Sothuka kakhulu kukuva oko, ngokophononongo olwenziwe ngu Ucingo lomtshato , 63 ekhulwini millennials ingxelo ngokufanelekileyo becela imvume phambi kokuba bacebise. Yhuu. Sasingazi ukuba isiko lesikolo sakudala lisengundoqo. Sinomdla njengakuqala, sigqibe kwelokuba sivotele eyethu inethiwekhi kwaye safumanisa ukuba izibalo ziyinyani evakalayo...kodwa ngokujija okunomdla. Nantsi into esiyifundileyo kwi-16 yokwenyani, izibini zanamhlanje.
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Amashumi amabini anamashumi amabiniBENZA IINTLOKO KUNOKUBA BABUZE
Umyeni wam akazange ayicele imvume ngokwenene, kodwa wayefuna ukuhlala phantsi notata ukuze abelane ngolonwabo lwakhe nendlela awayendithanda ngayo, aze amxelele ukuba ufuna ukundinyamekela ubomi bethu bonke! - UBecky G.
Ndithe ndisando jola ngo October wabe umntu endithandana naye wathetha nabazali bam bobabini kodwa ibingeyo mvume tuu. Ibikukubazisa kwakhe ukuba uza kucela. Kwakubonakala kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ngakumbi njengeendaba ezilungileyo kunokuba ufune imvume! - Deepanjali B.
Umyeni wam wamtsalela umnxeba utata waza wambuza, ‘Ngaba bekuya kulunga ukuba bendinokukubiza ngokuthi tata, ngokusemthethweni?’ Ndandithanda ukuba abazali bam babesazi yaye babonisana (ngokuchulumancisayo), kodwa kwakhona ndayiqonda into yokuba engazange ayicele imvume yabo. Bendisoloko ndifumanisa ukuba ingqikelelo yangomhla kwaye ayiqhelekanga. - UAlisa B.
Iqabane lam lenzile. Hayi kakhulu ngenxa yokuba wayevakalelwa kukuba kufuneka ‘acele imvume,’ kodwa ngenxa yokuba wayefuna ukuseka ngakumbi ubuhlobo bomntu omnye notata. Babengazange bathethe emnxebeni ngaphambili—wayengenayo nenombolo yomnxeba katata—ngoko wayecinga ukuba yayilixesha elilungileyo lokuqalisa ukomeleza olo manyano ukuba siza kuba yintsapho enye enkulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo ibenze basondela ngakumbi. - Lindsay C.
'Uxelele, kunokuba abuze, utata wam. Yayimalunga nokwabelana ngochulumanco kunokucela imvume.'- Elizabeth P.
Yagi-Studio / PureWowBabuza Intsapho Yonke, Hayi NguTata Kuphela
Umyeni wam wabuza usapho lwam lonke ngosuku lweKrisimesi kulo nyaka uphelileyo. Utata, umama, abantakwethu ababini kunye nodade wethu. Silusapho olusondeleleneyo ngoko wacinga ukuba makabuze wonke umntu. Utata wam wachukumiseka kakhulu kuba wafaka neqela lemigulukudu. Ndandingazi kwaye wonke umntu wayesazi iintsuku ezimbini ngaphambi kokuba andibuze! - Emma G.
Umyeni wam wabacela bobabini abazali bam ngesidlo sangokuhlwa. Wayefuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba umama wam ufakiwe kwaye wayengabuzi nje utata. Yayithetha lukhulu kuye. Umyeni kadade wethu kungekudala wenza okufanayo. - UErin B.
Iqabane lam lacela imvume—kubazali bam. Yayilibali elihlekisayo: wahamba isidlo sangokuhlwa sonke encokola nabo kwaye walibala ukubabuza de kwaba sekupheleni. Ayiphelelanga apho, kodwa kuba sisabelana ngekhalenda, bendisazi ukuba kulapho ‘isidlo sangokuhlwa seshishini’ sikhoyo. Wabuza abazali bam bobabini kuba wayebona ngathi bubalulekile ubuhlobo babo nobudlelwane bakhe bekamva njengomkhwenyana wabo. - UMarguerite B.
Ngandlela ithile iqabane lam lafumana imizuzwana yokudlula lize lithethe notata, liringe esandleni. Umama wangena kubo waza waqonda ukuba kwenzekani waza wathi, 'Kutheni ungandibuzi nje?!' Baphela yintsini. Later on after the engagement utata wandigezela esithi ufune ukundifaka umsesane! - UMaeve K.
Amashumi amabini anamashumi amabiniEzinye Izibini Zanamhlanje Ziphelele Ngokupheleleyo KwiSiko
Umyeni wam akazange acele mvume. Xa ebuzwa, wayenokuthi isithethe siyaphikisana nemilinganiselo yakhe yobufazi. Siyavuma ukuba ndingazenzela izigqibo. Utata uthe ngekhe wothukile ukuba uPete ubuze, kwaye uMama wam (umfazi ozimeleyo owomeleleyo) ebeya kuba lolona khetho lufanelekileyo. -Laura D.
UMax akazange ababuze abazali bam kuba esithi uyazi ukuba baza kuthi ‘babuze kuye’; eyaphela iyiyo kanye le bayithethayo emva kwenyani xa sithetha ngayo. Baziva ngathi abafanelanga ukuba yinxalenye yenxaki ngaphandle kokuba yinxalenye yombhiyozo! - UMolly S.
Iqabane lam alizange libabuze abazali bam kuba lalifuna ukuthetha ngalo mba. Ndamxelela ukuba ewe, kwaye ndacinga ukuba kumnandi kwaye kumnandi kakhulu, kodwa ukudibana kwethu bekungayi kuba semthethweni ade afumane intsikelelo yabo. - UGrace C.
UnsplashKodwa uninzi lwabantu basasihlonipha isiko
'Isithandwa sam sacela imvume kutata phambi kokuba andifunele umtshato, nto leyo endandicinga ukuba intle kakhulu kuba asiyonto esasikhe sayixoxa ngaphambili. Ndicinga ukuba yindlela entle yokunika usapho lwakho iintloko phezulu. Kodwa ndicinga ukuba ngokuyintloko wayekujonga njengento nje ebonisa intlonelo yaye wayefuna ukuqiniseka ukuba uyasikelelwa ngutata.' -UMel M.
'Iqabane lam liye latyelela abazali bam laza labaxelela isizathu sokuba lifune ukunditshata, into elalithembise ukuyenza, laza lacela imvume yabo. Yayibonisa intlonelo enzulu yaye yayithetha lukhulu kuthi sonke!' -Devan K.
'Umyeni wam wabuza abazali bam kuba ekhulele kwikhaya lesintu kwaye wayefuna imvume/intlonipho yabo. Abazali bam bangabantu abaqhelekileyo, nabo.' - Liza W.
'Iqabane lam labuza abazali bam, kwaye ndicinga ukuba bothuswe kukuba ndibe nomntu obuza! Kodwa eneneni bendicinga ukuba ndiswiti. Yaye oko kwakuthetha lukhulu kubo. Ndivakalelwa kukuba kusanceda kulwalamano lwakhe nabo.' - UKaryn S.
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