Ukuba utshate ne-Aries eneempawu zenkunzi yegusha eqhelekileyo (inkani, ii-obvs, kodwa kwanokhuphiswano, ukuzithemba, amabhongo, ukuba nethemba, ukuthetha phandle), ukwindlela yokukhwela. Ukuba utshatile nomntu onabo bonke, ke olo hambo lunokuthi lube yi-roller coaster. Ubomi kunye ne-Aries abusoze bukruqule. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga namahla-ndinyuka.
Amashumi amabini anamashumi amabiniUkuba utshate noBossy McBosserton, i-CEO yoSapho
Ukholelwa kuye (ukubeka kakuhle). Uyinkokeli ezelwe ngokwendalo eyaziyo indlela yokuphatha. Unenkani njengenkunzi yegusha. Uyathandabuza ukucela uncedo (okanye ulwalathiso) ngenxa yokuba unokhuphiswano olunzulu. Bona kwakhona: ukungabi namonde kwaye ukhawuleza ukucaphuka. Zonke ezi mpawu ze-alpha zinokuba shushu ekuqaleni-aziyibizi njengophawu lomlilo-ingakumbi ukuba amaqabane akho okugqibela ayengenamkhombandlela okanye asweleyo kwisebe lokuzithemba. Kodwa injongo yakho kukuba sibe sisiqingatha sesibini esinamandla, hayi abasebenzi abaxhasayo okanye ukwakhiwa kwendlela. Ukudakumba kunokuvela xa uziva umncinci kwaye ungenamandla kunomntu onxibelelana naye, ubhala ingcaphephe yobudlelwane kunye nesazi ngengqondo uGqr Susan Heitler. Kubudlelwane bothando phakathi kwabantu abadala ababini, amandla okwabelwana ngawo asempilweni. Eyona ndlela ikhawulezayo yokulungelelanisa kwakhona amandla axeliweyo kukuhlala uzolile ngexesha longquzulwano. Umgaqo wokuqala wesithupha ebusweni bomntu onzima kukugcina upholile, ubhala omnye umqeqeshi wobomi. Okukhona ungenzi nto kangako xa ucaphukisa, kokukhona unokusebenzisa ingqiqo yakho ukujongana nocelomngeni.
Amashumi amabini anamashumi amabiniUkuba utshatile kuhlobo oluqinileyo, oluthuleyo
Ulungile kwaye uhloniphekile kumbindi wakhe, unyanisekile njengeLabrador kwaye uthe cwaka (ungayiva nje). Kodwa ukuba wazingcwaba nangakumbi iimvakalelo zakhe, uya kudinga i-PhD kwi-geology ukuze uzigrumbe. Iindaba ezimnandi, abavumisi ngeenkwenkwezi bathi, ukho konke xa kufikwa eluthandweni. Kufuneka nje umncede umkhuphe. Njani? Ngokuhlala unethemba, uvule kwaye ungaguquguquki. Unokuzama ukukutyhalela kude okanye akuxelele ukuba ulungile okanye akafuni uncedo lwakho, kodwa ndiyakubongoza ukuba uqhubeke uqhubeka, ubhala ingcali yobudlelwane uKristen Brown ngesihloko samadoda acinezelekileyo. Emva kwakho konke ujongene nesiqhelo soluntu. Oku akuthethi ukuba uyamnyanzela okanye uyamcaphukela. Kuthetha ukuba umfundise ekuhambeni kwexesha ukuba unomqolo wakhe. Ukuba unokukuthemba ngokungafaniyo nabanye abantu kwesi sijikelezi-langa. Ukuba ubona zombini amandla kunye nobuthathaka bakhe kwaye umthande ngokufanayo.
Ukuba utshatile kwi-daredevil
Uyamthanda ukuba ungoyiki, u-extroverted, unesisa kwaye uzenzekela. Uhlala ejonge kwicala eliqaqambileyo (umama wakho uthi kungenxa yokuba ubeka iimfama). Kodwa uyakophula kwindawo obutofotofo aze akukhuthaze ukuba wenze izinto ezifana nokuntywila esibhakabhakeni, ukuntywila emanzini okanye ungene kwisivumelwano sika-Airbnb ngaphandle kokujonga iimbekiselo ezininzi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho umgca ochanekileyo phakathi kokuthatha ingozi enempilo kunye nokungakhathali. Xa ikamva lakho-lezezimali, ubuchwephesha, usapho-lidibene nomntu odlala umdlalo oyingozi, kuxhomekeke kuwe ukuba wenze amanyathelo okhuseleko. Okanye, ungazama ukufana naye ngakumbi. Ukuba sifuna uthando olungakumbi, kufuneka siloyise uloyiko, ubhala isazinzulu sentlalontle u-Arthur C. Brooks INew York Times . Kufuneka sithathe imingcipheko yobuqu ukuze sifumane umvuzo omkhulu wokuthandana. Ulibale uvavanyo-ukuqhuba ubudlelwane iminyaka elishumi, okanye ukukhangela umntu ohambelana ngokugqibeleleyo ukuze afane nomntakwenu. Uthando lufanele ukuba loyike kancinci kuba aluqinisekanga ... Isibindi sithetha ukuziva uloyiko lokwaliwa kunye nokulahlekelwa kodwa lusukela uthando kunjalo.
