Uninzi Isidanga abagqatswa babanga ukuba bafuna ukutshata nomhlobo wabo osenyongweni, kodwa uDylan, 24, kunye noMary-Louise, 26, baye benza njalo. Hayi, uDylan noMary-Louise asingabo abathandana nabo abazibiza ngokuba ngabahlobo abasenyongweni. Ngokuqinisekileyo bayathandana, kodwa bayiloo nto bayibiza ngokuba ngabahlobo abangamahlakani. Emva kokuhlala njengabalingane beplatonic kunye nabahlala nabo iminyaka emibini e-NYC, bagqiba kwelokuba bayibeke ephepheni. Bathatha uloliwe ukuya kwiHolo yeSixeko kwaye, i-$ 35 kamva, imeko yabo-inqanawa yayisemthethweni. Siyibiza ngokuba ngumtshato wobuhlobo. Nantsi yonke into ekufuneka uyazi malunga nendlela.
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USARAH CLARE SIMONEYintoni kanye kanye umtshato wobuhlobo? (Kwaye ungabhalisa eWest Elm?) Ndaweni ethile phakathi komtshato wesintu kunye Intando kunye noGrace ngumtshato wobuhlobo, othi ngokwasemthethweni waziwa ngokuba yintsebenziswano yasekhaya. Ubudlelwane basekhaya yindlela esemthethweni ngokupheleleyo yokuba abantu ababini babonise umhlaba ukuba batyebile njengamasela. Imithetho: Kufuneka nihlale kunye, kwaye aninako ukutshata nomnye umntu. Nje ukuba umntu ahambe ezantsi epasejini nomnye umntu, ubambiswano lwasekhaya luyaphela ngomlingo njengoMarty McFly kwifoto. (Yaye, kambe ke, imithetho isenokwahluka ngokwelizwe.) Umahluko phakathi komtshato othe rhoqo wasekhaya nomtshato wobuhlobo kukuba, nomtshato wobuhlobo, isibini siwubhiyozela njengomtshato wesithethe. Kwaye ewe, ungabhalisa naphi na apho uthanda khona!
Kulungile, kodwa kutheni utshata umhlobo-utshate? Intsebenziswano yasekhaya (ekwabizwa ngokuba yimibutho yoluntu) yayiyilelwe ukunika amaqabane esini esinye inzuzo efanayo-ezoqoqosho kunye ne-noneconomic-njengezibini ezitshatileyo ngaphandle kokutshata kwabo ngokwenene (khumbula, imitshato yesini esifanayo yayingekho semthethweni kude kube kutshanje). Kodwa abanye abantu, njengoDylan noMary-Louise, abatshatanga kodwa basafuna izibonelelo zobudlelwane obusemthethweni. Yicinge ngolu hlobo: ngokoqobo luhlobo lwento yabahlobo-kunye-nezibonelelo, kodwa endaweni yokutshintshisa ii-backrubs kunye neefowuni zokuphanga, bafumana i-inshurensi yezempilo kunye namalungelo okutyelela esibhedlele.
Kwaye ubhiyozela njani? Nangona kunjalo ufuna! Kwimeko kaDylan noMary-Louise, babenesidlo sokuziqhelanisa ngobusuku obudlulileyo kunye neqela labo eFlatbush (abahlali abahlanu, igumbi lokuhlambela elinye, wow!). Bade bafumana ibhotile ebomvu ebizwa Abahlanu Abahlobo kwivenkile yewayini ekufutshane. Ngomhla omkhulu, uMary-Louise wayenxibe ilokhwe emhlophe yesmock kwaye ephethe isipha seentyatyambo zikajongilanga.
USARAH CLARE SIMONEAyinakuba semthethweni ngokwenyani * emehlweni e-Instagram * ngaphandle kwefoto ethandekayo. Ngokunyaniseka, iifoto zomzala wakho wetshizi azinanto kuDylan noMary-Louise. imifanekiso. Njengoko ithamsanqa liza kuba nalo, omnye wabahlali abahlala naye ngu umfoti onesiphiwo kwaye wasiqwenga esi sibini sihambahamba kwiMangcwaba aseGreen-Wood eBrooklyn. Iziphumo zezona pics zisempilweni #DP kwi-intanethi. Uthando lokwenene kwaye bunjalo nobuhlobo! U-Howdy Partner, umyeni ubhalwe kwi-Instagram nge-cowboy emoji. Wade waguqa ngedolo elinye. Umtshakazi wayethwele umnqwazi webhakethi.
Ndingazifumanela njani iDylan okanye uMary-Louise? Njengayo nayiphi na i-rom-com elungileyo, yaqala nge-meet-cute. Emva koMatshi ka-Women ngo-2017, uDylan noMary-Louise bobabini babekwi-Starbucks e-Covent Garden, eLondon. Xa weva intetho yakhe yaseMelika, wabuza ukuba uvela phi kwaye enye yimbali.
Okungcono, iintsapho zabo zixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo. Bayayazi indlela esisondelelene ngayo kwaye sikhupha okona kulungileyo omnye komnye, uDylan wagungqa. Omabini amacala anemincili. Esi sibini sinethemba lokuba lo mkhwa uya kukhuthaza abanye abahlobo abangatshatanga ukuba benze okufanayo. Ewe, sinokucinga ukuba iipesenti ezingama-99.9 zamaqabane asekhaya athandana. Kodwa kutheni uvumela ezo zibini zonwabe?
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