Uchithe imini ubila; awuzange uhlambe ukusukela oko, eh, ngoLwesine; kwaye uncancisa oko kubonakala ngathi yure nganye ngeyure. Ngaba iyamangalisa into yokuba awuziva uthanda kakhulu? Kodwa ukuba ubuhlobo obusenyameni bubangela ukuba ulusu lwakho lukhase, usenokuba ujamelene noko iingcali zabazali zicinga ukuba 'kuyachukunyiswa.' Nantsi isivumelwano.
Yintoni?
Ukuchukunyiswa kokothusayo, imvakalelo yomzali omtsha yokungafuni ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni. Amaxesha amaninzi, inxulumene neqabane lakho-enokuthi ukubamba kwayo kunokukwenza ucaphuke. Kodwa inokwenza ukuba oomama bangafuni ukuphatha abantwana babo, abahlobo babo okanye bavele bazive bengenwabanga emizimbeni yabo.
Ngaba iqhelekile?
Ngokugqithisileyo. Kuvoto lweqela loomama abangenalo inzululwazi kakhulu lombhali, wonke umntu wasetyhini wayekhe wahlangabezana nayo ngexesha elithile kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala zomntwana wakhe.
Ibangelwa yintoni?
Akukho nto, ngokukodwa. Nangona abanye abantu becinga ukuba izinto ezincanyathiselwayo zobuzali ezifana nokulala, ukunxiba umntwana kunye (duh) nokuncancisa kunokubangela oko kakhulu, kuba unexesha elincinci xa hayi ukubamba omnye umntu.
Ke ndenze ntoni ngayo?
Okokuqala, zama ukuba ungazibethi. Ngexesha elizayo xa uzibona ujijela kwibhola encinci xa umyeni wakho esitya kakhulu ithanga lakho, vele uvume ukuba uziva njani kwaye uqaphele ukuba iya kudlula. Okwesibini, ukunxibelelana, ukunxibelelana, ukunxibelelana. Xelela iqabane lakho ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwaye nibonisane ngeendlela zokuzifumana eyona nto uyidingayo-ingaba oko kukuhlwa kuwe okanye ubusuku bomhla apho nobabini ninxibe kwaye niphume esofeni. Okokugqibela, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuzinyanzela ukuba usondelelane xa kwaye nangona kunjalo unako ( ezinye iingcebiso ukuba uyazifuna). Emveni kwakho konke, inzululwazi igcina ukuba isini kanye ngeveki ngundoqo kumtshato owonwabileyo. Awukwazi ukuphikisana naloo nto.
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