Ukuxelela ukuba ubona ikamva nawe. Ubeka umhla wobusuku kwikhalenda, abuze ukuba ngubani igama likamama wakho, anyanzelise ukuba udibane nabahlobo bakho, umnxeba emva kokwabelana ngesondo kunye nokucwangcisa iindlela ezincinci zokuthandana.
Kwaye ke ngenye imini, uthi akaqinisekanga kangako ngawe. Ubhidekile. Akakho kwimeko yokuba serious nabani na ngoku. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza, ubuyisela ubudlelwane, uzibuza ukuba wenze ntoni engalunganga, apho uphose khona iimpawu. Isilumkiso seSpoiler: Bekungekho zimpawu.
Ewe. Uye waphupha, mhlobo wam.
Yintoni ‘ekuphuphayo’ emhlabeni?
I-Dreamscapers ngabantu ababonisa ipateni yokwakha ubudlelwane be-castle-in-the-cloud obukhohlisa umntu ababonayo ukuba bacinge ukuba yayingeyonto yokwenyani kuphela kodwa yinto emangalisayo. Intelekelelo abayidalayo ngumbono wokubonwa, kodwa akukho nto inokuwuxhasa. Xa idilika, awulungiswanga, kodwa bahamba bengakhange bahambe kwaye baqhubele phambili kwintsomi elandelayo.
I-Dreamscapers zizibophelela-phobes entliziyweni, kodwa abazi ngokunyanzeliswa kwabo. Ngenxa yokuba banqwenela zonke izinto ezilungileyo eziza nobudlelwane (kwaye akukho nanye embi), bahlala kwidama lokuthandana besenza umonakalo.
Ngaba i-dreamscaping iyafana nokukhokela umntu?
Ewe...kodwa hayi. Xa umntu ekukhokelela phambili, bayayiqaphela into yokuba abanamvakalelo ngawe kodwa bafumana into ngaphandle kwamava—ingqalelo, isondo, imincili, ukudlala umdlalo, njalo njalo. (Ewe, kusemnyama AF .)
I-Dreamscapers, kwelinye icala, i-surrealists. Abaqondi ukuba imibono yabo kobu budlelwane isekelwe kwingcamango yomlingo. Badala umoya ofanelekileyo wokuthandana ngolwimi kunye nezenzo zabo-uguqulelo lwesafobe sebhistro ephuphileyo yangaphandle ehonjiswe ngezibane ezikhanyayo. Kodwa okwesibini ubudlelwane buphuma kwisigaba samabhabhathane kwaye buqala ukuba yinyani, i-façade yehla-ubudla i-pizza ebandayo kwinqanaba elingenanto lesandi lonke ixesha.
Kutheni umntu angawela kwi-dreamscaper?
I-Dreamscapers ilungile ekuthandeni, kwaye ilungile ekwenzeni abantu bawele kubo. Abazicingeli ngokugqithiseleyo izenzo zabo ngaphandle kokuba kufuneka (bakhefuze!) bazitshintshe. Bafunda iimvakalelo kunye vibes crazy kakuhle kwaye bazi kakuhle ukuba imihla yabo bafuna ukuva, ukwakha inqaba emafini isitena ngezitena. Zidibanisa ngokulula, kodwa aziqhoboshi. Isihogo, kunzima hayi ukuwela kwi-dreamscaper.
Ndikuphepha njani ukuba ‘ngumbhexeshi wamaphupha’?
Khumbula: Akukho mntu ukwaziyo ngomlingo emva komhla omnye; akukho mntu ufezekileyo; kwaye ukuba kuvakala kulunge kakhulu ukuba yinyani, inokuba kunjalo. Zilumkele izithembiso zangaphambili kunye nezibhengezo zeenjongo. Awona mathemba alungileyo enza ngokweemvakalelo zabo ngaphambi kokuba athethe. Ukuba ubudlelwane buhamba ngendlela echanekileyo, abayi kuhlambalaza intetho yokuzinikela, eyenza i-dreamscaper squirm. Umntu ngokwenene, ngokwenene kuwe kwakhona uzibonakalisa kuwe, kwaye hayi nje xa kumnandi kwaye izinto emangalisayo , kodwa xa uzifuna ngokwenene—imoto yakho yonakala, uyagula, ukwingxaki yentsapho. Kwaye ukuba i-dreamscaper iyenzeka ukuba ikubuyisele ngaphakathi, zikhumbuze ukuba ufanelwe ngcono kunephupha. Ufanelwe yinto yokwenyani.
UJenna Birch yintatheli kunye nombhali we Umsantsa wothando: Isicwangciso esiQhelekileyo sokuPhumelela ebomini naseLuthandweni , isikhokelo sokwakha ubudlelwane kubafazi banamhlanje, ngokunjalo umqeqeshi wokuthandana (ukwamkela abathengi abatsha ngo-2020). Ukumbuza umbuzo, anokuthi awuphendule kwikholamu ezayo kaPampereDpeopleny, mthumelele i-imeyile apha jen.birch@sbcglobal.net .
