Ukuba ubunokuvala amehlo akho umzuzu kwaye ucinge malunga nosuku lwakho, ngawaphi amabinzana owakhumbulayo uwathetha ebantwaneni bakho ngokuphinda? Amathuba amagama qaphela! bakhwazwa kanye okanye kabini (mhlawumbi kunye nokungabethelwa! kwaye ngubani owenze oku?). Kodwa oko akukubi kangako, akunjalo? Uzama nje ukugcina abantwana bakho-kunye nabani na owela indlela yabo-ngaphandle kwengozi.
Kodwa nantsi into: Ukuhlala uxelela abantwana ukuba balumke kuthetha ukuba abayi kufunda ukuthatha umngcipheko okanye ukwenza iimpazamo. Ngokusisiseko ngamagama amabini alingana nehelikopta yokukhulisa abantwana (kunye nomzala wakhe, umzali wekhephu).
Ukuthatha umngcipheko kuthetha ukusilela ngamanye amaxesha, ubhala ingcali yabazali uJamie Glowacki Owu Crap! NdinoMntwana . Ukuba awukhe uthathe umngcipheko, ukuba uyidlala ngokukhuselekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha, uyoyika ukwenza impazamo. Uba noloyiko lokungaphumeleli. Iimpembelelo zesi simo sengqondo singundoqo zichaphazela abantu kubo bonke ubomi babo. Khumbula, ukungaphumeleli akuyonto imbi-enyanisweni, ukuphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela kuhlala kuhamba kunye nempumelelo. (Vele ubuze Oprah Winfrey , Bill Gates okanye Vera Wang ).
Yaye nantsi enye into omele uyiqwalasele—ukukhwaza qaphela ukuba umntwana ojiwuze ngovuyo kwiinkawu zenkawu ubathumelela isigidimi sokuba awusithembi isigwebo sabo okanye kukho iingozi ezifihlakeleyo ezibonwa ngabantu abadala kuphela. Lawula ukuzithemba kunye nexhala. Inyaniso, isifundo esinye esivela kwiZiko leYunivesithi yaseMacquarie yeMpilo yoMphefumlo bafumanise ukuba ukungakhuthazi abantwana ukuba bathathe umngcipheko kunokubangela imiba yokuxhalaba kamva.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ngathi uza kuwa okanye azilimaze? Usenokumangaliswa yinto enokwenziwa ngumntwana wakho, utsho uGlowacki. Xa siluma imilebe yethu, sibambe 'ulumke,' phantse sisoloko sifumanisa ukuba abantwana bethu balungile kwaye banobuchule obungaphezulu kunokuba besicinga. Bangakwazi ukuhamba ngomngcipheko wabo ngcono kunokuba sicinga. Ngelixa banokwenza iimpazamo ezithile endleleni, ngokuqinisekileyo baya kuba nempumelelo epholileyo. Uvavanyo lomngcipheko luyakhula kwaye luyaqhakaza kule ndawo. Qaphela: Kukho iimeko ezithile (masithi, kwindawo yokupaka ephithizelayo) apho amagama athi qaphela afanelekile ngokupheleleyo-kwaye ayimfuneko.
Khangela, xa ukhwaza umntwana wakho ukuba uqaphele! kwibala lokudlala, ngokucacileyo awuzami ukuthintela uphuhliso lwabo. Yintoni wena ngokwenene ukucela luvavanyo lomngcipheko. Umthandi wendalo, umntu onomdla kunye nomama wabane uJosée Bergeron we BackwoodsMama.com iyasiphula: endaweni yokukhula kobunzima, zama ukusebenzisa eli thuba njengethuba lokukhuthaza ulwazi nokusombulula iingxaki. Nanga amanye amacebiso avela eBergeron (kunye nambalwa kuthi) ngendlela yokukhuthaza ezi zakhono zibalulekileyo endaweni yoko yokubhenela kumagama lumka.
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