Ukuthandana , ngokubanzi, kunokuba nzima ngokwaneleyo ngaphandle kwesoyikiso sendyikityha yehlabathi jikelele ezayo.
Kwaye, kunye nezigunyaziso zomgama wentlalo kwindawo kunye neeresityu kunye nemivalo kwihlabathi liphela ivaliwe kwishishini kwikamva elibonakalayo, umbono wokuthandana njengoko sisazi ukuba uguqulwe ngokupheleleyo.
Nangona kunokuziva ngathi akunakwenzeka yenza unxibelelwano lokwenyani nomntu okhethekileyo ngoku, ingcali ukuthandana umqeqeshi UMateyu Hussey ikholelwa ukuba inokukusebenzela ngokupheleleyo - konke kukhuseleko lwekhaya lakho.
Ikhredithi: In The Know
Kutshanje uye wahlala phantsi Kulwazi ukwabelana ngeengcebiso kunye neengcebiso zokuthandana kwindawo yodwa-kwinqanaba ngalinye lobudlelwane.
Abangatshatanga
Isifundo ekufuneka usigcine engqondweni njengoko uskrola kwi-Instagram ukubukela ibali emva kwebali lezibini ezonwabileyo ezibhaka isonka esimuncu kunye? Musa ukuzithelekisa nabo, utsho uHussey.
Baninzi abantu abajonga abanye abantu kubudlelwane kwaye bazive ngathi basemva, uyachaza. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukusebenza ngokuqhubekayo ngeli xesha.
Ukuzifaka kumdlalo, u-Hussey ucebisa ukufikelela kubantu abathandanayo kunye nokwenza incoko - kodwa, qiniseka ukuba uvumela ubuntu bakho bukhanye, ngakumbi kwimiyalezo yakho yokuqala.
Ungoyiki ukuba ngowokuqala ukuthi 'hi' okanye ukuthumela umyalezo, ucebisa. Kodwa, into ebalulekileyo ngoku kukudala yokwenyani uqhagamshelwano. Mininzi imiyalezo ethunyelwayo phakathi kwabantu ngoku, kwaye kulula ngokwenene ukungawuhoyi umyalezo xa umntu esithi, ‘Molo, kunjani?’ Akukho buntu koko kwaphela. Ininzi into ekufuneka siyenze kukuzisa ngakumbi ubuntu bethu etafileni.
Ukuba ubani uthi, ‘Hee, unjani?’ Musa ukuthi, ‘Ndiyaphila, enkosi, enkosi?’ Wongeza. Ngokwenene nika ulwazi oluthile. 'Ndilungile. Ndihleli ndibukele u-‘Beauty and the Beast’ nodade wethu omncinane ngoku.’
Le mpendulo yesibini, u-Hussey uthi, yenza umfanekiso wakho onamacala amathathu kwaye ivumela imihla enokubakho ukuba iqhagamshelane nawe kwinqanaba elinzulu ukusuka elulwaneni.
U-Hussey ukwalumkisa malunga nokuvaleleka kumjikelo wokuthumela imiyalezo ngemidlalo emitsha - enye yezona mpazamo ezinkulu ze-singles zithandwa kakhulu kule ndawo ingazange ibonwe ngaphambili.
Maxa wambi siye sivakalelwe kukuba, ‘Ukuba abandithumeli imiyalezo, andiyi kubathumelela umyalezo.’ Kodwa into esiyilibalayo kukuba lo mntu akasazi ngokwaneleyo ukuba angasikhathalela, uyacacisa.
Endaweni yokuba abaleke kule meko, u-Hussey ucebisa ukuba asondele ngenkalipho ukunqanda ukuzinza.
Xelela omnye umntu ukuba, ‘Owu, ufanele unditsalele umnxeba kamva. Kuya kuba kuhle ukuva ilizwi lakho, ”utshilo. Kufuneka ufumane umfutho kwaye uqhubele phambili. Musa ukuvalelwa kumjikelo wemiyalezo yeeveki ezimbini kwaye uqaphele, ‘Andikayazi nokuba lo mntu uvakala njani okanye ujongeka njani kwividiyo.’
Ubudlelwane obutsha
Ukuvalelwa kunye kunokwenza okanye kwaphule izibini ezitsha - athi uHussey inokuba yintsikelelo ekuzifihleni.
Ngoku uvuka ekuseni nomntu, ngoku umbona xa ediniwe ekupheleni kosuku lwakhe kwaye akukho mandla ashiyekileyo ukuze abe nomtsalane kuwe, utsho. Oko kunokusenza sipeyinte umfanekiso ochanekileyo ngakumbi womntu ukuze sithathe isigqibo sokuba ungumntu ofanelekileyo okanye hayi.
Nangona u-Hussey evuma ukuba kunokuba mnandi ukudlala indlu neqabane ovalelwe kulo, uyalumkisa ukuba uqiniseke ukuba uzenzela indawo, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano olusempilweni.
Olunye uvavanyo lokwenene kulwalamano luthi, ‘Ngaba ndinokuhlala ndifunde le ncwadi ndifuna ukuyifunda ngaphandle kokuziva ndinetyala lokuba ulapha ngoku?’ uyaphawula.
Ubudlelwane bexesha elide
Nangona unokuthi uvalelwe kunye neqabane lakho 24/7, u-Hussey ulumkisa ukuba uqaphele ukuba usachitha ingqondo, ixesha lokuqonda kunye kunokuba waneliseke ngokungenangqondo ngokuhlala ecaleni komnye imini yonke.
Yiba nenjongo yokwenene ngokuthi kwiqabane lakho, ‘Heyi, kutheni singenzi umboniso bhanyabhanya ofanelekileyo ngokuhlwa nje?’ Okanye, ‘Ndiza kukuphekela isidlo sangokuhlwa ngokuhlwanje,’ uyacacisa. Xa uceba elo xesha, liba ngcwele kwaye kufuneka ulihloniphe. Ikwanika ingqwalasela emsebenzini wakho kuba ngoku uya kuthi, ‘Kufuneka ndigqibe ngesithandathu kuba ndinomhla ngokuhlwanje!’
U-Hussey ukwathi ungumlandeli omkhulu wokuphuma yonke le minyhadala ikhethekileyo.
Ukuba wenza ubusuku be-movie, yenze ubusuku obuhle, obune-themed movie, ucebisa. Guqula igumbi lokuhlala libe yindawo yemidlalo yeqonga!
Ubudlelwane Obude
Nokuba uhlala umgama omde kunye ne-boo yakho okanye lo bhubhani ukunyanzele ukuba ube kule meko, u-Hussey uyavuma ukuba inokubeka uxinzelelo kubudlelwane.
Kodwa kunokuba uzisole, umqeqeshi wokuthandana uthi yamkela kwaye emva koko uqhubele phambili ukukhangela iindlela zokubhiyozela uthando lwakho.
Ke anikwazi ukubonana ngoku - zinikezele kuloo nto, yindlela nje eyiyo, utsho. Yamkele.
Endaweni yokubethela intloko eludongeni ngenxa yokuphoxeka, u-Hussey ucebisa ukuba uhloniphe ubugcisa bonxibelelwano lwakho njengoko kunjalo ngoku endaweni yokuhlala ngethemba lento enokuza kamva xa konke oku kuphelile.
Ukwahlukana
Ke ... mhlawumbi ubudlelwane bakho abuzange buphele, nokuba kungenxa yoxinzelelo olunxulumene ne-corona okanye kuba ibilixesha elizayo.
Nangona eli inokuba lixesha elinzima kakhulu lokumelana nalo, u-Hussey uthi kufuneka uzivumele ixesha lokuphilisa, kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ungadlula kule nto.
Kukho ezinye izinto malunga nayo eziya kuba nzima ngakumbi, uyachaza. Unamathele wedwa ngeengcinga zakho ukuba uhlala wedwa, kodwa iya kunika indlela.
Ndiza kwamkela ukuba uninzi lwemini yam, ndinokuba ndihambahamba njenge zombie - kwaye ndingafi nje kubantu abangaphandle, kodwa ndisifa ngaphakathi, waqhula. Mandiyamkele lonto ndinikezele kuloo nto. Kodwa, ukuba unokudala nje imizuzu eyongezelelweyo [usuku ngalunye] apho uziva ungcono kancinci, yinjongo elawulekayo leyo, kwaye yiloo nto abantu ekufuneka bagxile kuyo ngeli xesha.
Ukuba ulonwabele eli nqaku, funda ngakumbi virtual ukuthandana amacebiso evela ingcali Serena Kerrigan.
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