Emva kobusuku obuninzi obune-cranky kunye neentsasa ezifakwe ikofu, ekugqibeleni uye wagqiba ekubeni unike uqeqesho lokulala ukuhamba. Apha, enye yezona ndlela zidumileyo-kunye neziphikisanayo zichazwe.
Ferber, ngubani ngoku? Ugqirha wabantwana nowayesakuba ngumlawuli weZiko leZiphazamiso zokulala kwabantwana kwiSibhedlele saBantwana eBoston, uGqr. Richard Ferber wapapasha incwadi yakhe. Sombulula Iingxaki Zokulala Zomntwana Wakho ngo-1985 kwaye yatshintsha kakhulu indlela iintsana (kunye nabazali bazo) abaye basnuza ngayo ukususela ngoko.
Ngoko yintoni? Ngamafutshane, yindlela yokuqeqesha ubuthongo apho abantwana bafunda indlela yokuzithuthuzela ukuze balale (ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokukhala) xa sele belungile, ngokuqhelekileyo malunga neenyanga ezintlanu ubudala.
Ingaba isebenza kanjani? Okokuqala, landela inkqubo yokulala enenkathalo (njengokuhlamba kunye nokufunda incwadi) ngaphambi kokulalisa umntwana wakho xa esozela kodwa esavukile. Emva koko (kwaye nantsi inxalenye enzima) ushiya igumbi-nokuba umntwana wakho uyakhala. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaphixana, ungangena ukuze umthuthuzele (ngokumbambatha nokumnika amazwi athuthuzelayo, kungekhona ngokumphakamisa) kodwa, kwakhona, uqinisekise ukuba uhamba ngoxa esavukile. Ubusuku ngabunye, unyusa ubungakanani bexesha phakathi kwezi zitshekhiwo, ezibizwa uFerber ngokuthi 'ukulinda okuqhubekayo.' Ngobusuku bokuqala, unokuhamba uye kuthuthuzela umntwana wakho rhoqo ngemizuzu emithathu, emihlanu kunye neshumi (kunye nemizuzu elishumi lelona xesha liphezulu lekhefu, nangona ubuya kuqalisa ngemizuzu emithathu ukuba uyavuka kamva). Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kamva, usenokuba usebenze ukuya kuthi ga kwi-20-, 25- kunye nemizuzu engama-30 yokungena.
Kutheni oku kusebenza? Ithiyori yeyokuba emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa zokwandisa kancinci kancinci ixesha lokulinda, uninzi lweentsana luya kuqonda ukuba ukukhala kubenza bafumane ukukhangela ngokukhawuleza kuwe kwaye bafunde ukulala ngokwabo. Le ndlela ikwasusa unxulumano olungancediyo ngexesha lokulala (njengokugonwa nomama) ukuze umntwana wakho (ngokwethiyori) angabi safuna okanye akulindele xa evuka ezinzulwini zobusuku.
Ngaba oku kuyafana nendlela yokukhala? Ewe, kunjalo. Indlela yeFerber ine-rep embi kunye nabazali abaninzi banexhala lokushiya umntwana wabo yedwa ukuba akhale kwi-crib yabo ubusuku bonke. Kodwa uFerber uyakhawuleza ukucacisa ukuba indlela yakhe eneneni igxile ekuphelisweni ngokuthe ngcembe, oko kukuthi, ukulibazisa ixesha phakathi kokuvuka kunye nokuthuthuzela ngamaxesha aqhelekileyo. Isiteketiso esingcono sinokuba yindlela yokukhangela kunye ne-console. Ndiyifumene? Ubusuku obuhle kunye nethamsanqa.
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