Sesinye sezona zihloko zixabanisayo zobuzali phaya (ugxa wakho izithuko ngayo; usisi wakho uyothukile ungade uyicinge) kodwa yintoni kanye kanye? Kwaye ngaba ikhuselekile kumntwana wakho? Apha, sichitha isikhalo (CIO) ubuchule bokuqeqesha ubuthongo, kanye kunye.
Ngoko, yintoni? Xa usiva amazwi ekhala, imibono yokuvumela usana lwakho oluhlwempuzekileyo lukhale iiyure ezininzi ngaphandle kokuthuthuzelwa ngokuqinisekileyo. Kodwa eneneni kukho iiyantlukwano ezininzi zale ndlela yoqeqesho lokulala, uninzi lwazo zicebisa ukuba zingene ukuze zijonge ngamaxesha aqhelekileyo (ekwabizwa ngokuba yi- graduated extinction). Konke ukukhala kuthetha ukuba uvumela umntwana wakho akhale ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba alale-iinkcukacha zendlela okwenzayo oku kuya kuxhomekeka kwindlela ethile.
Kutheni isebenza? Umbono emva kweCIO kukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba azithobe njani, ngaloo ndlela udala ubuthongo obonwabileyo, obunempilo kwiminyaka ezayo. Ngokufumanisa ukuba ukukhala akubakhuphi ngaphandle kwebhedi, iintsana ziya kufunda indlela yokulala ngokwabo. Kwakhona yenzelwe ukunceda abantwana balahle naluphi na unxulumano olungeyoncedo ngexesha lokulala (njengokugungqa okanye ukushukuma) ukuze bangabi sakufuna okanye bakulindele xa bevuka ebusuku.
Kodwa ngaba iCIO iyakhathaza? Uninzi lweengcali zithi hayi-ukuba umntwana wakho usempilweni kwaye ubuncinci iinyanga ezine ubudala (ubudala obuncinci obucetyiswayo ukuqala nayiphi na inkqubo yoqeqesho lokulala). Ufuna ubungqina? Olunye uphononongo olupapashwe kwi Unyango lwabantwana Ijenali yafumanisa ukuba iintsana ezizithuthuzelayo zisebenzisa indlela yokutshabalala kwabaphumeleleyo ababonanga zimpawu zinkulu zokuncamathela okanye imiba yeemvakalelo kunyaka omnye kamva. Enyanisweni, amanqanaba abo e-cortisol (i-hormone yoxinzelelo) ayengaphantsi kunalawo avela kwiqela lolawulo lophononongo. Kuthembisa ngakumbi? Iintsana ezifunde indlela yokumelana nokusebenzisa indlela yokukhala zazilala imizuzu eyi-15 ngokukhawuleza kwiinyanga ezintathu kuphononongo (ngobuthongo obungcono obuhlala bubonwa kwiveki yokuqala).
Kulungile, ndenza njani? Enye yezona ndlela zidumileyo zokukhala ngayo indlela yeFerber (ukutshabalala kancinci kancinci), okubandakanya ukujonga kunye nokuthuthuzela ngokufutshane (ngaphandle kokuthatha) usana lwakho ngamaxesha amiselweyo kunye nokwandisa amaxesha ade alale yedwa. Ingcali yokulala uJodi Mindell's indlela yokulala esisiseko kuyafana noFerber kodwa kugxininiswa kumaxesha okulala kwangoko kunye nokudala unxulumano oluhle kunye nebhedi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi lwe-spectrum yindlela ye-Weissbluth / extinction, engasebenzisi induduzo konke konke, nangona isavumela ukutya ebusuku (ngokucacileyo, ukuba umntwana wakho uvakala ngokungaqhelekanga ngokungaqhelekanga, ngoko kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo). Isixhobo kuzo zonke iindlela kukulungiselela umntwana wakho ngesithethe sokulala kunye nokunamathela kwisicwangciso (hlala womelele).
OMG, andazi ukuba ndingayenza le nto. Siyifumana-ukuva umntwana wakho ekhala kwaye hayi ukungxamela ukumthuthuzela ngoko nangoko kubonakala kungeyondalo. Yaye asiyi kukuxokisa—iCIO inzima kubazali (masithi usana lusenokungabi lodwa olukhalayo.) Kodwa iintsapho ezininzi noogqirha babantwana bathembisa ukuba kuyasebenza yaye kuqiqa ngelokuba ubusuku obuncinane bokulila bufanelekile. ubomi bemikhwa elungileyo yokulala. Sekunjalo, ukukhala akusiyo yonke intsana (okanye wonke umzali)—kwaye kukho iindlela ezininzi ezinokusetyenziswa ukuba ulandela indlela eyahlukileyo . Into enye zonke iindlela zokuqeqesha ubuthongo zifana? Ukungqinelana. Unayo le.
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