Ngexesha lokuvalelwa yedwa kunye nokuncitshiswa kwentlalo, ingqondo eqhelekileyo kunye Amagosa ezempilo kwisiXeko saseNew York zisixelela ukuba sikuphephe ukusondelelana naye nabani na esingahlali naye. Ke xa ungambambi umntu umenze i S.O yakho. njengokuba yayilixesha lokuphumla kwiKholeji yaseHampshire, unokuba nezinto ezininzi isondo sodwa . Ngoku singena kwiveki yekhulu-into yokuvalelwa, unokuba nomdla wokutshintsha izinto kunye nokwenza i-sexte yesakhono sakho esitsha esikude ekuhlaleni (okanye ubuncinci ukunyusa umdlalo wakho). Sicele iingcaphephe ngeengcebiso malunga nendlela yokuthumela i-sex ngeyona ndlela ikhuselekileyo kwaye inomvuzo. Cinga oku njengezona zenzo zilungileyo, uhlelo lwemifanekiso emdaka.
Okokuqala, yintoni echaza i-sexting? Ngaba isoloko imifanekiso ze?
Ukuthumela imiyalezo nge-Sexting kuko nakuphi na ukuthumela umyalezo/umyalezo wedijithali obandakanya intetho yezesondo okanye intetho engamanyala, iifoto, iimemes okanye iividiyo. Ngokwesiqhelo yenzelwe ukudlala ngothando okanye ukufuna ukuqinisekiswa, utshilo ugqirha wengqondo waseLos Angeles Kate Balestrieri .
Kukweliphi inqanaba kubudlelwane abantu abathumela i-sext?
I-sexting isetyenziswa kuzo zonke izigaba zokuthandana. Kuyingxenye yokutsala, ukudlala ngothando, ukwakha ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nokugcinwa kobomi bobulili, izimvo UChris Donaghue , SKYN Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye neNgcali yoKusondelelana kunye nomsasazi wenkqubo kanomathotholo eyaphinda yaziswa ebusuku LoveLine . U-Donahue uchaza ukuba kwabanye kubudlelwane babo obupheleleyo emntwini, 'akukho njongo ngaphandle kokusetyenziswa kwesondo ngexesha elinye. Kwaye kwabanye, yi-cherry engaphezulu komfanekiso omkhulu.
Kulungile,...uqala njani umntu? Kuba imvume ibaluleke ngokwenene, kodwa ukuthumela umyalezo komnye umntu Ngaba ndinayo imvume yakho yokukuthumelela i-sex ngoku? ikhangeleka ingekho-sexy kwaye ihlazo.
Imvume ihlala ingundoqo ngaphambi kokuba ube ne-frisky, kodwa ulwimi olukhethayo lunokuba yinxalenye yokwakha kunye nokudlala, endaweni yokuvakala njengefomu yemvume yeofisi kagqirha, u-Balestrieri uthi. Cinga ngokuthumela imiyalezo kuqala, ukuze uqiniseke ukuba umntu ofuna ukumthumelela i-sex ukwimeko efanelekileyo yengqondo kunye nendawo ngaphambi kokuba uqalise i-sext. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba awubazi kakuhle. Kuhle ukunqanda ukuthumela naziphi na iifoto ezisondeleleneyo de wazi ukuba babodwa, okanye ubuncinci bengekho nabazali babo okanye emsebenzini. U-Donaghue ucebisa ukuba angqale: Buza nje ukuba ‘Ngaba ukwi-sext?’ Ilula ngolo hlobo. Musa ukuyenza intsonkothe ngakumbi okanye ibe yemangalisayo kunoko. Fumana nje imvume yabo.
Uqinisekisa njani ukuba oko ukubhalayo—okanye umfanekiso owuthumelayo—uya kuwuvula? (Aargh, kufana nenye indlela yokuziva uneentloni.)
Ubuni bomntu wonke kunye netemplate evuselelayo yahlukile, ke gxila kwinto ekujikayo. Okukhona uthumela i-sex nomntu, kokukhona uya kufunda ngakumbi ngezinto ezimvuselelayo. Kuya kufuneka ubuze kwakhona, njengoko iyinxalenye yokuthumela imiyalezo ngemiyalezo ethunyelwa ngefowuni. Kodwa ayisiyoyabo kuphela, kulonwabo lwakho nawe, ke khokela ngento ofumanisa ukuba ivuselela ukuyithumela, utshilo uDonaghue. Oko kuthethiweyo, umlawuli wevidiyo (udutyulwe uHalsey kunye noTove Lo) uMalia James wanikezela ngamaqhinga kwi-optics xa ejoyina. Iimveliso ze-Foria zobudlelwane obusondeleyo kwi-Instagram Live i-sexting ifundisa-in: Ulusu olumanzi lubukeka luhle, watsho uJames, umzekelo ebhafini okanye emva kokuzilolonga. Ucebisa ukudlala ngesipili esincinci ukufumana ii-engile ozithandayo kwaye uqale ngokuthumela imifanekiso ehlekisayo ebonisa icandelo elincinci lolusu. Kwaye ukukhanya okukhanyayo kuhle, kodwa abafazi akufanele boyike ukubonisa imizimba yabo.
Umntu uzikhusela njani iisexts zakhe zisetyenziswa ngendlela angayifuniyo?
Ngelixa ekuphela kwendlela yokuba i-100-pesenti iqiniseke ukuba imifanekiso yakho kunye namagama awayi kuvuza kukungawathumeli kwasekuqaleni, iingcali ziyavuma ukuba kufuneka umisele ngokucacileyo ukuba ufuna imifanekiso yakho ichithwe okanye igcinwe bucala. Yiba nencoko kunye neqabane lakho le-sexting malunga nento oya kuyenza ngemifanekiso yomnye nomnye, nokuba ikhokelela kulonwabo emva okanye ngolonwabo ungaphinde uthethe omnye nomnye, uBalestrieri uthi. Ukongeza, khumbula ukuba amazwe amaninzi anento ebizwa ngokuba yimithetho yokubuyisela iphonografi ngezohlwayo kunye nexesha lokuvalelwa entolongweni kwizinto ezisasazwa ngaphandle kwemvume. Iindlela ezikhuselekileyo zokuthumela imiyalezo ngemiyalezo ethunyelwa ngefowuni zibandakanya ukungabonisi ubuso bakho okanye amalungu omzimba abonakalayo, izilumkiso zikaDonaghue.
Ke…kuthekani ukuba umntu akaqhelekanga ukuthetha kakhulu ngamaxesha asondeleleneyo? Ungacebisa izinto ezimbalwa ezinokwenza ibhola iqengqeleke?
UBalestrieri ucebisa oku njengemigca yokuqala:
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Ngaba uyafuna ukubona umfanekiso wendawo yam entsha yokuhlala kwindawo endikuyo? ;)
Ukuba bendicinga ngawe namhlanje ubuzondibamba?
Hayi. Ndiyibonile iprofayile yakho, kwaye njengale ndiyibonayo. Ngaba ulungele umdlalo womboniso kwaye uxele kamva?
Ube nefuthe kum… Ndiyayithanda. Ndifuna ubona?
UJames ucebisa ukuphuhlisa isigama sakho malunga nesondo ngaphambi kokuba uqalise ukuthumelana nomntu. Zama ukubhala eyakho i-erotica ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni ekonwabisayo. Nje ukuba uqalise i-sesh ye-sex, uJames uthi, ungatshintsha phakathi kwe-audio, isicatshulwa kunye nevidiyo ngendlela efanayo ukuba unokutshintsha iindawo zesini ... ukuze ukholise wena kunye neqabane lakho. Okanye, ukuba uziva uneentloni, uYakobi ucebisa ukuba uthathe uxinzelelo kubuchule bakho bokubhala kunye ukufunda i-erotica kubanye ngabanye. Ke, yibale loo nto njengoloyiso kwi-bookworm yakho yangaphakathi.
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