' babefumana ubunzima obungakumbi bokufumana umsebenzi okanye ukufowunelwa kunabantu abanamagama 'abamhlophe.'
Kwaye kwinqanaba lomntu, unokuba wenzakalisa abantu kwisangqa sakho. Xa ufowunela uKamala Harris Ka-MAH-lah nasemva kokuba ulungisiwe, ubonisa abantu abakungqongileyo ukuba nomntu onentlonipho negunya njengalo mntu ukhoyo kwi-ofisi yosekela-mongameli ungaphantsi ngenxa yenkcubeko yakhe. okanye umbala wolusu. Ngaloo ndlela, usenokuba uyalela abo bakungqongileyo ukuba kananjalo phatha abantu bebala ngentlonipho encinci okanye ufundise abantu bebala kwinqanaba lakho lempembelelo ukuba abayifanelanga intlonipho yakho.
Kulungile, singenza ngcono njani?
Ilizwi elinye: Buza. Eyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kukunxibelelana kwaye ubuze imibuzo efanelekileyo. Asinakukwazi ukwenza izithuba eziqukayo ukuba asithatheli ngqalelo ucalucalulo olungekho zingqondweni olujikeleze amagama abantu. Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uziqwalasele:
- Buza umntu ukuba alibize njani igama lakhe. Qala ngokuthi, 'Uxolo. Ndifuna ukuyilungisa. Ulibiza njani igama lakho?' okanye 'Ungathanda ndilibize njani igama lakho?' Inokwenza umntu azive equkiwe yaye ehlonelwa. Uthatha inyathelo lokuqala lokubiza umntu ngegama lakhe. Ukuba bakhululekile, bacele ukuba bayicazulule ngefonetiki kwaye baphulaphule ngenyameko indlela abathetha ngayo.
- Kulungile ukubuza kwakhona. Udibene naloo mntu kanye kwaye akazange ubabone enye inyanga. Kulungile ukubuza indlela yokubiza amagama abo kwakhona. 'Ngaba akunangxaki ukuphinda indlela olibiza ngayo igama lakho kwakhona?' Ibazisa ukuba ufuna ukubiza amagama ngendlela eyiyo. Kulungile ukucela uxolo okanye ukwazisa umntu ukuba wenze impazamo kodwa uzimisele ukufunda.
- Musa ukuwahlalutya kakhulu amagama abo. Musa ukuphatha umntu njengengcinga ephuma kweli hlabathi. OoNo-nos abakhulu baquka, 'Lisuka phi elo gama?' 'Ligama elingaqhelekanga. Ndiyayithanda.' 'Utsho njani umphathi wakho, abahlobo okanye umama wakho? Kunzima kakhulu.' Ayibonakali ifuna ukwazi, ifika njengeyahlukanisayo kwaye ibenza bazive njengabanye.
- Musa ukunika igama lesiteketiso. Nceda ungathwali uxanduva lokubiza umntu ngelinye igama okanye isiteketiso (ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe). Ubuya kuziva njani ukuba umntu uqala nje ukukubiza ngegama elahluke ngokupheleleyo kuba engafuni ukufunda elakho?
Sonke siyazenza iimpazamo, kodwa asinako ukuzihoya iimpembelelo ezimbi zokungabizi kakuhle amagama e-BIPOC. Amagama anentsingiselo, ubuni kunye nesithethe, kwaye kufuneka siyihloniphe loo nto nokuba ibonakala yahluke kakhulu kwindlela esiqonda ngayo.
Ke ewe, nguSekela Mongameli uKamala (Comma-lah) Harris.
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