Umphathi womhlobo wakho umenzela umsebenzi kule mpelaveki ukuze alungiselele yonke into yokubonisa abathengi ngoMvulo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oko kuyacaphukisa. Kwaye xa iqabane lakho likhalaza malunga nomphathi wakhe ofika kwityala lakhe ngokufika emva kwexesha ngenye intsasa, ufumana ukudideka kwakhe ngokupheleleyo. Ezi ziiniggles ezintle eziqhelekileyo zasemsebenzini. Kodwa wenza ntoni ukuba usebenza nomntu osebenza naye ongacaphukiyo nje kancinci, ungumntu othanda ukulwa?
Ngokwesayikholojisti kunye nombhali Mateusz Grzesiak, Ph.D. (aka Dr. Matt), ixhaphake kakhulu kunokuba unokucinga. Imibutho idla ngokuqesha ama-narcissists njengabaphathi kuba ifuna ukuba nomntu onomdla kwaye ozeleyo kuba ezogxila kwiziphumo, uyasixelela. (Qaphela: UGqr. Matt usixelela ukuba iipesenti ezingama-80 zama-narcisists ngamadoda, ngelixa t yena Incwadana yokuHlola kunye neNkcazo yeNgqondo yeNgqondo ibeka inani kuma-50 ukuya kuma-75 ekhulwini.)
Ngapha koko, okukhona unyuka usiya phezulu, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba udibane nabantu abaneempawu ze-narcissistic. Xa umntu ekhwela ileli, imenza akwazi ukulawula ngakumbi, utsho uGqr. Matt. Kwaye ngenxa yesimo abanaso, banokuba nabantu abaninzi ababathandayo. Ngendlela efanayo ikhoboka leziyobisi likhoboka leziyobisi, i-narcissist likhoboka lokuncoma.
Nazi imiqondiso emihlanu ebonisa ukuba unokuba ujongene ne-narcissist emsebenzini.
Ngaba nayiphi na koku ivakala iqhelekile ngendlela eyothusayo? Nazi iingcebiso ezine zendlela yokumelana xa usebenza ne-narcissist.
1. Yishiye inkampani. Hayi, ngenene. Ngempilo yakho yengqondo, shiya umbutho wakho kwaye uye kwindawo eyahlukileyo, ucebisa uDkt Matt, nangona ekwabonisa ukuba i-narcissism iyanda (ityala ukwanda koluntu oluxabisa ubuqu endaweni yeqela elihlangeneyo). Ngamanye amazwi, unokuwushiya umsebenzi wakho wangoku kwaye uphele usebenzela enye i-narcissist. Ke enye inketho kukufunda indlela yokulawula lo mntu. Oko kusizisa kwindawo yethu elandelayo…
2. Misela imida. Ukuba uyazi ukuba umntu uyi-narcissist, kufuneka uzihlukanise ngokubeka imida ukuze bangakuxhaphazi okanye bakugxeke, utsho uGqr Matt. Nanku umzekelo: Umphathi wakho uyakuthanda ukuza kwidesika yakho ukuze athethe ixesha elide malunga nendlela amangalisa ngayo (okanye indlela abanye abantu abangenabuchule ngayo). Ukulungiswa? Umxelela ukuba uyalixabisa ixesha lakhe ngoko usete intlanganiso yenyanga yokungena kunye naye ekufuneka ikunike amathuba amaninzi okudlula umsebenzi wakho. (Kodwa ukuba umphathi wakho wenza into ephambene ngokwenene, njengokukuthuka, ungalibazisi ukufumana umphathi wakho we-HR abandakanyeke.)
3. Zama isandwich yengxelo. Masithi umphathi wakho uthathe ikhredithi ngomsebenzi wakho onzima kwintlanganiso kunye ne-honchos yentloko phezulu. Mthathele ecaleni kwaye umnike isandwich yempendulo. (Khumbula, ukuzixabisa kwenarciss kubangelwa kukunconywa ngabanye abantu, ngoko awufuni ukuyenza le nto phambi kwabanye abantu.) Nantsi into esenokubonakala: Ndikuthanda kakhulu ukukusebenzela ngenxa yokuba ungumntu onjalo. umphathi omkhulu. Kodwa ukuba awunangxaki, kwixesha elizayo xa uthetha ngam phambi kwe-CEO, ungathetha into malunga nazo zonke iiyure ezongezelelweyo endizibeke kule projekthi? Ihamba kakuhle kakhulu, kwaye ndiziva ngathi mna nawe besiyikhokela yonke le nto.
4. Yiba nomfanekiso wakhe njengomntwana oneminyaka emi-5 ubudala. UGqr. Matt wasivumela ukuba siqonde okuqaqambileyo: Ngaphakathi kwi-narcissist nganye kukho umntwana omncinci oziva esoyika kwaye engafunwa ngabazali bakhe. Bakha imaski egcwele ngokwabo apho banamandla onke, belawula kwaye bazi yonke into ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa yimaski kuphela. Kulula ukuwela kumgibe wokucinga ukuba banento ngakuwe, kodwa inyaniso kukuba banento echasene nabo. Ke kwixesha elizayo umphathi wakho we-narcissistic enyanzelisa ukongamela zonke iinkcukacha ezincinci zomsebenzi wakho, zama ukumcingela njengomntwana oneminyaka emi-5. Inokukunika uvelwano nje. (Okanye ubuncinci, kukuyekise ukuphosa ikhibhodi yakho eludongeni.)
ENXULUMENEYO: Kukho iintlobo ezintathu zeeBoss ezinetyhefu. (Nantsi indlela yokujongana nabo)
