Iindlela ze-7 zokujamelana ne-Cave Syndrome (kunye nokuPhathwa kwakhona kweNxulumano ngokubanzi)
1. Yiba Nomonde Kuwe
Eli licebo elihlala lilungile, kodwa libaluleke kakhulu ngoku. Jason Woodrum, ACSW, therapist at Indlela entsha yokuPhila , isikhumbuza ukuba into esiyibona njengesiqhelo ayizukubuya nangemini enye. Le iya kuba yinkqubo ngokuthe ngcembe ezaliswe kukudityaniswa kwakhona kwemihla ngemihla kweenxalenye zobomi bethu ebezingekabikho kwinxalenye engcono yalo nyaka, utshilo. Ukuba uziva ungaqinisekanga malunga nokushiya indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, qala ngamanyathelo omntwana kwaye uthathe ixesha lokubhiyozela nganye nganye, njengaye ukonwabela ngokukhuselekileyo imovie yokuqhuba okanye isidlo sangaphandle kwindawo yokutyela.
2. Chaza kwakhona ‘Eqhelekileyo’ njengayo nayiphi na into okhululekile ngayo
Nangona izigunyaziso ezijikeleze umgama ophakathi ekuhlaleni okanye ukunxiba imaski sele iqalile ukuphela kwezinye iimeko, uWoodrum usixelela oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka sizive singakhululekanga ukubamba la manyathelo okhuseleko ixesha elide. Nokuba ithini na imida yakho, yixubushe nabo bakungqongileyo rhoqo. Abantu baya kukuhlonipha kwaye baqonde isidingo sakho esiqhubekayo sokhuseleko. Nangona unokuziva ungathandeki, usisidenge okanye ngathi ugqithise, uwazi kakuhle umzimba wakho nengqondo, kwaye akufanele woyike ukwenza oko kulungileyo kuwe.
3. Hlala Unolwazi
Xa kuziwa ekuxhalabeni malunga nokubuyela emsebenzini eofisini, ulwazi lunamandla, utsho UGqr. Sherry Benton , isazi ngengqondo kunye nomseki/igosa eliyintloko lezenzululwazi TAO Qhagamshela , inkampani izibophelele ekuziseni unyango lwempilo yengqondo olufikelelekayo kubantu abanofikelelo olulinganiselweyo kwixesha elidlulileyo. Qhubeka ukufumana lonke ulwazi onalo kwinkampani yakho malunga nokuba yeyiphi imigqaliselo abayithathayo kunye nendlela abaceba ngayo ukugcina abasebenzi bekhuselekile, ”utshilo. 'Xa uxhobile ngolwazi lokuba inkampani yakho iluthathela ingqalelo ukhuseleko lwabasebenzi bayo, inokukunika isiqabu. Amaxesha amaninzi, ukuxhalaba kuye kwenziwa mandundu ngokungaziwa, ngoko ke ukuzigcina unolwazi kubalulekile.
4. Khumbula ukuba Ude kangakanani na
Onjani unyaka wokomelela, utshilo uWoodrum. Njengeqela nanjengabantu ngabanye, sizibonakalise ukuba sikulungelelana ngendlela esingazange sicinge ukuba kuya kufuneka sidlule ngayo kunyaka ka-2020. ndiphumelele ngeli xesha linzima. Safumana iphepha langasese kwiishelufu ezingenanto. Sifumene iindlela zobuchule zokuxhasa iindawo zokutyela esizithandayo. Sifunde indlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba sihlamba izandla zethu imizuzwana engama-20 okanye ngaphezulu. Sibonise isakhono esimangalisayo sokuqengqeleka ngamanqindi kwaye sidlule kumaxesha anzima kakhulu. Ukuzikhumbuza oku, uWoodrum usixelela, wenza isiseko sesiqinisekiso sokuba nokuba yintoni na ezayo, siya kuphumelela kwaye siphumelele kuyo yonke loo nto.
5. Bambelela kwizinto Ozithandayo zokuzivalela
Nokuba uchongile inaliti okanye unobuchule bobuchule bakho bentlama emuncu, uWoodrum usikhumbuza ukuba izinto esizonwabisa ngazo esitsha zisebenze umsebenzi obalulekileyo ekuboneleleni ngokhuseleko kunye nentuthuzelo ngexesha apho ezo zinto bezinqongophele. Ukuqhubela phambili, naliphi na ixesha uziva ucelomngeni emsebenzini okanye kubomi bakho bomntu, khumbula intuthuzelo loo misebenzi inikezelwe kwiinyanga ezidlulileyo, kwaye uzisebenzise njengeendlela zokuzinyamekela ukuya phambili. Fumana ixesha lokuzondla, kwaye ukhulise iimfuno zakho, uxinzelelo lweWoodrum. Kwaye nantoni na oyenzayo, musa ukuziva uzingca ngokufuna ukwenza oku ngamaxesha athile.
6. Khumbula Zonke Izinto Ezinkulu malunga noBomi Bakho baPhambili kweNtsholongwane
Ewe, kunokuba luxinzelelo olukhulu ukuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wokubuyela kubomi bakho bakudala emva kwexesha elide, kodwa kukho izinto ezininzi onokuzijonga. Xa kuziwa ekubuyeleni emsebenzini, cinga ngabantu ovuyiswa kukubabona, imifanekiso emitsha ongenakukwazi ukuyilinda ukuyibeka edesikeni yakho okanye uqalise kwakhona iiyure zolonwabo zangoLwesihlanu kunye nosebenza nabo, uBenton uthi. Thatha ixesha lokubhala phantsi ezo zinto zikhuthazayo ukuze ukwazi ukuphinda undwendwele olo luhlu xa usokola ukuziva unethemba.
7. Zivumele Ube Sentlungwini
Ibinzima kakhulu iinyanga ezili-15, kwaye kubalulekile ukuqaphela konke oye wadlula kuko. Usizi ludlala indima enkulu ekubuyeleni 'kubomi obuqhelekileyo' bemihla ngemihla, uBenton usixelela. Ukuba uye wafumana ilahleko ebuhlungu kunyaka odlulileyo, zivumele ukuba ube buhlungu; yinxalenye ebalulekileyo, yendalo yokuphilisa. Ukuba ufumene ilahleko enxulumene nobhubhane, unokuziva ushukunyiswa ukuba umntu okufutshane nawe unomkhuhlane okanye umkhuhlane, okanye unomsindo xa uziva ngathi abantu abayiqondi into ojongene nayo. Kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukuthetha nomgqirha okanye umcebisi ukwahlula intlungu kwixhala lobuqu, kunye nokuchonga iindlela onokuthi unciphise ngazo ukuze uphume kwaye usebenze kwihlabathi, uyaphawula. Ngaphaya koko, ukuba umntu osondeleyo kuwe uphulukene nomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho ngexesha lobhubhani, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva ungaqinisekanga ngendlela omawuthethe ngayo kuye. UBenton ugxininisa ukuba unxibelelwano lungundoqo. Musa ukwenza ngathi akuzange kwenzeke; yivume loo nto ngokubaxelela ukuba ubakhathalele kwaye ubabuze into onokubenzela yona. Qiniseka ukuba ujonga kubo rhoqo, njengoko iimvakalelo zabo zinokutshintsha ngokwenene ukusuka umzuzwana ukuya komzuzwana.
ENXULUMENEYO : Yintoni iNgcinga yakho ye-Post-Pandemic Fantasy malunga nawe, ngokutsho kwe-Psychotherapist
