Ngelixa iTikTok iyindawo yokuya kwindawo yokupheka okukrelekrele, Iihacks ze-DIY kwaye iingcebiso zobuhle , siye sabona uqhushumbo lweencoko ezinzulu eqongeni, ukusuka kubutshantliziyo ukuya kwezempilo kunye nempilo yengqondo. iingcebiso . Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ezo ngcebiso kunye neendlela, ngakumbi xa kuziwa ekwakhiweni nasekugcineni ubudlelwane bothando obunempilo, akubonakali ncam, mpazamo , usempilweni. Sibone iqaqobana leendlela zobudlelwane be-uber ezithandwayo zeTikTok kwaye sabuza i-neuropsychologist kunye nelungu lefakhalthi kwiYunivesithi yaseColumbia, UGqr. Sanam Hafeez , kuba ingcali yakhe ithatha. Isilumkiso seSpoiler: Bonke batshabalalisa ubudlelwane.
1. Indlela: Umbuzo we-0
Kule ndlela ye-TikTok yentsholongwane, ubuza iqabane lakho umbuzo weqhinga: Ungakhetha ukuba undincamise nge-100 yeedola okanye oyena mntu ushushu emhlabeni nge-700 yeedola? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba iqabane lakho lithatha i-$ 700 ye-bait, ayibonakali ihloniphekile. Kodwa iqhinga lokwenyani ukuba iqabane lakho liyaphendula, Wena, kodwa hayi wena ngokuba ungoyena mntu ushushu emhlabeni. (Vele ubuze esi sibini .)
Imixholo eyonakalisa ubudlelwane:
- Ukungquzulana ngabom okungeyomfuneko
- Ukungaqiniseki okungazinzanga
- Ukuveza iimvakalelo kwiqabane lakho
Ingcaphephe ithatha: Nangona le meko isenokubonakala ingenabungozi ngokwentelekiso, uGqr. Hafeez ubona ibali elinokuba likhulu linyakazela ngaphantsi komhlaba: Masithi uAmy ubuza isithandwa sakhe uJack lo mbuzo ungasentla. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uAmy uwubuze lo mbuzo kuba eziva engakhuselekanga okanye engaqinisekanga. Ukuba u-Amy uvavanya uJack ngombuzo odala ungquzulwano olungeyomfuneko, angayenza ngenxa yokuba uyathandabuza uthando lwakhe kuye kunye / okanye uyoyika ukuzibeka emngciphekweni kwaye abelane ngendlela aziva ngayo. Usenokuvakalelwa kukuba uJack usoloko ecinga ngamanye amabhinqa okanye acinge ukuba akakho mhle kunamanye amabhinqa. Ngokuqhuba uvavanyo, u-Amy uzama ukufumana ukhuseleko olungakumbi kubudlelwane (ngethemba lokuba uJack uya kumnika impendulo afuna ukuyiva), kunokuba axoxe ngokungaqiniseki kwakhe okanye uloyiko kunye noJack. Esinye isizathu sokwenza olu hlobo lovavanyo kukuqalisa umlo ngabom. U-Amy ungaqala ukulwa ngabom ukuze abone ukuba angatyhala kangakanani na uJack de kuqhawuke unxibelelwano lwabo, ukuba unosuku olubi, okanye ngenxa yokuba eveza iimvakalelo zakhe ezimbi kuJack.
Yintoni omawuyenze endaweni yoko: Esikhundleni sokubuza ezi ntlobo zemibuzo, uDkt. Hafeez ucebisa, zama ukuxoxa ngeemvakalelo zakho, unyaniseke kwaye ubuze into oyifunayo kwaye ufuna kubudlelwane. Kwakhona, hlola indlela ovakalelwa ngayo ngawe. Ukuba awuzithembi kwaye awuzithandi, kunokuba nzima ukukholelwa ukuba omnye umntu uyakwenza.
2. Indlela: Iimvavanyo zokunyaniseka
Kule ndlela ye-TikTok, umxhasi ochaphazelekayo uya kucela intlola ukuba iqhube uvavanyo lokuthembeka, apho intlola ibethelela ukubaluleka komthengi ekubeni adlale ngothando (okanye hayi) kwii-DM. Intlola idlulisela ulwazi kumxhasi, kwaye umxhasi ke ugqiba ukuba ufuna ukuhlala kunye nalo mntu. Ungayibona yonke into isenzeka Apha apho umdali Chesathebrat I-DMs isithandwa somfazi esine-selfie emnandi kunye nembalelwano ye-flirty ilandela, ekhokelela umfazi ukuba asule izandla zakhe zicocekile kwisithandwa sakhe.
Imixholo eyonakalisa ubudlelwane:
- Ukuthembana okonakalisayo
- Ubutyala
- Imikhwa yokulawula
Ingcaphephe ithatha: Oku akuyona indlela ephilileyo yokujongana nenkxalabo yokukopela, uDkt Hafeez uthi inqaku elingenanto. Kuba ngokwenyani, ungaziva njani ukuba iqabane lakho liqhuba umsebenzi ofihlakeleyo kuwe? Ngaba unokuphinda ubathembe? Ngaba ubuya kucinga ngabo njengabangaqolanga kangako? Ngaba oku bekuya kukukhokelela ekubeni wahlukane nabo? Nokuba siyintoni na isiphumo, xa unomntu ongu-DM wakho obalulekileyo, uba ngumntu ongathembekanga. Ukuba isithandwa sakho/intombi yakho iluphumelele uvavanyo, kuya kufuneka uphile netyala lokumvavanya, kwaye uchitha intembeko yakho kunye nokuba sempilweni kwakho iyonke yobudlelwane, uGqr. Hafeez uyacacisa. Kwaye masithi iqabane lakho aliluphumeleli olu vavanyo, uzibekela ukuphuhlisa iindlela ezingafanelekanga zokumelana neenkxalabo onazo kubudlelwane. Ungaphuhlisa umkhwa wokukroba kwifowuni yabo okanye uqhekeze kwiiprofayili zabo zemidiya yoluntu okanye uqhube olu hlobo lovavanyo kwakhona (kubo okanye komnye umntu).
Yintoni omawuyenze endaweni yoko: Uthi uGqr. Hafeez, Unxibelelwano olunyanisekileyo yindlela efanelekileyo yokusingatha ukukrokra kwakho malunga nokukhohlisa. Okokuqala, qaphela ukuba kutheni unokuziva ngathi bayakopa. Emva koko, bhala phantsi iingcamango zakho, iimvakalelo kunye neeflegi ezibomvu ukuze xa wena dibana neqabane lakho ucacile ngendlela oziva ngayo. Qinisekisa ukuba nobabini nikwindawo apho niziva nikhululekile kwaye nikhuselekile. Okokugqibela, mamelani kwaye nivane ngenene.
3. Intsingiselo: Ukubanjwa Ukukopa
Ngokungakumbi nangakumbi, abantu basebenzisa iTikTok (kunye namanye amajelo eendaba ezentlalo) ukubeka ubuqhetseba ekuqhumeni kokungaqondi kwangaphambili ngeendlela ezinkulu nezincinci. Kwi le vidiyo ibetha ngokukhawuleza , umdali eSydneykinsch ukwabelana ngendlela awafumanisa ngayo isoka lakhe leminyaka emine lalimqhatha emva kokuba ethumele i-selfie kwaye wasondeza kwimbonakalo yezibuko zelanga ukuze abone omnye umfazi. Ezinye iividiyo ezibanjiweyo eziqhathayo phaya zingathoba ngabom ngakumbi, njenge Le , apho iqela labahlobo elidlalayo Andizange Ndake Ndakha ndamangala kwikhamera-bahlasela umhlobo omnye othi waphuza inkwenkwe yenye intombazana.
Imixholo eyonakalisa ubudlelwane:
- Iintloni
- Impindezelo
Ingcaphephe ithatha: Kukho inkuthazo eninzi emva komnqweno wokuhlazisa esidlangalaleni umkhohlisi, utsho uGqr. Hafeez-ungaziva ufanelwe sisohlwayo, okanye unqwenela ukuziva uphakamileyo okanye ukulawula okanye ukuveza ukuba awuvumelani nokuziphatha kwabo. Kodwa, ulumkisa uGqr. Hafeez, ukuhlazisa umntu esidlangalaleni kuneziphumo eziyingozi zexesha elide zombini amaqela. Ukuhlazeka akufanelekanga kuba kwenza abantu bazive kakubi kwaye babuze ukubaluleka kwabo, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo akuphumeleli utshintsho okanye kuphelise ukuziphatha okuthile komntu ohlazekileyo.
Yintoni omawuyenze endaweni yoko: Kwabo balwa nokuqhathwa, okokuqala nokuphambili, khumbula ukuba bekungelotyala lakho. Ezinye iingcebiso zokuhlangabezana nazo ziquka ukuzijikeleza kunye nabo bakuthandayo ngenxa yenkxaso yeemvakalelo, ukuziqhelanisa nokuzinyamekela, ukucela uncedo kunye nokufikelela kwingcali okanye ingcali yezempilo yengqondo ukuze uxoxe ngeemvakalelo zakho, uyalela uDkt Hafeez. Kungathatha ixesha elingakumbi ukuphilisa kunokuba ucinga, kwaye kulungile.
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