I-COVID ngokwenene iyitshintshile indlela esenza ngayo izinto, huh? Kwaye nangona singenako ukulinda ukubuyela kubomi obuqhelekileyo, sinemvakalelo yophuhliso oluthile, njengemali esiyichitha emitshatweni, inokuthatha ixesha elide. Cinga ngayo: I-Pre-COVID, isibini esiqhelekileyo saseMelika sichithe ngaphezulu kweedola ezingama-30,000 kumtshato waso. Xa ujonga idrama yosapho engenakuphepheka kunye nezantyalantyala zeenkcukacha, iindleko zeemvakalelo zodwa azinakulinganiswa. Ngena kumtshato omncinci: Umtshato osondeleneyo (funda: omncinci) onobuhlobo kune-elopement kwaye malunga newaka lebhiliyoni engaphantsi koxinzelelo kunokucwangcisa iqhina elimnyama le-extravaganza yemiphefumlo engama-250-singasathethi, kuphela kwendlela yokugcina wonke umntu ekhuselekile. Nantsi indlela yokucwangcisa umtshato wakho omncinci kunye nokuba kutheni ilona mbono ulungileyo owakha wawenza-i-COVID okanye hayi.
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Amashumi amabini anamashumi amabiniYintoni iMicrowedding?
Ngaphambi kokuba siqale ukucwangcisa umtshato wethu omncinci, kufuneka sichaze ukuba yintoni na. I-microwedding iyinto encinci yomtshato oqhelekileyo. Ngelixa umtshato wesibini ngamnye uya kujongeka wahlukile, oko kuthetha ukuba yonke into yenziwa kwinqanaba elincinci. Ke, hayi, oku akuthethi ukubanjwa egaraji unxibe iitracksuits ezifanayo (nangona, oko kuvakala kulungile). Endaweni yoko, kuthetha yonke into obuyifuna kuqhushumbo olukhulu, kodwa kwinqanaba elincinci kakhulu. Eyona nto inkulu ekudaleni umtshato omncinci kukunciphisa uluhlu lwakho lweendwendwe. Kwabanye oko kunokuthetha ukusuka kwi-160 ukuya kwi-16. Kwabanye icutha uluhlu lwabandwendweli abangama-75 ukuquka amalungu osapho asondeleyo asibhozo. Ngelixa kungekho manani anzima, sinokuthi i-microwedding yokwenyani inenani labantu abangama-20 nangaphantsi kwaye ithobela izikhokelo zakho zengingqi kunye nezaseburhulumenteni. Ukusuka apho, ukutya, iintyatyambo, umculo, ilokhwe—konke kuxhomekeke kuwe.
IiNzuzo zeMicrowedding
1. Yeyona ndlela ikhuselekileyo ngexesha lobhubhani we-COVID-19
Uyenza hayi ufuna umtshato wakho ube sisiganeko super-spreader...kodwa nawe awufuni ukulinda de, ke, ngubani owaziyo nini? Landela emanyathelweni eqela lezibini ezithe zatyeshela izicwangciso zabo zemitshato emincinci ekude ekuhlaleni. Iqela elincinane lithetha ukuba unokulawula indibano ngokuhlalisa abantu bodwa ngokukhuselekileyo kwaye ubacele ukuba banxibe imaski ngamaxesha athile (uthi, nangaliphi na ixesha bengekho kwitafile abayabelweyo). Sicebisa ukuba uchaze iiprothokholi zakho zokhuseleko, uzijonge ngegcisa lezempilo kwaye usasaze amanyathelo okugqibela kwiindwendwe zakho ngaphambi nangexesha lomnyhadala.
Mbini. Ungagcina uluhlu lweendwendwe kwabo baya kuhlonipha imithetho yakho
Uyamfuna nana wakho emtshatweni, kodwa awufuni laa mntu uphangela naye ebethumela irhetoric echasene nemaski ukuba abe kufutshane naye. I-Microweddings ikhupha ezo ntlobo zemiba kwi-bud kuba ziyimicimbi emincinci ngokwendalo. Kwaye, uluhlu oluncinci olwaneleyo lweendwendwe luthetha ukuba ungachithakala kwizinto ezithile zokhuseleko-njengokufaka into efakwe kwizimemo zakho ezibeka izikhokelo zokhuseleko lomnyhadala wakho okanye iindwendwe ezinezipho zemaski xa ufika. Ukongeza, sikwacebisa ukuba uthathe inyathelo elongezelelweyo lokuqhagamshelana ngokobuqu nomntu ngamnye ukuchaza imithetho yendibano yakho kwaye ubone ukuba bayayivuma na. Ukuba abakwazi, akunyanzelekanga ukuba babe semsithweni wakho.
2. Inciphisa uxinzelelo lomtshato jikelele
Ngubani ngokwenene odinga amaxhala emali, ezentlalo kunye namalungiselelo ahamba kunye ne-fête enkulu? I-micro-version yomtshato inciphisa uxinzelelo oluvela kuzo zonke ii-angles. Thatha uFrances S., umlawuli weendaba weSixeko saseNew York oneminyaka engama-29 ubudala, owayecwangcisa umtshato wakhe wabantu abangama-200 ehlotyeni de kufike i-COVID. Ubhubhani wamenza ukuba ajike amacebo akhe kwaye enze izinto zibencinci kwaye uye wagqiba ekubeni amkele utshintsho. Ndandingumfuziselo ‘wochasa umtshakazi,’ yaye ukucwangcisa umtshato omkhulu kwandinika ixhala eligqithiseleyo, uFrances wasixelela.
3. Uluhlu lweendwendwe oluhleliweyo
Akusekho ntlungu okanye ukuphikisana malunga nokuba kumenywe umzala ngamnye okanye umva wokuphumeza umgaqo-nkqubo ongenabantwana. Mema ngokulula abazali bakho (okanye hayi!) kunye nabahlobo bakho, kwaye wenze ngayo. Xa uluhlu lweendwendwe lunqunyulwa ngama-90 ekhulwini, abaninzi abantu bayaqonda ukuba abazange benze ukusika. Ngaba umakazi omkhulu uGloria uya kulahlekelwa yiyo ngenxa yokushiywa ngaphandle? Yenza umlinganiselo ochasene nokukwazi ukuqaphela-kwaye wonwabe ngokwenene ukubona-bonke ubuso kwisihlwele sakho.
4. Uhombiso olunokwenzeka
Ukhanukela emva koshicilelo olulinganiselweyo lwaseTshayina e-Etsy? Qhubeka. Thenga iseti okanye ezintathu. Ngaba uphupha loo mthengisi weentyatyambo oyifumene kwi-Instagram ukwenza ilungiselelo letafile? Qhubeka. DM kuye. Xa uhlobisa nje itafile enye (cinga: i-super-chic dinner party) okanye igumbi elinye elincinci (hey, ukudansa kunyanzelekile kuwe), uxinzelelo luphelile-ingakumbi xa kuziwa kwi-wallet yakho.
5. Isinxibo esihamba nantoni na
Ukuhamba phantsi 'kwipaseji' yenkundla, igadi, indawo yokutyela okanye eyadini yakho yangasemva ayifuni i-25-foot couture train-okanye iinyanga zokufakelwa ezihamba nazo. Ufuna ukunxiba a jumpsuit embi à la Solange okanye umbala ongekho ngokwemveli ? Yenza into yakho. Kwaye ukuba ufuna igawuni enkulu, sisigqibo sakho ukuba usenze. Ingongoma kukuba, wena ukulawula izinto, hayi indlela yokunxiba okanye izinto ezilindelwe ngabanye abantu. (P.S. Oko kuthetha ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba unyanzelise i-BFFS yakho ukuba ithelekise iilokhwe zomtshakazi. Just sayin’.)
6. Usenokufumana umtshato wamaphupha akho
Ikeyiki engakholelekiyo, iintyatyambo eziphuphayo, indawo yeefoto, uluhlu lwadlalwayo obulolonga ukusukela uneminyaka elithoba? Akukho nanye kwezi zinto kufuneka ixutywe ngenxa yokuba ubhiyozela kwinqanaba elincinci. Ngapha koko, ngenxa yokuba kukho iindwendwe ezimbalwa, unokuchithakala kwizinto ozikhathaleleyo ngaphandle kokutshona, nokuba sisidlo esenziwe ngumpheki okanye isithsaba sakho seentyatyambo. Indawo isikelwe umda, kodwa xa kufikwa kumbono wakho womtshato, isibhakabhaka sisengumda.
Uyenza njani iMicrowedding
1. Gqiba ngoqingqo-mali lwakho
Kanye njengokucwangcisa i-soiree yabantu abangama-300, umtshato omncinci usabiza imali eninzi. Ngokomzekelo, le phakheji yoMtshato omncinci iya kwi-$ 1,750-nangona kunjalo, iquka iindwendwe ezimbini kuphela. Ke, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi imida yakho xa kufikwa kwisipaji sakho. Umcwangcisi womtshato uJennifer Brisman uchitha iindleko zomtshato ngolu hlobo: Umrhumo wegosa (ipesenti enye yohlahlo lwabiwo-mali), izipho zepati yomtshakazi (i-2 ekhulwini lohlahlo lwabiwo-mali), iingcebiso kunye nezibonelelo (2 ekhulwini lohlahlo lwabiwo-mali), izimemo kunye nempahla yephepha (i-7 ekhulwini uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali), iimpahla zomtshakazi nomyeni kunye nezixhobo (iipesenti ezi-5 zohlahlo lwabiwo-mali), iifoto kunye nevidiyo (i-10 ekhulwini yebhajethi), umculo kunye nokuzonwabisa (i-12 ekhulwini yebhajethi), iintyatyambo kunye nokuhombisa (i-13 ekhulwini yebhajethi) , indawo yokwamkela, ukutya, iziselo kunye nabasebenzi (i-45 yepesenti yohlahlo lwabiwo-mali).
2. Yakha uluhlu lwakho lweendwendwe kwaye unamathele kulo
Ubalo lwentloko yakho luhlala lubalulekile. Ngapha koko, iingcali zemitshato zicalula inani lilonke ngokweendleko zomntu ngamnye. Oku kukwazisa kwakho apho unokuchitha khona imali yakho. Iindwendwe ezingamashumi amabini vs. iindwendwe ezilishumi ngumahluko omkhulu xa uqwalasela izicwangciso zetafile kunye nesidlo sakusihlwa. Kwaye ngelixa u-anti wakho u-Shirley efuna ngamandla ukuba umeme umzala wakho uRalph, zama ukugcina engqondweni ukuba inqaku lomtshato omncinci kukugcina izinto zisondelelene. UBrisman ucebisa ukuba wenze umthetho jikelele wokucutha uluhlu lwakho. Umzekelo, i-21 nangaphezulu akukho plus-ones ngaphandle kokuba inzulu ngokwenene ziindlela ezilula zokunciphisa inani lakho ngaphandle kokulimaza iimvakalelo.
Ukunamathela kuluhlu lweendwendwe zakho kubalulekile malunga nokhuseleko xa kuziwa kwi-COVID-19. Qiniseka ukuba ujonga izikhokelo zasekhaya kunye nezelizwe ukuze ulandele imiyalelo yokuqokelela. Ufuna ukuhlala kwinani apho unokuqokelela ngokukhuselekileyo nangokusemthethweni kwaye ukuhlala kude ekuhlaleni ngexesha yonke imisebenzi yomtshato.
3. Phanda kwaye ukhethe indawo
Eyona nto ilungileyo malunga nomtshato omncinci kukuba unokhetho oluninzi ngakumbi apho unokulubamba khona kuba akufuneki ufumane indawo enendawo eyaneleyo abantu abayi-150. Nokuba yiyadi yasemva ephuphileyo enokuthi ikhazimle ngezibane zentsomi, indawo yoluntu ebalulekileyo kuwe (njengepaki apho unokufaka isicelo semvume) okanye indawo yokutyela oyithandayo, indawo yakho iya kumisa ithoni ngokuhlwa. Kwaye inxalenye yaloo toni yindlela abantu abaziva bekhuselekile ngayo. Ngaba indawo yakho inemigaqo-nkqubo yogutyulo ekhoyo ngokukhanyiselwa yi-COVID okanye ngaba bayawujikela lo mba? Kunyanzelekile ukuba ufunde ngazo zonke iimpendulo zabathengisi bakho kwi-COVID-ingakumbi ukuba baphatha iinkonzo zokutya-kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba bayahlangabezana na nolindelo lwakho.
4. Yenza i-splurge vs. scrimp list
Ngaba ungathanda ukuzibandakanya kwisidlo esinezifundo ezintlanu kunye neendwendwe ezili-12 okanye ugcine izinto ziqhelekile kwaye ushukume kunye no-DJ? Beka kuqala into oLungileyo ukubhuqa kuyo kunye nento ongathanda ukuyibhala phantsi. Kwisibini ngasinye oku kwahlukile, ke hlala phantsi ngokwenene kwaye ube nencoko kunye neqabane lakho ukuba libe kwiphepha elifanayo-okanye ubuncinci ukuyekelela. (Hayi, umtshato.)
5. Jonga kwimidiya yoluntu
Ewe, sikunika imvume yokukhupha intliziyo yakho encinci. Landela abanye abafoti bomtshato okanye abacwangcisi beminyhadala obuthanda ubuhle babo kwaye uqaphele izinto ezincinci-iglasi, itafile eswiti, iintyatyambo. Enye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo malunga nomtshato omncinci kukuba ngenxa yokuba incinci, unokugxila kwiinkcukacha kwaye utyale imali ekuzenzeni zikhanye ngendlela ofuna ngayo.
6. Nxiba into ofuna ukuyinxiba (kwaye unike iindwendwe zakho ikhowudi yokunxiba)
Umtshato we-microwedding unokuba ngumcimbi omnyama weqhina ukuba ubona kunjalo! Nxiba i-ballgown ukuba ngumbono wakho lowo kwaye ucele iindwendwe zakho ukuba zinxibe ngokusesikweni nazo. Okanye, nxiba i-tuxedo yaseCanada kwaye ucele iindwendwe zakho ukuba zinxibe i-cowboy chic. Ingongoma nantsi: Ukuba yinto encinci ayithethi ukuba awukwazi ukuya mkhulu.
EZIQHELEKILEYO: Iindlela ezi-5 zomtshato ezitshintshileyo ukuze zibengcono ngexesha lobhubhani
