Ngaba umntwana wakho yibhokisi yokuncokola iyonke ekhaya kodwa uyakhala kwiimeko zentlalo? Okanye mhlawumbi wayehlala eneentloni (kwaye enamathele ngokusisigxina kwicala lakho)? Ngokutsho kukaBernardo J. Carducci, Ph.D., unjingalwazi wezengqondo nomlawuli weShyness Research Institute kwiYunivesithi yaseIndiana ekuMzantsi-mpuma, ukuba neentloni ngexesha lobuntwana kuxhaphake kakhulu. Iindaba ezimnandi kukuba zininzi izinto ezinokwenziwa ngabazali ukukhuthaza abantwana ukuba baphume eqokobheni labo. Apha, iingcebiso ezisixhenxe malunga nendlela yokunceda umntwana oneentloni ukuba azuze ukuzithemba.
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Koldunov/Getty Imifanekiso1. Musa ukungenelela
Ukuba ubona umntwana wakho esokola ukwenza abahlobo kwibala lokudlala, kuyahenda ukuba ungene kwaye umnike intaphane yeqela elijingayo ngojingi. Kodwa uGqr. Carducci ulumkisa ukuba ukuba uyabandakanyeka, umntwana wakho akayi kufunda ukunyamezela ukudandatheka (oko kukuthi, indlela yokusingatha imeko ethile azifumana ekuyo)—ubuchule obuxabisekileyo aya kubufuna ngaphaya kwebala lesikolo.2. Kodwa hlala kufutshane (ithutyana elifutshane)
Masithi uhambisa umntwana wakho kwitheko lokuzalwa. Yenza isigqibo sokuhlala apho de azive ekhululekile kwimeko, ucebisa uGqr Carducci. Umbono kukunika ithuba lokufudumala kwingxolo kunye nendawo entsha. Hlala ujikeleza ade azive ekhululekile xa ekunye neqela kodwa uhambe. Musa ukuhlala lonke ixesha-mazise ukuba uya kubuya kwaye uya kuphila.
Imifanekiso yeWavebreakmedia/Getty3. Balungiselele iimeko ezintsha
Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wetheko lomhla wokuzalwa. Ukuya kwindlu yomntu okokuqala kunokoyikisa ingqondo. Nceda umntwana wakho ngokuthetha naye ngemeko kwangaphambili. Zama into efana nale: Siya kwitheko lokuzalwa kukaSally kwiveki ezayo. Khumbula ukuba ukhe waya kumatheko omhla wokuzalwa ngaphambili, njengakwindlu kaMalume uJohn. Kumatheko omhla wokuzalwa, sidlala imidlalo kwaye sitye ikeyiki. Siza kwenza uhlobo olufanayo lwento, kanye kwindlu kaSally.4. Khokela ngomzekelo
Ungaze umcele umntwana wakho ukuba enze nantoni na obungayi kuvuma ukuyenza ngokwakho, utsho uGqr. Carducci. Yiba nokufudumala kunye nobuhlobo nabantu odibana nabo (abantwana bafunda ngokuxelisa ukuziphatha), kodwa ukuba awuyi kuziva ukhululekile ukuya kwiqela labantu ongabaziyo, awukwazi ukulindela ukuba umntwana wakho enze okufanayo (nangona abo basemzini. ngabalingane bakhe abatsha).
5. Musa ukutyhala izinto ngokukhawuleza
Yazisa umntwana wakho kwizinto ezintsha ngokusebenzisa indlela yokwenza izinto, indlela apho utshintsha into enye okanye ezimbini ngexesha. Umzekelo, qala ngokumema ummelwane omtsha (kunye nomhlobo kamama!) endlwini yakho ukuze ufumane umhla wokudlala kwi-turf yakho yasekhaya. Nje ukuba badlale kunye ngokukhululekileyo nangolonwabo, tshintsha okusingqongileyo ngokuzisa bobabini abantwana epakini. Xa imeko isiba ngcono, unokumema omnye umhlobo wakho ukuba angenelele. Hamba kancinane ukuze unike umntwana wakho ixesha lokuqhelana nenyathelo ngalinye.
FatCamera / Getty Imifanekiso6. Thetha ngexesha oye waziva unexhala
Nabantwana abangenazo iintloni banokubonisa 'iintloni ezikwimeko ethile,' uyacacisa uGqr. Carducci, ngakumbi ngamaxesha otshintsho njengokuhamba okanye ukuqala isikolo. Vumela umntwana wakho azi ukuba wonke umntu uziva enovalo ngamaxesha athile. Kwaye ngokuthe ngqo, thetha ngexesha apho uziva uxhalabile ekuhlaleni (njengokuthetha esidlangalaleni) kunye nendlela oye wayisingatha ngayo (unike intetho emsebenzini kwaye waziva ulungile emva koko).7. Musa ukuyinyanzela
Uyakwazo oko? Umntwana wakho akanakuze abe ngoyena mntu uphumayo emhlabeni. Kwaye kulungile. Qiniseka nje ukuba uyayazi loo nto, naye.
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