Khumbula kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo xa ndandi hugger yayiyinto abantu abachaza ngayo ngokungaqhelekanga njengokuba ndiyiVirgo? Ukuwola—molo, ndlela-ntle nayo yonke into eyayiphakathi—kwakujongwa njengobuhlobo nobubele. Ngoku, nangona kunjalo, siqaphele ukuba umsinga utshintsha kancinci, kwaye ukwanga umntu ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe kunokuvela njengokukrwada okanye ukungabi naluvelwano. Makhe sijonge kumacala omabini.
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Kukuwolana nje, akunjalo? Abantu abandangayo—enoba bazibiza ngolo hlobo okanye akunjalo—badla ngokuzibona izimbo zomzimba zabo njengobubele nokwamkela. Izifundo (ezinje lo uvela kwiYunivesithi yaseMilano-Bicocca ) baye bafumanisa ukuba ukwanga umntu kunokomeleza amajoni akho omzimba. Ukuwola umntu kanye emva kokudibana naye kumbonisa ukuba ungumntu onobubele ovulelekileyo nonobuhlobo. Ngapha koko, kukuwola nje. Yintoni enokungakhululeki ngaloo nto?
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Ngakolunye uhlangothi lwengqekembe, ukungafunwa (okanye, ubuncinci, ukungamkeleki) ukudibana komzimba kunokubonwa njengokungahloniphiyo okanye ukuhlasela kwendawo. Xa ucinga ngayo, ukuwola kusondelelene kakhulu (singaxoxa ngakumbi kunokuchola esidleleni) kuyavakala ukuba, ukuba awukakhululekanga nomntu okwangoku, kufuneka aqinisekise ukuba 'upholile ngokumanga ngaphambi kokuba ungene. Ngapha koko, akufani nokuba ubaxelela ukuba bangaze baphinde bawole. Ukuyeka i-hug yebhere engekho-elulwaneni yimbeko encinci enokwenza abanye abantu bazive bekhululekile.
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Nazi iisenti zethu ezimbini: Xa kuziwa ekuwoleni xa uqala ukudibana nomntu, kukho iindlela ezimbalwa zokuphepha i-faux pas. Okokuqala, zama ukuthembela kwimikhondo yomxholo kunye ne-vibe yomnye umntu. Ukuba ukwisetingi yomsebenzi, umzekelo, yeka. Ukuba ukwindawo ethile yentlalontle, kodwa umfazi oziswa kuye umgcinele umgama, mhlawumbi uqale ngokuxhawula isandla okanye ngamaza. Kodwa ukuba uthe weza kuwe, iingalo zivulekile (kwaye ukhwele), wangana. Kwakhona thatha ubushushu begumbi okulo. Ukuba akukho mntu uwodwa egumbini, mhlawumbi ayiloxesha lokuwola. Okokugqibela, qaphela izikhokelo zenkcubeko malunga nokuwola-ingakumbi ukuba uhamba ngaphandle kwe-U.S. (leyo, kumava ethu, inesisa kakhulu ngokudibana ngokomzimba).
Ngokubanzi, sebenzisa esona sigqibo sakho silungileyo, kodwa ungakhubeki kakhulu ukuba ilinge lakho lokuwola lihlangatyezwane nelinye icala lalo mgca umdala: Uxolo, andingowandi.
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