Ubuxelela intombi yakho ukuba inokuba yiyo nantoni na enqwenela ukuba yiyo ukusukela mhla yazalwa, kodwa ngaba ukhe wema ukuba uqwalasele amagama angekho zingqondweni kunye namabinzana owathethayo anokuthi athintele amandla akhe okuba ngulowo afuna ukuba nguye. kuba ixesha elide? Sangena kunye noGqr Lea Lis, ugqirha wengqondo yabantwana kunye nombhali we Akukho ntloni: Thetha ngokwenene nabantwana bakho , ngamabinzana esidla ngokuwathetha kumantombazana ethu (okanye ekho) nesizathu sokuba kufuneka siyeke.
1. Ukhangeleka mhle.
Kutheni Kuyingxaki: Ngokuphathelele iintombi, awuze ufune ukunikel’ ingqalelo kwinkangeleko yazo xa udumisa, utsho uGqr. Endaweni yoko, gxila kwiimpawu ezithile zokwakha abalinganiswa. Umzekelo, unokuthi: Wow, ukhethe isinxibo esimangalisayo! okanye Ukhangeleka uzithembile. Ezi zibiza iimpawu ezinokuzilawula ngokuchasene nezinto ezingenako ukukwazi.
2. Hamba uyokuwola uMalume uLarry!
Kutheni Kuyingxaki: Bonke abantwana—kodwa ngakumbi amantombazana—kufuneka bavunyelwe ukuba bakhulise ukuzimela geqe, o.k.t. bagqibe kwelokuba ngubani oza kubachukumisa nokuba nini, nokuba basebancinane. Ngoko ke, njengokuba ungafuni ukumenzakalisa iimvakalelo zakhe xa umalume omthandayo emi esolule iingalo, kubalulekile ukunika intombi yakho ithuba lokukhetha. Cebisa omnye umbuliso (uthi, ukuxhawula isandla okanye ukungqubana ngenqindi) okanye ubaxelele ukuba kulungile ukubulisa nje. Ngokungamnyanzeli, ufundisa intombi yakho ukuba yiyo elawula umzimba wayo ngalo lonke ixesha—ubuchule obufuna ukuba ibe nayo kwiminyaka yayo yeshumi elivisayo.
3. Undenze ndaziqhenya okanye ndiyazingca ngawe.
Kutheni Kuyingxaki: Kubonakala ngathi umsulwa ngokwaneleyo, akunjalo? Hayi ncam. Yabona, kumantombazana, imfuno yokukholisa yinto entle efundiswa ekuzalweni. Kwaye xa bebophelela ulonwabo kunye nempumelelo yabo ngokuthe ngqo ekwenzeni ukuba ube nekratshi okanye wonwabe, banokuqala ukuthulisa ubuchule babo bangaphakathi okanye ukuzithemba. Ngebinzana elithi 'ndinebhongo ngawe,' unezona njongo zilungileyo, kodwa kubalulekile ukutshintshela ukugxila kwinto ekholisayo. wena kwaye endaweni yoko iindlela abanokuzingca ngazo ngokwabo . Endaweni yoko, zama: ‘Wowu, kufuneka uzingce ngawe’ ukubonisa ukuba bayikhampasi yabo kwaye abafuni kuqinisekiswa okanye imvume yabanye ukuze baphumelele. Ixesha elide, oku kunceda ukwakha isiseko sokuzithemba okunempilo, utsho uGqr Lis.
4. Ngenye imini wena nomyeni wakho niya…
Kutheni Kuyingxaki: Xa sithatha uluvo oluthile lwezesondo, sibeka umgangatho okanye ulindelo, nokuba sithetha okanye hayi. Endaweni yoko, uGqr. Olu hlobo lotshintsho lomyalezo olufihlakeleyo lunokunceda umntwana wakho azive ekhululekile ukuthetha ngesini sakhe, ngelixa okokuqala kunokwenza umntwana wakho oyike ukunyaniseka kuwe ukuba uyakrokrela ukuba angaba yi-LGBTQ, uyacacisa.
5. Ndidinga ukunciphisa umzimba.
Kutheni Kuyingxaki: Sonke sinetyala lokuzihlazisa umzimba. Kodwa ukwenza oku phambi kwabantwana bakho—ingakumbi amantombazana—kunokukhokelela kwimibandela ehlala ixesha elide nenkangeleko yomzimba, utsho uGqr. Lis. Isicwangciso esingcono: Thetha malunga nokutya okunempilo okukufutshane nabo (njengento yokuba imifuno ikunceda ukuba womelele), kodwa nazo zonke izinto ezimangalisayo ezenziwa yimizimba (umdaniso, ukucula, ukubaleka ngokukhawuleza kwibala lokudlala, njl. njl.).
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