Nokuba ufikelele kwinqanaba elibalulekileyo, uye wadlula kwindawo embi okanye ufuna nje isizathu sokuya epatini nabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni, inqaku lokuhlaziya isifungo kukubhiyozela umtshato wakho. Kwaye ngokungafaniyo nexesha lokuqala (xa u-Anti uKaren efuna ngokungapheliyo malunga nemenyu akuqhubele eludongeni), ngeli xesha konke malunga nokukhumbula ubudlelwane bakho kwindawo ephantsi kunye ne-stress-free. Nantsi indlela yokucwangcisa uhlaziyo lwesibhambathiso.
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Yintoni uhlaziyo lwesibhambathiso?
Intlupheko isegameni: Ukuhlaziya isibhambathiso kuxa isibini sihlaziya izifungo esasenza omnye komnye xa sasiqala ukutshata. Yindlela yokubhiyozela uthando lwabo ngelixa bevuma ukuba lutshintshe njani ixesha. Kodwa inye into ukuhlaziya isibhambathiso hayi ? Umtshato wesibini. Injongo yombhiyozo okhululekileyo kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo (o.k.t., akukho ludwe lweendwendwe oluyi-150).
Kutheni ukwenza isifungo ngokutsha?
Ingcamango emva kokuhlaziywa kwesifungo kukukhumbula umtshato wakho, nto leyo isibini esinokugqiba ekubeni sikwenze nanini na. Kodwa kukho iziganeko ezimbalwa zobomi ezinokuthi zikhuthaze isibini ukuba sitsho ukuba ndiyaphinda, njenge...
- Sisikhumbuzo somtshato esibalulekileyo (hey, iminyaka engama-20 kunye asiyonto encinci).
- Uthethile okokuqala xa utshintshisa izifungo zakho kwaye ngoku ungathanda ukubhiyozela nabahlobo kunye nosapho.
- Niwoyisile umqobo omkhulu kunye kwaye nifuna ukukhumbula eso sihlandlo.
- Udlule kwindawo embi kubudlelwane bakho kwaye wenze ukuba kwelinye icala lomelele kunangaphambili.
14 Yenza kunye nokungaManzi kwiSibhambathiso soHlaziyo
Yenza: Khetha indawo enentsingiselo kuwe. Nokuba yicawe, igadi yakho engasemva okanye indawo yokutyela oyithandayo, khetha indawo enentsingiselo kubudlelwane bakho.
Musa: Nxiba ilokhwe yomtshato. Sikhumbuzo: Ayingomtshato wesibini lo. Oko akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukugqoka ilokhwe emhlophe okanye igawuni entle ukuba uyafuna, kodwa akukho mfuneko yokuba uhambe nge-rigmarole yokuthenga iimpahla kunye nomamazala wakho, ulahla intywenka yemali kwinto onayo. Uyakunxiba kube kanye kuphela kwaye uye kwizifakelo ezininzi.
Musa: Yiba netheko lomtshakazi. Zive ukhululekile ukucela isicakakazi sakho sokuqala sembeko okanye eyona ndoda ilungileyo ukuba ime nawe ngezizathu ezivakalayo, kodwa ukucela ukuba abahlobo bakho bathenge iilokhwe ezihambelanayo kwaye bacwangcise itheko le-bachelorette akulungile.
Yenza: Fumana iintyatyambo. Ngelixa iintyatyambo ezintle ngokuqinisekileyo zingeyomfuneko yokuhlaziywa kwesibhambathiso, kwamkelekile ngokupheleleyo ukubamba iqela elincinci ngexesha lomsitho ukuba ungathanda (ungachithi nje amakhulu eedola kwisipha sezimbali esicokisekileyo).
Musa: Lindela izipho. Izipho zomtshato zinikwa ukunceda isibini ukuba silungelelanise ubomi baso obutsha kunye. Ekuhlaziyweni kwesibhambathiso, isibini sele senze olu tshintsho, ngoko ke izipho aziyonxalenye ye-equation.
Yenza: Tshintshisana ngezifungo. Olo luhlobo lwenqaku lokuhlaziywa kwesibhambathiso, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uthethe into ecacileyo (ngaphandle kokuba ufuna, kunjalo). Unokutshintshisa izibhambathiso ezifanayo owawunazo ngosuku lwakho lomtshato okanye uze nento entsha ngokupheleleyo ukubonisa abantu abahlukeneyo ngoku. Khetha olwakho uhambo.
Musa: Mema wonke umntu omaziyo. Oko kuthetha ukuba nabani na ongakhange uthethe naye kunyaka ophelileyo okanye nabaphi na oogxa bakho abathathwa njengabahlobo. Gcina uluhlu lweendwendwe luncinci.
Yenza: Yiba nolwamkelo. Le yinxalenye yolonwabo! Kodwa kwakhona, akufuneki kube yinto enzima okanye ecinezelayo ukucwangcisa. Itheko elisondeleleneyo lesidlo sangokuhlwa ekhaya okanye ii-cocktails kwibha yakho oyithandayo zombini zizimvo ezintle. Gxininisa ekuxubeni nabahlobo, kwaye uzive ukhululekile ukongeza iinkcukacha ezonwabileyo njengokudlala umboniso wesilayidi weefoto okanye ukubonisa imifanekiso ethile kwicwecwe lakho lomtshato.
Musa: Fumana ikeyiki yomtshato enamanqanaba asixhenxe. Idessert (ewe, nekeyiki) ifanelekile ngokupheleleyo kuhlaziyo lwesibhambathiso, kodwa i-buttercream emhlophe enemibala emininzi enomtshakazi nomyeni ngaphezulu ayiyomfuneko.
Yenza: Imisesane yokutshintshiselana. Ezi inokuba ngamakhonkco akho omtshato amadala okanye amatsha. Akukho xinzelelo.
Musa: Yenza imidaniso katata-intombi kunye nomama nonyana. Endaweni yoko, mema zonke iindwendwe zakho ukuba zikunye nawe kumgangatho wokudanisa.
Yenza: Cela umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho ukuba lisebenze. Ekubeni umsitho wokuhlaziya isibhambathiso awunayo nayiphi na impembelelo esemthethweni, nabani na unokusebenza njengegosa, nokuba ngumfundisi wakho, iqabane lakho, isalamane okanye omnye wabantwana bakho.
Musa: Cela umzali akukhaphe ezantsi epasejini. Uninzi lwezibini ezitshatileyo zikhetha ukuhamba phantsi kwendlela kunye okanye zihambe zisuka kumacala ahlukeneyo egumbi kwaye zihlangane phakathi, kodwa unokuba nomnye wabantwana bakho akukhaphe.
Yenza: Yonwaba ngaphandle koxinzelelo. Ukuba kwiiveki ezingaphambi kokuhlaziywa kwesibhambathiso sakho uzifumana uxinezelekile kuluhlu lokudlala okanye into omawuyinxibe, uyayenza ingalunganga. Relax, wonwabele umsitho kwaye uvuyisane nobudlelwane bakho.
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