Ukuba ungumntu we-cisgender heterosexual, akufuneki ujonge kude ukuze ubone ubudlelwane bakho obuboniswe kumajelo eendaba. Izibini ezithe ngqo zikho ngokoqobo kuyo yonke indawo. Ukuba ungumntu onqabileyo, ukumelwa kunzima ukufikelela.
Ke, khawucinge ukuba ungumntu oselula. Awukho kubahlobo bakho okanye usapho-okanye wena ngokwakho, ngokwenene. Ngoku khawufane ucinge umboniso wakho weTV owuthandayo ucebisa ukuba abalinganiswa ababini abangaqhelekanga bangaphezulu kwabahlobo. Ekugqibeleni! Umntu ofana nawe! Kodwa linda-hayi ngokukhawuleza: Ulwalamano alunakwenzeka, kwaye ushiywe udidekile kwaye udidekile.
Yiloo nto abayibiza ngokuba yi-queerbaiting, nonke. Urban Dictionary ichaza i-queerbaiting njenge, Indlela yokuthengisa esetyenziselwa ukutsala ababukeli abangaqhelekanga ebandakanya ukudala ingxabano yothando okanye yesondo phakathi kwabalinganiswa ababini besini esifanayo kodwa bangaze bayenze i-canon okanye iguquke kuyo.
Kodwa ngaba oko akukokwenza umdla kumboniso? usenokubuza. Kulapho iba nzima khona. Ngenxa yokunqongophala kobudlelwane be-queer kwiscreen, i-bait kunye nokutshintsha kunokuba yingozi ngakumbi. Ukubona ukumelwa okungaqhelekanga kumabonwakude kunokuqinisekisa ngokumangalisayo kubabukeli abangaqhelekanga. Xa loo mbonakaliso iphelela nje ekuboniseni, inokukwenza uzive ngathi ibali lakho alibalulekanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba lixelwe-okanye nokuba alikho. Ikwayindlela yemithombo yeendaba ukuba ibhenele kubathengi abanokubakho ngaphandle kokwahlula iinxalenye zabaphulaphuli babo ezinokungakhululeki kubugxwayiba. (Eyiphi, yintoni? Ngu-2020-zigqithise ngokwakho.)
Ngaba ukhe wayibona phi i-queerbaiting? Omnye wemizekelo eqaqambileyo ngu IRizzoli kunye neZiqithi , umboniso we-gayest non-gay kumabonwakude, njengoko BuzzFeed umbhali uSarah Karlan wayichaza. Idrama yolwaphulo-mthetho, eyaboniswa ukusuka ku-2010 ukuya ku-2016, inkanyezi uAngie Harmon njengomcuphi wamapolisa kunye noSasha Alexander njengomvavanyi wezonyango. Ukuxhatshazwa kwezesondo kunye nekhemistri kwakuphezu kophahla, nangona ubudlelwane bungazange bube khona. Kodwa nantsi umkhabi: Umboniso weqonga kunye nababhali baye bade bavuma Isikhokelo sikamabonakude ukuba bawubaxile umxholo welesbian ngezizathu zokubukela.
Umzekelo okhohlisayo kodwa osoloko ukhankanywa lubudlelwane phakathi kuka-Eva (Sandra Oh) kunye noVillanelle (Jodie Comer) Ukubulala uEva . UVillanelle ngumlinganiswa othandabuzekayo (owenzeka ukuba ngumbulali wentlalo-ntle—asizange sitsho ukuba umelo kufuneka lube luhle), kodwa ingcebiso engapheliyo yobudlelwane phakathi kukaVillanelle kunye noEva ekucingelwa ukuba uthe tye yeyona nto inyuse amashiya abalandeli. Kodwa xa uOh noComer benza udliwano-ndlebe naye Amaxesha amaGay , Owu wayikhaba ngawo omane imbono yobudlelwane, esithi, Nina bantu banamaqhinga kuba nifuna ukuyenza into… kodwa akunjalo. Nantsi into: Ukucinga ukuba uEva kunye noVillanelle ekugqibeleni baya kuba kunye ayisiyiyo nje iintloko zababukeli. Iibhodi zebhodi zexesha lesibini lomboniso ngokwenyani uthe, Ngaba uyibonile intombi yam, kwaye inkwenkwezi yayo ukwenza ababukeli abangaqhelekanga bazive ngathi bacinga ukuba umxholo othile we-homoerotic uziva ukhaphukhaphu kakhulu-y.
I-Queerbaiting iyenzeka ngaphandle kweemuvi kunye neenkqubo zeTV. utaylor Swift , umzekelo, uye watyholwa ngayo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zomsebenzi wakhe. Iipokotho ze-intanethi zinikezelwe #Ithiyori zeGaylor , ehlalutya yonke ingoma enye ('uBetty' kufuneka abe queer eshushu !), I-Instagram efana okanye ukhetho lwempahla. U-Swift yena ubonakala edlala kuyo. Emuva ngentwasahlobo ka-2019, abantu babenjalo wayeqinisekile ukuba u-Swift uza kuphuma njenge-queer xa wayeqhula isibhengezo esikhulu ngoSuku lokuBoneka kwamaLesbian. Isibhengezo eneneni yayiyeyengoma entsha, 'Mna,' kunye nevidiyo yomculo, uSwift wachaza uRobin Roberts njenge, 'ingoma emalunga nokwamkela ubuntu bakho nokububhiyozela ngokwenene nokuba ngabakho.' Ukujonga indlela owenziwe ngobuchule ngayo wonke umfanekiso wakhe, kwakubonakala ngathi nguye waba ukwazi ukuba wenza ntoni.
Ngethamsanqa, nangona i-queerbaiting iqhubeka, zininzi imiboniso kunye neefilimu ezibonisa ubudlelwane be-queer (kwaye, ngokubanzi, abantu abanobuqhetseba). Ngapha koko, kwi-GLAAD's 2019-2020 Apho Sikho kwingxelo yeTV , ehlalutya ulwahlulo olupheleleyo lwe-primetime scripted series rhoqo kuthungelwano losasazo kwaye ijonga inani labalinganiswa be-LGBTQ kuthungelwano lwentambo kunye neenkonzo zokusasaza, umbutho ufumene inani eliphezulu labalinganiswa be-LGBTQ kumabonakude wosasazo kwiminyaka eyi-24 I-GLAAD ilandelele ulwazi.
Umba womelo, bantu.
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