Ndiziva ngathi lo ibingunyaka ebendinokuthi ndidibane nomntu, uMorgan oneminyaka engama-31 ubudala wazityand’ igila ngexesha lokubanjwa kweZoom nabahlobo abasasazeke kwilizwe lonke. Ke ngoku uye ubhubhane wakho ukuthandana amava okunene ibe ngathi? wabuza omnye umhlobo. Okothusayo kukuba, ubomi bukaMorgan bokuthandana, nangona buphazanyiswe yi-COVID-19, abulahlekanga kwaphela. Ngapha koko, into ayichazayo-ixesha elide lokuthumela imiyalezo, ukuxhoma okubonakalayo kunye namaxesha athile (anqabile kakhulu) ukudibana kwekofu yangaphandle-yavakala intle, ndingathi, usempilweni ngokuchaseneyo neentlanganiso zokuqala ze-IRL zangaphambi kwe-coronavirus ezinyanzeliswe kukunqumama okungathandekiyo. (intlekele), isiporho kunye/okanye izigqibo zomlilo okhawulezileyo ezisekelwe kulwazi oluncinane kakhulu. Kwaye kukho igama lale nto: Ingxelo kaBumble ka-2021 yokuthandana uyibiza ngokucothayo ukuthandana. Ke, ngelixa iwaka leminyaka elinye elifana nomhlobo wam linokuba nexhala ngenxa yamathuba othando alahlekileyo ngenxa yobhubhane, iingcali zibona isilivere ekucothiseni. Nantsi isizathu.
Yintoni ‘ukuthandana ngokucothayo’?
Ngokwe-Bumble, ukucotha ukuthandana yindlela abantu abathatha ixesha lokwazana kunye nokwakha unxibelelwano ngaphambi kokuba bathathe isigqibo sokuba bafuna ukulandela ubudlelwane okanye badibane nomntu. Kwaye akumangalisi ukuba, lo mcimbi uvele kumanyathelo okhuseleko ngenxa ye-COVID-19, ekhokelele kulwazi olunzulu ngakumbi lokwazana, kunye nemida yomnye nomnye, ukuqinisekisa ukuba umdlalo ufanelekile ukuba ube sempilweni. umngcipheko wokuhlangana.
Isiphumo? Amashumi amahlanu anesihlanu eepesenti abantu kwiBumble bathatha ixesha elide ukuhambisa umdlalo ngaphandle kweintanethi. UJemma Ahmed, intloko yokuqonda eBumble, ukholelwa ukuba oku kunxulumene nokuba nexesha kunye neemeko-ubhubhani uya kutshintsha imbono yakho-ucinga nzulu malunga nento abayifunayo kubudlelwane. Abantu baqala ukuzazi ngakumbi, utshilo u-Ahmed. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, bathatha ixesha lokufumanisa ukuba ngubani na ongafanelekanga kubo.
Ngoko kutheni le nto inokuba yinto entle?
Ukongeza kokuthatha ixesha lokuvavanya izinto eziphambili kuwe, Jordan Green , ugqirha onelayisensi yeklinikhi osebenza nabo bobabini abantu kunye nezibini (landela @the.love.therapist amaqashiso inspo kunye neengcebiso zemfundo), uye wabona ukuba abanye, ukuthandana phantse kubavumele ixesha ngokwenene ukwazi omnye umntu phambi kokutsiba nzulu kakhulu. Abantu bachitha ixesha elininzi besazana kwaye bachitha ixesha elingakumbi kwiqonga 'lobugqwetha' ngaphambi kokuba babelane ngesondo. Kutheni le nto iyinto entle? Ewe, ngokukaGreen, abantu abaninzi bakufumanisa kulula ukuvula malunga nezinto ezikhethwayo, eziphambili, uloyiko, amathemba kunye neemvakalelo ngelixa uthandana ngokungafaniyo nomntu. Oku kwenza kube lula ukutshabalalisa abantu abangenazo iimpawu kunye neenjongo ezifanayo. Kwakhona kwenza kube lula ukwazi umntu ngokukhawuleza, uGreen uyacacisa.
USusan Trombetti, umenzi wemidlalo kunye ne-CEO ye Ukuthelekisa okuKhethekileyo kwakhona ubone okulungileyo kubhubhane ukuthandana shift. Abantu bathanda ukuswayipha kakhulu kwii-apps zokuthandana, bezama ukufumana 'uhlobo olugqibeleleyo,' olungekhoyo, utshilo. Ngokuphumla ngakumbi, isantya sobulumko, umntu owakha wazizalisekisa iqula elingekhoyo ngoku landile. Kwaye idatha ayixoki: iipesenti ezingama-38 zabantu kwiBumble bathi ukutshixa kubenze bafune into ebaluleke ngakumbi. Kumava omdlalo kaTrombetti, abantu abangabodwa abalahlekelwanga nto. Endaweni yoko, [Baye] bazuza idambu elikhulu labantu abathandanayo ababuthathela ingqalelo ngakumbi ubudlelwane, kwaye oko ibe lurhwebo olumangalisayo kuwo nawaphi na amathuba oziva ulahlekile. Xa unxibelelana nomntu, azikho phezulu malunga nokuthandana kwaye amathuba akho okwakha ubudlelwane bokwenyani anyuke kakhulu.
Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uxelele bonke abahlobo bakho abangatshatanga abaphoxekileyo ukuba bazole (okanye nayiphi na enye yezi faux eziqhelekileyo pas )? Hayi. Wonke umntu uya kwaye ufumene olu tshintsho lokuthandana (kwaye wonke 2020 kulo mbandela) ngokwahlukileyo. Kubantu abangenamdla kubudlelwane kodwa banqwenela ukudibana okungaqhelekanga, ngeli xesha kunokuba nesithukuthezi esimangalisayo. Akukho ubungakanani obufanayo-bonke. Kodwa ukuba wena, njengomhlobo wam uMorgan, uyasokola ingcinga yexesha elilahlekileyo, zama ukuthabatha inyathelo emva kwaye ubone ukuba zeziphi iinguqu eziye zavela kubomi bakho bokuthandana obufanele ukuzisa kwixesha elizayo kuwe. Unga, kancinci, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, ubone ukuba oku kuya kukusa phi.
EZIXHELEKILEYO: Izinto ezi-2 ekufuneka uziseke phambi koMhla wokuQala ngo-2021
