Abazali babantwana abafumana iingozi ebusuku banokufuna isisombululo seteknoloji ngendlela ye-alarm yokuchamisa ibhedi. Ezi zixhobo zikrwelela kwiimpahla zangaphantsi zabantwana (okanye zisenokuba ziimpahla zangaphantsi ezikhethekileyo ezinezivamvo ezakhelwe ngaphakathi) ukuze zibone ukufuma, nto leyo ebangela i-alam edla ngokuba yi-combo yesandi, ukukhanya okanye ukungcangcazela. Ingcamango kukuba i-alamu iya kuvusa umntwana xa eqala ukuchama. Kwaye indawo yokuthengisa kukuba ekugqibeleni angalala ubusuku bonke ngaphandle kokumanzisa konke. Kodwa le nkqubo idla ixesha kwaye intsonkothile. Kufuna ukubandakanyeka kwabazali phakathi kobusuku kunye nokuhambelana ngokunyanisekileyo. Kwaye ii-alamu azibizi (uluhlu lwexabiso luvela kwi-$ 50 ukuya kwi-$ 170 ngophando lwethu).
Sabuza uGrace Hyun, M.D., umlawuli onxulumene ne-urology yabantwana kwi-NYU Langone School of Medicine, ukuba baxabisa ixesha kunye nemali. Isitshixo sokuthatha? Ukuba unebhedi emanzi, ungothuki-okanye ukhawuleze ukuthenga isixhobo. Apha, incoko yethu ehleliweyo nefinyeziweyo.
I-PureWow: Xa abazali bekubuza malunga nee-alam zokuchama ebhedini, ngaba abantwana babo badla ngokuba neminyaka emingaphi? Ngaba kukho iminyaka ethile xa thina kufanele Unexhala lokuba iingozi zasebusuku zithathe ixesha elide kakhulu?
UGqr. Hyun: Okokuqala, ndifuna ukuqiniseka ukuba sonke sithetha ngento enye. Uhlobo lokuchama esiluchazayo ngabantwana abaneengxaki zasebusuku kuphela. Ukuba kukho naziphi na iimpawu zokuchama emini, loo nto yimeko eyahlukileyo efuna indlela eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ukuya kuthi ga ebusuku, ndibona abantwana kuyo yonke iminyaka. Xa bebancinci, ixhaphake kakhulu. Umntwana oneminyaka emi-5 ochamela ibhedi kunjalo, uxhaphakile kangangokuba andicingi nokuba yingxaki. Njengoko abantwana bekhula, inani labantwana abaya kuthi ekugqibeleni libe ngcono ngokwabo liyenyuka. Abahlali basebhedini, ubukhulu becala, bonke bayoma. Lo ngumba wethutyana. Ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye neminyaka, uqala ukoma ngakumbi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kubonakala ngathi ukufikisa kwenza umahluko omkhulu. Ndibona bambalwa kakhulu abantwana abafikisayo okanye abafikisayo abachamela ibhedi.
Ikwayimfuza ephezulu. Ngoko ukuba womile ngo-5 okanye u-6, ngoko umntwana wakho uya kulandela. Ukuba bobabini abazali abazange bome de babe neminyaka eyi-13 okanye eyi-14, musa ukubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kumntwana wakho ukuba ome ngo-3.
Ingathi ngenene kufuneka sizame ukususa shame kulencoko.
Into yokuqala endiyixelela wonke umntwana oza kundibona ayilohlazo kwaphela! Musa ukuba neentloni. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngawe. Into eyenzekayo kuwe yinto eqhelekileyo. Ndiyazi ukuba ayinguwe wedwa umntu kwibakala lakho onamava oku. Asinguwe wedwa umntu esikolweni sakho. Kuyinto engenakwenzeka nje. Amanani awadlali. Ngoko ayinguwe kuphela. Kuphela nje abantu abathethi ngayo. Wonke umntu uya kuqhayisa ukuba umntwana wabo unokufunda eneminyaka emi-2½, okanye baziqeqeshele imbiza, okanye badlale ichess, okanye bangoyena mntu umangalisayo wohambo lwezemidlalo. Akukho mntu uthetha ngenyani yokuba bonke basekwi-Pull-Ups ebusuku. Kwaye banjalo! Kwaye kulungile ngokupheleleyo.
Ngoko ke kufuneka singenelele xa sineminyaka emingaphi?
Abazali kufuneka bangenelele ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko yentlalo. Abantwana abadadlana befumana, kokukhona besiya kwimisitho efana nee-sleepovers, iihambo zasebusuku okanye inkampu yokulala. Sizama ngokwenene ukusebenzela ukuba bome ukuze bakwazi ukwenza izinto ezenziwa ngabanye abantwana abakwintanga yabo ngaphandle kwemiba. Okukhona umntwana emdala, kokukhona enokuba nobomi babo bentlalontle, kwaye abo bantwana bakhuthazeka ngakumbi ukuba bazame ukomisa. Kulapho siza kuza neqhinga lendlela yokuyilungisa.
Ngaba lo ngumcimbi wamakhwenkwe okanye uyenzeka nakumantombazana?
Kwenzeka kumantombazana namakhwenkwe. Okukhona ukhula, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba yinkwenkwe.
Ngoko ukuba unomntwana oneminyaka esi-7, esi-8 okanye esi-9, ngaba ufanele ukwamkele ukuchama kwakhe njengesiqhelo kwaye ungazihluphi ngokuzama i-alam?
Okokuqala, kusoloko kukho uhlengahlengiso lokuziphatha kunye nokutshintsha kwendlela yokuphila kufuneka uzame kuqala ngaphambi kokuba uqwalasele naluphi na uhlobo lwe-alam. Andixeleli abantu ukuba benze ii-alamu ezingaphantsi kwe-9 okanye i-10. I-alamu ayisebenzi kakuhle kubantwana abancinci kuba A) imizimba yabo isenokungakulungeli ukomisa ebusuku kwaye B) olo tshintsho lwendlela yokuphila lunokuba nzima kubantwana abancinci. kuba uninzi lwabo alukhathali nokuba akomisi ebusuku. Kwaye loo nto ifanele iminyaka ngokupheleleyo. Basenokuba yithi baxakiwe malunga nokuchama ebhedini, kodwa xa uzama ukubeka iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokutshintsha kwendlela yokuphila, kwaye uyenza yonke imihla kuba imalunga nokungaguquguquki, ke abafuni ukuyenza. Kwaye yindlela eqhelekileyo yokuziphatha kumntwana oneminyaka emi-6 okanye esi-7: Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndiza kutya i-broccoli yonke imihla kwaye xa uyiphakile, bathi, Hayi, andifuni kuyenza.
Abantwana abadala badla ngokukhuthazwa ngakumbi ukwenza utshintsho. Kwakhona badla ngokuba manzi kube kanye kuphela ngobusuku. Ukuba ufumana iingozi izihlandlo ezininzi ngobusuku, ke awusondeli kangako ekubeni wome ebusuku kwaye ndingavele ndikulinde. Ukusebenzisa i-alam kwangethuba kakhulu kuya kuba ngumsebenzi ongento kunye nokungabikho kokulala kunye noxinzelelo losapho. Ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukwenza utshintsho oluhambelanayo lwendlela yokuphila, ngoko akakakulungeli ukuba ome. Kwaye kulungile! Wonke umntu ekugqibeleni uyoma kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kuba ekulungele ukwenza olo tshintsho.
Ngaba ungandihambisa kolu tshintsho lwendlela yokuphila?
Ewe. Into eyenzekayo emzimbeni wakho emini iqhuba okwenzeka ebusuku. Ebusuku, ezi bladders zabantwana zibuthathaka kakhulu kwaye zibuthathaka, ngoko ke kufuneka ukhuphe isinyi sakho rhoqo emini, rhoqo ngeyure ezimbini ukuya kwezimbini ezinesiqingatha, ngoko uzenze wome kangangoko. Sonke sinabahlobo abaziinkamela kwaye abasayi kuhlamba. Aba bantwana abanakuyenza loo nto.
Into yesibini kufuneka usele amanzi, kwaye ungabi nejusi, i-soda okanye iti. Okukhona usela amanzi amaninzi, kokukhona ukhupha zonke iityhefu emzimbeni wakho, kokukhona oko kubangcono kuwe ebusuku.
Into yesithathu kukuqinisekisa ukuba ikholoni yakho isempilweni kangangoko. Ukuba awunazo iintshukumo ezithambileyo, eziqhelekileyo, zemihla ngemihla, kunokusichaphazela kakubi isinyi sakho. Abantwana banezinyi ezibuthathaka kakhulu. Ingabhida kubazali kuba umntwana unokuba nentshukumo yamathumbu mihla le kwaye aphinde axhaswe ngokupheleleyo nesitulo esiya kuthi sichaphazele kakubi isinyi. Amaxesha amaninzi ukuqala nje i-laxative kuya kukhokelela ekomeni. Yinto etshintsha umdlalo kwaba bantwana. Iyamangalisa. Kwaye i-laxatives ngokwenene, zimveliso ezikhuselekileyo kakhulu.
Into yokugqibela kukuba awukwazi ukusela imizuzu engama-90 ngaphambi kokulala. Awunakuyenza nje. Kwaye ndiyiqonda kakuhle indlela ubomi obuhamba ngayo. Unesidlo sangokuhlwa okanye ukuziqhelanisa nebhola ekhatywayo okanye imisebenzi yesikolo, yonke loo nto. Ndiyayifumana ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa umzimba wakho awukhathali. Ukuba awukwazi ukuthintela ulwelo kwiyure enesiqingatha ngaphambi kokuba ulale, usenokungahlali womile. Awukwazi ukulwa nesayensi.
Kwaye ke uhlala, rhoqo, kufuneka uchame kanye ngaphambi kokuba ulale.
Olu tshintsho lokuziphatha kufuneka lwenziwe yonke imihla kangangeenyanga ukubona nasiphi na isiphumo. Ufundisa umzimba wakho umkhwa omtsha othatha iiveki ukuba usebenze. Kulapho abantu banokungaphumeleli khona kuba kunzima ukungaguquguquki.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuba umntwana wakho wenze zonke ezo nguqu kwindlela yokuphila kwaye usachamela ebhedini?
Uneendlela ezimbini ongakhetha kuzo: Qhubeka nokutshintsha kokuziphatha kunye A) uqale ukuthatha amayeza ukuba wome. Iyeza lisebenza kakuhle kakhulu, kodwa luNcedo loNcedo, hayi unyango. Nje ukuba uyeke ukuthatha amayeza, akasayi kuphinda ome. Okanye B) ungazama i-alam. Kwaye okubangel 'umdla kukuba, ii-alam zinokunyanga. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba uphumelele nge-alamu, isoloko iyinyani ukuba uya kuhlala womile. Ukuchamela ibhedi kunento yokwenza ne-neural pathway. Kwaba bantwana, ingqondo nesinyi azincokoli ebusuku. Into enokwenziwa yi-alam kukutsiba-ukuqala loo ndlela ye-neural. Kodwa ingxaki kukuba abantu abaninzi abayisebenzisi i-alam ngokuchanekileyo.
Ngoko makhe sithethe malunga nendlela i-alamu kufuneka isetyenziswe ngayo ukwandisa impumelelo.
Okokuqala, kukuzibophelela kwexesha. Oku kuthatha ubuncinane iinyanga ezintathu. Kwaye kufuna ukubandakanyeka kwabazali. Abantu abahlala ezindlini balala kakhulu kangangokuba abayi kuvuka xa kukhala loo alarm. Ke inyani yomba yeyokuba omnye umntu kufuneka avuse umntwana wabo ofileyo emhlabeni xa kukhala ialarm. Kwaye oku ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokucacileyo, ngumama. Kwaye ke kufuneka wenze oku ubusuku ngabunye. Ukungqinelana ngundoqo. Kwaye akunakubakho ukulwa. Ndixelela izigulane kunye nabazali babo, Ukuba nina niza kulwa ngentsimbi yesibini ekuseni malunga nale nto, ngoko akufanelekanga. Ndiyaqonda ukuba ungonwabanga okanye unesithukuthezi, kodwa kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuyenza le nto.
Abazali nabo baya kuthi, Sizamile i-alam, kwaye wayemanzisa ibhedi rhoqo ebusuku. Ndithi, Ewe! I-alarm ayikho ukunqanda ingozi ukuba yenzeke. I-alam ikhona ukukuxelela nini umcimbi uyenzeka. I-alamu ayiyonto yomlingo eyenza ukuba uyeke ukumanzisa ibhedi. Ngumatshini nje. Uyinqumle kwimpahla yakho yangaphantsi, inzwa iba manzi, oko kuthetha ukuba wena intando wenze ingozi, kwaye ialarm iyakhala. Umntwana wakho akavuki. Wena Mama kufuneka uvuke. Umama ke kufuneka ahambe ayovusa umntwana. Ngelo xesha, umntwana uyazihlambulula, ugqiba kwindawo yokuhlambela, nokuba yintoni na.
Inkalo ebaluleke kakhulu malunga nokusebenzisa i-alamu ngokufanelekileyo kukuba umntwana, isigulane ngokwakhe, ngoko kufuneka abuyisele i-alamu kwaye abuyele ebhedini. Akanakusuka aziqengqe aphinde alale. Umama wakhe akakwazi ukuseta kwakhona isivusi kuye. Ukuba akayiseti ngokutsha i-alam ngokwakhe, ukuba akabandakanyekanga, akukho ndlela intsha ifundiweyo eqalwayo.
Njengayo nayiphi na inkqubo efundiweyo emzimbeni, nokuba kukudlala umculo okanye imidlalo okanye nantoni na, kuthatha ixesha elide lokuziqhelanisa ukuze oku kukhatywe. iintsuku. Ngoko ke kufuneka ucinge, Siza kuyenza nini le nto? Andazi ukuba singathatha iinyanga ezintathu ukwenza oku ngexesha lonyaka wesikolo. Ukulala kubalulekile. Ndivuma ngokupheleleyo. Kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukwenza ixesha lokuzibophelela. Ukuba iyasebenza, isebenza kakuhle. Amazinga empumelelo mahle kakhulu. Kodwa awukwazi ukusebenzisa i-alam kabini ngeveki kwaye utsibe iintsuku ezimbalwa. Emva koko umzimba wakho awufundi nto. Kufana nokuthi, ndiza kufunda ukudlala ipiyano ngokuziqhelanisa kube kanye.
Ingaba unayo ialam oyithandayo?
Ndihlala ndixelela abantu ukuba baye Ivenkile yokumanzisa ibhedi kwaye ufumane nje eyona iphantsi. Awudingi zonke iintsimbi kunye neempempe-i-vibrator okanye imibala ephumayo-kuba umntwana akayi kuvuka. Kufuneka nje kungxole ngokwaneleyo ukuba umntu enye into uya kuvuka.
Ke into malunga nesenzo somntwana sokusetha kwakhona i-alam ngokwakhe imenza aqonde ngakumbi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni ngesinyi sakhe?
Ewe. Kuyafana nendlela abantu abasebenzisa ngayo ii-alam ukuvuka ekuseni. Ukuba useta i-alam yakho nge-6 a.m. yonke imihla, amaxesha amaninzi uya kuvuka kanye phambi kokuba i-alam ikhale. Kwaye unje, ndiyazi ukuba le alarm sele iza kucima, ke ndiza kuvuka ngoku kwaye ialarm yakho iyakhala. Ngokufanayo, ialam yokuchamela ibhedi ikunceda uziqeqeshe ukuze uvuke ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke ingozi.
Kodwa ngelixa uqeqesha umzimba wakho, ukuba awuvuki kwaye usethe kwakhona i-alamu ngokwakho, ukuba umama wakho uyakwenzela, ndiqinisekisa ukuba akuyi kusebenza. Kufana nje nokuba umama wakho ukuvusela esikolweni yonke imihla, akukho ndlela yokuba uya kuvuka ngaphambi kokuba umama wakho angene ukuze akukhuphele kwaye akungxolisa. Xa umzimba uyazi ukuba omnye umntu uza kujongana nengxaki, awufundi nto intsha. Kufana nokubukela omnye umntu ehlamba impahla. Bonke abo bantwana bafika ekholejini kwaye bafana, andizange ndihlambe iimpahla ngaphambili. Andazi ukuba ndenze njani! Kwaye babone umama wabo ekwenza amaxesha angama-8 ebhiliyoni. Kodwa abakayazi indlela yokwenza oko. Bade bazenzele ngokwabo ngelo xesha. Kwaye ke bathi, Owu, ndiyayifumana ngoku.
Nika umntu intlanzi uze umdlise imini enye; fundisa umntu ukuloba kwaye uyondla ubomi bakhe bonke.
Kulungile. Ukuba zisetyenziswe kakuhle, ii-alam zinokusebenza kakhulu. Kodwa kufuneka ibe kunye nesigulane esichanekileyo esiye senza utshintsho lokuziphatha ukukhuthaza impumelelo. Kukuzibophelela okude kwentsapho, kwaye ubudala bunento yokwenza noko.
