Ehlabathini eligqibeleleyo, umyeni wakho wexesha elizayo uya kukusindisa ekubeni ugilwe yilori ye-UPS njengoko usokola ukukhulula i-Gucci slingback yakho kwi-grate yogutyulo. Uya kuwela ezingalweni zomnye kwaye emva koko yena, ugqirha wotyando (emva ukusuka kuhambo lukaGqirha ngaphandle kwemida, ngokwendalo), ajonge emehlweni akho kwaye awe eluthandweni olunzulu. Kodwa awunguye u-J.Lo, kwaye uMatthew McConaughey utshatile-uxolo, manene. Obu bubomi bokwenyani, apho ukufumana iqabane endle kunqabile njengokufumana iiGucci’s ezithengiswayo. Endaweni yoko, abantu abaninzi banxibelelana ngokusebenzisa ii-apps zokuthandana ukuba ngokwenene bayindlela enye izibini ezidibana ngayo, ngokutsho kwe Isifundo kwiYunivesithi yaseStanford .
Ngelixa oku kusinika ithemba, siyazi ukuba ukuzulazula kwiWorld Wide Web yeesayithi zokuthandana kunokuba nzima kwaye kuyakhathaza ukuthetha kancinci. Yiyo loo nto sifikelele kwi-12 yabasetyhini bokwenyani abavela kulo lonke ilizwe abakwaziyo ukwenza oko ngempumelelo kwaye bacela amacebiso abo angcono kakhulu kwi-intanethi. Ubulumko babo, ngaphantsi.
1. Khangela umntu owenza kube lula kuwe
Lindela lowo uphuma endleleni ngenxa yakho. Umzekelo, kumhla wethu wokuqala, uJoey waqinisekisa ukuba ukhetha indawo ekufutshane nendlu yam kwaye ngexesha elenza kube lula kum. Ndandihlala eUpper East Side ngelo xesha, kwaye wayehlala ezantsi eHell’s Kitchen (eyiNew York kude ). Yandibonisa ukuba wayenomdla kum nakubomi bam—yaye yayivakala yahluke kakhulu kumlinganiselo othi ‘Heyi, masidibane’ ingqondo odla ngokuyifumana kwii-apps zokuthandana—nto leyo eyakhokelela kwiminyaka emine enesiqingatha sitshatile kunye neli-19 -unyana onenyanga. - Amy D., 35, Bronx, New York
2. Zinqumle ukuba azikuthumeleli umyalezo kwakhona
Ndiqhawule umtshato-emva kokutshata ndimncinci kakhulu-ke yayiyoyikeka kancinci ukuzama ii-apps zokuthandana okokuqala kwi-20s yam yokugqibela. Kodwa kumtshato wokuqala ndafunda ukuba ndandingafuni ukuchitha ixesha nakubani na owayengazabalazeli ngokufuthi ngokwaneleyo. Ndicinga ukuba ukuya kwimihla kuhle, nawe kufanele yiya kwimihla ukuba unomdla kumntu omthumelela umyalezo, kodwa ukuba akakuthumeleli umyalezo ngexesha elifanelekileyo, vele uqhubeke. Nabani na ofuna ngokwenene ukwazi uya kukwenza kucace oko. - UCarra T., oneminyaka engama-29, eLos Angeles
3. Khaba uhlobo lwakho elunxwemeni
Bendiya kuxelela abahlobo abangatshatanga ukuba bahlale benengqondo evulekileyo kwaye bangayi kuhlobo oluthile. Ukudibana kwam nomyeni wam ngoku, ndandiswayipha ngokufanelekileyo kuzo zonke iintlobo zokwakhiwa komzimba, kuba, ngokwasemzimbeni, yile nto. Ndingene ngeloxesha. Unokucinga ukuba utsalelekile kuphela kubafana abablonde abaneenwele ezifana noThor okanye nabani na omfutshane kuno-5'6' akakho umbuzo. Kodwa uncumo lomyeni wam kumfanekiso wakhe weprofayile lubonakala luyinyani kwaye lunobubele kwaye lwanditsalela ngokupheleleyo, ndiye ndamnika ithuba kwaye ndiyavuya kuba ndiyenzile! Sisanda kutshata ngoNovember. - UMegan K., 40, eLexington, eKentucky
4. Hlawula indawo ukuba inabemi ofuna ukuya kuthi ga ngoku
Xa ndandithandana kwi-intanethi, ndaya kwitoni yemihla ye-Hinge, njengemihla emibini yokuqala ngeveki, engazange ibe yinto eninzi. Ekugqibeleni ndathatha icebiso lomhlobo wam osenyongweni, owandixelela ukuba ukuba ndifuna ngokwenene ukudibana nomfana owayezimisele malunga nobudlelwane bexesha elide, kwafuneka ndihlawule ukuba ndibe kwindawo yokuthandana-ngoku-iphelile Thina. (Kodwa ihlawulwe ukuthandana sites namhlanje ziquka Match, eHarmony, JDate, etc.) I ifaniswe kunye enomtsalane kakhulu, 6'4 'indoda efuna ukundikhupha ngenxa mac kunye namasi newayini-iqabane umphefumlo wam, obvi. Sele kuyiminyaka emihlanu enesiqingatha ukususela ngaloo mhla kwaye andizange ndiphinde ndingene kwakhona. Satshata kwiinyanga ezine ezidlulileyo! - UMeredith G., oneminyaka engama-31, eNew York Isixeko
5. Beka ii-apps phantsi ngelixa uthandana nomnye umntu
Ukuze unike umhla wokuqala-okanye nawuphi na umhla, ngokwenene-ithuba lokuqhakaza kwaye likhule libe yinto yokwenene nenentsingiselo, kufuneka ucime izaziso kwi-apps yakho yokuthandana ukuze ungabi naziphazamisi ngelixa ukunye nomntu. Awungekhe ubekho ngokupheleleyo ngomhla nomntu omnye ngelixa ufumana umyalezo omtsha ovela komnye umntu. —UAmanda B., oneminyaka engama-37 ubudala, eDallas
6. Yiya kumfo oqhelekileyo weefoto ohambelana nebhayoloji yakhe
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzama ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani umntu endaweni yokugxila emntwini kuba umfanekiso wakhe uya kujongeka umkhulu kwiphepha elingaphandle. GQ . Iifoto zomyeni wam ngoku zaziqhelekile kwaye zingagqithiswanga njengokuba abanye benjalo. Esikhundleni sokumisela i-headshots, wayenemifanekiso eqhelekileyo yakhe kunye nezinja zakhe (ebonakalayo uphawu lokuthembeka ) kunye ne-selfie esisiseko yekhitshi. I-bio yakhe yayiqhelekileyo; akasebenzi isixa esiphambeneyo okanye ahambe uhambo lokuhamba uhambo rhoqo ngeveki enye. Utya ipizza kwaye usela iwhisky. Ndithengisiwe! -Lauren N., 31, Long Beach, California
7. Musa ukubaleka kwiiyantlukwano zenkcubeko
Emva kweminyaka emine yokuthandana, iminyaka emithathu okanye umtshato kwaye ngoku nosana olusendleleni, ndinokuthi ndiyavuya ukuba ndathatha ithuba nge-intanethi kunye nomntu ohluke kakhulu kum. Ndangena kuyo ndinesimo sengqondo sokuvuleleka kunye nokwamkela ezoyantlukwano, ezazingencinci xa siqwalasela usapho lwam kunye nam sisuka eRizal, iphondo elingaphandle kweManila kwiiPhilippines, kwaye uMike usuka kusapho olukhulu lwamaTaliyane eNew. Ijezi. Kodwa ukuhlala sivuleleke kwinto esenze sahluka kwaye sifundisana ngamasiko nezithethe zethu ngenene kwasenza sasondelana kakhulu kunokuba bendilindele. -Dia M., 36, uSomerset, Enew Jersey
8. Yenza uluhlu lwazo zonke izinto ozifunayo kubudlelwane
Ufanele uyazi impendulo yombuzo othi ‘Ufuna ntoni?’. Andinakuze ndibe ngulowo uyibuzayo kwaye eneneni ndihlala ndicinga ukuba ngumbuzo osisidenge, kodwa xa umyeni wam ngoku endibuza ukuba eBumble emva kokuba sele sithetha ixesha elincinane, wayebonakala ngathi ngumntu onyanisekileyo kwaye othe ngqo. (he is!), ndiye ndamxelela inyani ukuba bendifuna umntu o serious nge future. Kwathi kanti yimpendulo awayeyifuna leyo! Ke ungoyiki ukunyaniseka kwaye ukhuphe abafana abanganyanisekanga-ukuba yiloo nto oyifunayo. Satshata emva kweenyanga ezisithoba saza satshata iinyanga ezisithoba emva koko yaye sinesithuba esingaphezu konyaka sitshatile. —UAlex P., oneminyaka engama-29, eManchester, ENew Hampshire
9. Qinisekisa ukuba amaxabiso akho aphambili acacile kwasekuqaleni
Ndiye ndamadolw' anzima ukuzama ukuthandana ne-app-based dating kwaye andizange nditsibe kwi-bandwagon de kube kamva emdlalweni kuba ukholo lwam lubaluleke kakhulu kum kwaye ndandingazi ukuba ndiza kuwahluza njani amadoda angazange aphumelele. yabelana ngexabiso elingundoqo. Ndadibana noFranz emva kweeveki ezimbini zokuba seBumble, kwaye sagqiba kwelokuba sidibanele ii-tacos emva kokuthetha kuphela kwi-app iiyure ezimbalwa kuba sobabini sasingaphambili kakhulu malunga nokholo lwethu oluyinxalenye enkulu yobomi bethu. Ingcebiso bendiya kukunika daters nabo intanethi kukuqinisekisa ukuba ucacile kwaye unyanisekile malunga izaphuli deal yakho enkulu, kwaye ungaze uncama amaxabiso zakho ezingundoqo kunye neenkolelo nakubani na. Franz kunye nam yomhla malunga neminyaka emithathu emva koko, emva koko satshata nje kwinyanga ephelileyo! Ngoku sihlala kunye neekati zethu, iTuna kunye neWasabi. -Alexandra V., 28, Sacramento, California
10. Gcina amanqaku encoko anomdla kwimihla yobomi bokwenyani
Impumelelo yam enkulu kunye nemihla yokwenyani endadibana nayo kwiiapps zeza ngokususa izinto kwifowuni yam ukuya kubomi bokwenyani ngokukhawuleza. Tshintshiselana ngemiyalezo embalwa ukuze uqiniseke ukuba uziva ukhuselekile kwaye unomdla, kodwa uze nesicwangciso sokwazana ngokobuqu ngokukhawuleza. Amaxesha ambalwa ndichitha iiveki ndithumela imiyalezo okanye ndithumelelana imiyalezo nomntu endingazange ndidibane naye, kwathi xa sidibana, kwavakala ngathi siyenzile yonke imibuzo yokwazi kwi-intanethi, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo yawa phantsi. . Into eyanditsalela ngoko nangoko kumyeni wam kukuba, emva kwemiyalezo embalwa, wandicela ngoko nangoko indawo ethile nexesha. Ukuzimisela kwakhe neenjongo zakhe ezicacileyo zazihlaziya. Abantu banokuba ne-dimensional enye kwii-apps. Ukunika umntu inzuzo yokubona umfanekiso opheleleyo kumntu yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuzibekela impumelelo. —UMegan G., oneminyaka engama-27 ubudala, kwisiXeko saseNew York
11. Thatha ikhefu
Ngokunyanisekileyo, ndicinga ukuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuqhubeka uzama kodwa ungoyiki ukuthatha ikhefu kwi-intanethi xa uyifuna. Ndaziva ngathi ndijonge phantsi kwelitye ngalinye ukuze ndifumane umyeni wam kwaye kwakunzima, ngoko ke kwafuneka ndihambe iveki okanye ngoko rhoqo. Ukuphindaphinda kwazo zonke ezo ntsuku zokuqala ezazingaqhelekanga ngamanye amaxesha, zingakhululekanga okanye zithe ngqo-zimbi zandishiya ndiziva ndibuhlungu. Ndishiye iintsuku ezimbalwa ezimbi! Kodwa andizange ndiwushiye umhla endahamba ngayo kunye neqabane lam elizayo-siye satshata unyaka ngoku-kuba ndazinika ixesha lokuhlanganisana emva kokubi ukuxabisa okulungileyo. —UJess A., 43, eBaltimore
12. Thetha nabahlobo bakho ngayo yonke into yakho yokuthandana kwi-app ephezulu kunye nesezantsi
Ingcebiso yam kuye nabani na obhadulayo, oqubhayo okanye otshona echibini lokuthandana kwi-Intanethi kukuba lulwandle ngakumbi kunedama. Ngokusemthethweni wonke umntu uyayenza, kwaye sonke kufanele ukuba sithetha ngayo. Thetha nabahlobo bakho! Yabelana ngokukhathazeka kwakho, ukukhathazeka kwakho, uvuyo lwakho, i-lows kunye ne-ups, ngakumbi xa ivakalelwa njengesiphelo esikhulu sokufa kuba kunzima ukuqhubeka sisenza xa sidimazeka. Ukuthetha ngayo kusempilweni—ngokweemvakalelo nasengqondweni. Mhlawumbi kukho umntu omaziyo ukuba utyhubela kwinto enye okanye unebali lomhla elibi eliya kukuhlekisa. Inqaku lelokuba kukho ibala elijikeleze ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi ekungafanelanga libe khona kuba ayiseyiyo ingcamango yenoveli. —UKailah B., oneminyaka engama-32 ubudala, eAlbany, eNew York
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