Nokuba sele kubudlelwane iinyanga ezimbalwa okanye amashumi ambalwa eminyaka, kusoloko kukho iindlela zokusebenza kuwe kunye nobudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho. Ngamanye amaxesha oko kuthetha ukufunda iincwadi ezibhalelwe loo njongo icacileyo. Apha, iincwadi ezili-11 zobudlelwane ezinokunceda ukomeleza ubambiswano lwakho, ngokutsho kweengcali kwicandelo lonyango lwezibini- kubandakanywa nenye ethi igqirha liyigcinile imitshato yabathengi bakhe.
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Nye. Ukutshatana ekuthinjweni: Ukuvula ubukrelekrele be-Erotic nguEstere Perel
Eyona ilungileyo: izibini ezihlala kunye ngonaphakade
Meaghan Rice, PsyD., LPC Indawo yokuthetha Umnikezeli, uyasixelela, Ubudlelwane bexesha elide bususa inkanuko ngaphandle kwe-equation ukuba asikukhathaleli ukumka kwayo. Le ncwadi inobuchule obumangalisayo malunga nezakhono esizidingayo ukubuyisela isondo, i-hype kunye ne-chemistry eyayikho ekuqaleni kwisigaba se-honeymoon.
Mbini. Imigaqo eSixhenxe yokwenza umtshato usebenze nguJohn Gottman, PhD. kunye neNan Silver
Eyona ilungileyo: izibini ezicinga ukuya kunyango kunye
UJohn Gottman uqhube ubudlelwane kunye nophando lwezibini iminyaka emininzi. Kule ncwadi, uCynthia Catchings, LCSW-S, LCSW-C, CMHIMP, CFTP, CCRS, Indawo yokuthetha Umboneleli, uyasixelela, ndiyayithanda le ncwadi kuba iye yasindisa imitshato. Uyongezelela, Nangona kungekho ncwadi enye enokusindisa bonke ubudlelwane, ekubeni zonke izibini kunye nabantu ngabanye bahlukile, le isondele kakhulu kuyo. Ibonisa isiseko sobungqina kwaye ivumela umfundi ukuba afunde kwaye abelane ngolwazi ngokunjalo. Ngeso sizathu, le ncwadi ithathwa njengelitye elinqabileyo kwihlabathi lonyango kunye nenombolo yam yokuqala njengogqirha. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufanelekile ukufunda.
3. Misela imida, Fumana uxolo: Isikhokelo sokuZibuyisela kwakhona nguNedra Glover Tawwab
Okungcono kakhulu: nabani na onemiba yemida
Le ncwadi ikuxhobisa ukuba usete imida enempilo engundoqo ekunxibelelaneni nawe kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bunenkxaso kwaye bunenkathalo, uyavuyisana noLiz Colizza, LPC.
UMlawuli, uPhando kunye neeNkqubo kwi Ihlala ihleli .
Isine. Umphefumlo Ongafakwanga: Uhambo Olungaphaya Kwakho nguMichael A. Singer
Eyona nto ingcono: abantu abaziva bebambekile
Ingcali yePsychology, umbhali kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi UGqr. Cheyenne Bryant isixelela ukuba le yenye yezona ncwadi zibalaseleyo azifundileyo, izandla phantsi. Ngoba? Le ncwadi ikufundisa imigaqo evusa umphefumlo wakho kwaye itshintshe imbono yakho kwindawo enothando engenamqathango yengqondo, utshilo.
5. Mindful Relationships ngu-S.J. Scott kunye noBarrie Davenport
Okona kulungileyo: izibini ezinengxaki yokumamelana
Kulula kakhulu ukuba sifike kwindawo apho singenzanga nkathalo kwaye sithathe amanyathelo, iRice isixelela, iphawula ukuba siyibona ngakumbi le nto nabahlobo, usapho, abantwana, kwaye ngakumbi ubudlelwane bethu obusenyongweni. Kodwa izinto ekufuneka sizibeke endaweni ukuze siqonde ngokwenene, simamele, kwaye sixhase abo sibathandayo, uthi, ezo zizinto ezintle ezifumaneka kule ncwadi.
6. Ndibambe Kakhulu: Iincoko eziSixhenxe zoBomi bothando nguGqr. Sue Johnson
Okona kulungileyo: izibini apho iqabane elinye litsala nzima
Xa ukwindawo embi, kunokuba lula ukugxeka iqabane lakho ngayo yonke into engahambi kakuhle kunokuba ujonge ngaphakathi. UColizza usixelela ukuba le ncwadi isisikhumbuzo sokuba, rhoqo, iqabane lakho alilona intshaba; umjikelo wakho negative lutshaba lwakho.
7. I-Detox yengqondo nguGqr. Cheyenne Bryant
Ilungele: nabani na owakhe waba kubudlelwane obuyityhefu
Kwincwadi yakhe, uGqr Bryant uthi yenzelwe ukukhuthaza ulwazi malunga nomahluko phakathi kwempilo kunye ubudlelwane obuyityhefu . Wongeza, Ifundisa umfundi ukubaluleka kokuzikhathalela kunye nokuzithanda ukuze ufumane ubudlelwane obunempilo. Zimbini izinto abantu abaninzi abanokuzisebenzisa ngakumbi.
8. Yiza njengoko Unjalo: Inzululwazi eNtsha emangalisayo eya kubuguqula ubomi bakho bezesondo nguEmily Nagoski
Eyona nto ibhetele: izibini ezijonge ukunonga izinto kwigumbi lokulala
Ngexesha lomsebenzi wakhe, uRachel O'Neill, PhD., LPCC Indawo yokuthetha Umboneleli, usebenze nezibini kwimiba enxulumene nesondo kunye nokusondelana. Iincwadi ezimbini azithandayo ngalo mbandela zezi Yiza injengoku aunjalo kwaye Ukwabelana ngesondo okuNgcono ngokusebenzisa ingqondo nguLori Brotto. Zombini iincwadi zinokuba luncedo kumaqabane anokuba nomdla ekuphononongeni iindlela zokuhlakulela ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ngokwesondo, utshilo.
9. Incwadi yokusebenzela ethiyori eqhotyoshelweyo: Izixhobo ezinamandla zokukhuthaza ukuqonda, ukwandisa ukuzinza, kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane obungapheliyo. nguAnnie Chen
Eyona nto ibhetele: kubafundi ababonwayo
Isebenzisana kakhulu kunencwadi yobudlelwane eqhelekileyo, le ncwadi yomsebenzi ineendlela zokuzilolonga ezikunceda ukuba usuke ekungakhuseleki uye kukhuseleko kubudlelwane bakho, kwaye iyintandokazi kaColliza.
10. Imihla Esibhozo: IiNgxoxo eziBalulekileyo kuBomi bonke bothando nguJohn Gottman kunye noJulie Schwartz Gottman
Eyona nto ilungileyo: izibini eziziva ngathi ubusuku bazo bosuku buphelelwe lixesha
Ndiyayithanda le ncwadi kuba ibandakanya abafundi, ibamema ukuba babe neentsuku ezisibhozo zokuxoxa kunye nokuphucula ubudlelwane babo, amanqaku eCatchings. Usuku ngalunye kwezisibhozo lugubungela owona mxholo unentsingiselo izibini ezijongana nawo. Oku kufuneka ube nakho; yomeleza ngokwenene ubudlelwane.
Shumi elinanye. Umzimba ugcina iNqaku: Ingqondo, iNgqondo kunye noMzimba ekuPhileni koMthuthuzeli nguBessel van der Kolk
Ilungele: nabani na onamava okwenzakala
Wonke umntu ufumana umonzakalo ebomini bakhe kwaye umonzakalo uchaphazela abantu kunye nobudlelwane, uColizza uyagxininisa. Le ncwadi ikuxhobisa ukuba uqonde amabali akho okwenzakala kwaye usebenze nomzimba wakho ekuphiliseni, uyacacisa.
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