Uluvo lwakhe lukaSeth Rogen lukwenza uhleke, kwaye isisu sakho siyajika xa ethumela imiyalezo. Kodwa, ezinye izinto zikwenze waphakamisa ishiya: Urhoxa kakhulu xa ubuza nge ex yakhe. Khona wavele wakhupha amehlo xa usithi unemini exakekileyo? Iyacaphukisa? Ewe. Ubudlelwane iiflegi ezibomvu? Ingayiyo. (KULUNGILE, isilumkiso somonakalisi: Ewe.) Funda kuluhlu lwethu olupheleleyo lweeflegi ezibomvu ezimele zenze ukuba ubalekele iinduli.
1. Banemisebenzi engxamisekileyo rhoqo
Ukurhoxisa umhla ngomzuzu wokugqibela akulunganga, kodwa sinokuyivumela ukuba islayidi ngenxa yonxunguphalo lomsebenzi. Kodwa ngaphezu kwentlekele enye eofisini? Oko kukrokrela kancinci. Abanye abantu bazifihla emva kwemiba yomsebenzi xa kukho ukungavisisani malunga nobudlelwane obutsha, utsho iTherapist yobudlelwane UIrina Okokuqala . Ivakala iqhelekile? Buza inqaku elingenanto ukuba umba emsebenzini usemthethweni okanye ukuba bazama ukukuphepha. Ngaba awuyithandi impendulo yabo? Ixesha lokujonga kwakhona olu budlelwane.
2. Bathetha kamnandi ngezinye iintsuku
Ukuthandana kunzima, akukho nto ijikelezayo. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha kuye kubonakale ngaphezulu kweMartini inombolo yesibini ukuba akukho chemistry. Kodwa umntu ongenanto ngaphandle kwezinto ezimbi anokuzithetha ngaye wonke umntu owakhe wambona ubonisa ukuba abazibeki xanduva ngendima yabo kule mihla, oko kukuthi, uyiqikelele, iflegi enkulu ebomvu.
3. Bayayeka ukulala nawe
Ukuba nobabini benilala ngesondo kwaye ngequbuliso anikho, kukho into enokwenzeka. Utshintsho olungalindelekanga kwindlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo lunokuthetha okuthile okanye umntu ulahla iqabane lakho, utshilo u-Firstein. Okunye ukubamba, okufana nokubamba ngesandla, kubalulekile. Kodwa xa kufikwa kubudlelwane obusondeleyo bomzimba, utshintsho olubonakalayo kubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo luphawu olukhulu lwengxaki.
4. Ukuba unemihla emine kwaye baphosa ilizwi le-L kuwe
Ukuba sothandweni yinto emnandi, kwaye ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nikhona kwangethuba, ke kudos kuwe. Kodwa ukuba uneentsuku ezimbalwa kwaye zihamba ngesantya se-warp ngelixa usafumana unyawo lwakho, kukho into ephezulu. Uxolo ukuyithetha, kodwa njengoko u-Firstein esitsho, unokuba ngumphindi.
5. Baziphepha iincoko ezingathandekiyo
Awunakulindela ukwakha ubuhlobo nomntu ophambukisa iincoko ezinzulu-umz., Siyintoni? thetha. Abantu abangafuniyo ukunxibelelana malunga nemeko yobudlelwane babo ngokuqhelekileyo abafuni ukuba nobudlelwane bokwenyani.
6. Bazama ukukutshintsha
Nabani na okunyanzelela kuyo nantoni na—enoba incinane, njengokucheba iinwele zakho okanye ukunxiba iziketi ezimfutshane, okanye ezinkulu, njengokuchitha ixesha elincinane nabahlobo bakho nosapho—uyakulawula. Iqabane lakho kufuneka lithandana nawe kuba lithanda wena , hayi inguqulelo yakho abazama ukuyenza.
7. Bazingca
Uya kwisidlo sazo sasemsebenzini kwaye uye kubona usapho lwabo ngeeholide—ude ulungiselele isidlo kwaye ucoce ubumdaka kubo. Ngaba benza okufanayo nakuwe? Ubudlelwane buyindlela ezimbini, utshilo u-Firstein, kwaye umzamo wakho kufuneka ubuyiselwe.
8. Bakugxotha kwaye abakuthathi ngokungathí sina
Uye walwa nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni kwaye ibikukhathaza ngenene. Kodwa xa uyizisa kwiqabane lakho, baqengqele amehlo kwaye bambombozela ngokukhawuleza Oko kuyanya ngaphambi kokuba babuyele kumdlalo wabo wevidiyo. Ngaba asinguye lo mntu ufanele ukwazi ukuxhomekeka kuye? Hmm.
9. Zikwenza uzive kakubi ngawe
Iqabane elikwenza uzive ungekho krelekrele, ungathandeki okanye umncinci, kwaye othatha ngakumbi ukuzithemba kwakho kunokuba benza ngokuzama ukwenza uncumo, ayinguye ofuna ukubonwa ngakumbi. Iqabane elithetha nawe ngolu hlobo libonisa ukungakhuseleki kwalo kwaye kufuneka lifune unyango, utshilo u-Firstein.
10. Basuka ku-zero ukuya ku-60 kwingxabano
Wonke umntu uyalwa, kwaye wonke umntu unomzuzwana xa ecaphuka kakhulu kwaye azive ebuhlungu ngayo kamva. Kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho linomkhwa wokuhamba iibhanana ngokupheleleyo ngalo lonke ixesha ungavumelaniyo-sithetha sikhwaza, sikubiza ngamagama, ukunyathela, ukugqogqa iindonga-oku mhlawumbi ayisiyiyo eyona meko isempilweni kuwe.
11. Bakrwada kubazali babo
Heyi, mhlawumbi abazali babo ngabantu abanzima, kodwa amaqabane akhohlakele kuMama noTata ahlala ethwala eso simo sengqondo kubudlelwane babo nabo. Ukuba abanakuhlonela abantu ababanike ubomi, baya kuba njani kuwe?
12. Bajonga izicatshulwa zakho
Kwaye ii-DMs zakho ze-Instagram, i-imeyile yakho kunye nelogi yakho yokufowuna. Baneengxaki ezinkulu zokuthembana, utshilo u-Firstein, kwaye lixesha lokuba nencoko.
13. Awuzange udibane nabani na obalulekileyo kubo
Ucele ukudibana namalungu osapho, abahlobo okanye osebenza nabo kwaye akukho nto yenzekileyo. Ngaba bayakufihla ? (Aka ukugcinele imfihlo.) Mhlawumbi.
14 Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngabo
Umntu ongakwaziyo ukuthatha uxanduva kwizinto eziyimpazamo yakhe-njengokukwenza ulinde kwindawo yokutyela iyure ngaphandle kwesicatshulwa-ngokuzicingela.
