Uyafunda 50 Izithunzi zeGrey. Umnikazi we vibrator . Uyazi ukuba yintoni i-kink ... okanye akunjalo? Sichukumise umgqirha wezocansi ukuba athethe zonke izinto kink vs fetish xa ufuna ukuhlola enye-okanye zombini-kwigumbi lokulala. Zibophe, kuba iza kutshisa.
Ke, yintoni kanye kanye i-kink?
I-kink yinto yesondo umntu athanda ukuyenza kunye nabo okanye ngokuvuma kunye namaqabane, uthi uRosara Torrisi, PhD ovela. iLong Island Institute of Sex Therapy . Oku kudla ngokuba yinto eqwalaselwa ngaphandle kwemisebenzi yezesondo eqhelekileyo. I-kink idla ngokuzisa amandla angaphezulu kwi-erotic kwi-sex, kuchaza u-Torrisi (cinga: i-BDSM, indima yokudlala okanye i-polyamory).
Akunanto yanto, nangona kunjalo, into ethathwa njenge-kinky ixhomekeke. Umzekelo: Ngoxa umamazala wakho enokucinga ukuba iithoyi zesondo zi-kinky, i-bestie yakho ibajonga njenge-vanilla entle.
Ndiyifumene. Ke, yintoni ikhubalo?
I-fetish ifana ne-kink, kodwa umahluko kukuba into ethile i-fetish xa kufuneka ibe khona ukuze umntu afezekise ukuvuswa ngokwesondo okanye ukuzonwabisa. Oku kunokuba sisenzo (njengokwabelana ngesondo esidlangalaleni) okanye into (efana neenyawo). Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule apha kukuba i-fetish yinto umntu angenako ukuvuswa ngaphandle kwayo-kuba abanye abantu baphupha nje nge-fetish banokwanela ngelixa abanye banokufuna ukubandakanya into okanye ukuziphatha ngandlela-thile.
Yima, ke yintoni umahluko phakathi kwe-kink kunye ne-fetish ngokuchanekileyo?
Ngokuqinisekileyo kunokubakho ukugqithelana phakathi kwe-kink kunye ne-fetish ukuze siqonde ukudideka. UGqr. Torrisi uwuqhawula umahluko ngokungathi yinto ethile ukuthanda ukwenza okanye ukuba yinto yomntu uye ukwenza ukuze ube nolonwabo ngokwesondo.
Nanku umzekelo: Ukuba ngobusuku obunye ebhedini, uva ngengozi abamelwane bakho behamba kuyo kwaye ijika, yi-kinky. Kodwa, ukuba wena isidingo ukumamela okanye ukubukela abanye besabelana ngesondo ukuze uzive uvukile ke ligqiza elo.
Ungaziphonononga njani iikinks kunye namakhubalo ngokukhuselekileyo?
Izinto ezimbini ezibaluleke kakhulu malunga nokuhlola i-kinks kunye ne-fetishes yimvume kunye nokucwangciswa kokhuseleko, uthi uTorrisi. Oko kuthetha ukufumana iqabane onokuthi ulithembe kwaye wenze uphando lwakho (njengokufunda indlela yokubopha iqhina ngokufanelekileyo, umzekelo). Gcina i-acronym i-RACK engqondweni, engeyiyo i-fetish kodwa endaweni yoko imele ingozi eyaziwayo ye-consnsual kink. Ligama elisetyenziswe kuluntu lwekink ukuqinisekisa ukuba onke amaqela akhululekile kwaye akhuselekile.
Kukho izixhobo ezintle ngokwenene ezivela kubantu abasebenza ngobuchwephesha ngeekinks kunye neefesti, utshilo uTorrisi. Ucebisa ukuba uphume Indlu eBomvu kwiimveliso, abafundisi, uphando kunye nokunye. Ukujoyina uluntu ukuze ufunde ngakumbi malunga nendlela yokuhlola ngokukhuselekileyo i-kinks kunye ne-fetish kubalulekile, uyongezelela.
Ukuba ufumana uxinzelelo malunga nayiphi na i-kink okanye i-fetish, ukufikelela kwi-sex therapist kunokuba luncedo.
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