UKourtney Kardashian unengxaki ekhoyo malunga neminyaka engama-40 ubudala. Candace Bushnell ndiyazisola ngendlela engathathwanga. Nabani na onosuku olukhulu lokuzalwa oluzayo-mhlawumbi uhlobo oluphela ngo-zero-mhlawumbi lunokunxulumana. Kodwa kusekho ixesha lokuphumeza okuninzi! Nalu uluhlu lwama-25 otshintsho olulungileyo onokuthi ulwenze, nokuba mangaphi amakhandlela kwikhekhe lakho. Yithathele njengoluhlu lweenjongo # zeminyaka.
Amashumi amabini anamashumi amabini1. Yiyeke inzondo
Iimbongi neentanda-bulumko zithi uxolelo sisipho ozinika sona, kwaye uxolelo luvela kuThixo. Oogqirha bathi kukhokelela ekuxhalabeni okuncinci, ukudakumba kunye nokukhuseleka okungcono. UOscar Wilde wathi: Zixolele iintshaba zakho. Akukho nto ibacaphukisa kangaka. Ngoko ke, ngokwenene, akukho nto iphosakeleyo.EZIXHELEKILEYO: Iindlela ezi-3 zokuyeka ukuKhanya, ngokweNgqondo yeNgqondo
2. Yenza uhlengahlengiso
Njengoko uJustin Bieber omkhulu ebuza, Seku late ngoku ukuba uthi uxolo? Justin, akunjalo. Ndikholelwa kakhulu ekuzilungiseni nasekukhuleni kwakho, uyabhala URachel Simmons , umbhali we Odd Girl Out . Ucebisa ukuba ucace ngesona sizathu siphambili sokuba ucele uxolo: ngaba uyenza ikakhulu ukulungisa ubudlelwane obuqhawukileyo, okanye ngenxa yokuba uziva unyanzelekile ukuba ube ngumnikazi wempazamo yakho? Zilungiselele ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ungaxolelwa. Uze ucele uxolo nakanjani kwaye uzixolele. (Jonga #1.)
3. Phucula indlela olala ngayo
Womp womp isilumkiso. Sithatha imikhwa yethu yokulala ebuntwaneni kwaye xa sikhulile, kunokuba nzima ngokwenene ukuyitshintsha. Sikwathanda ukuba nezinto ezininzi ingxaki ukuwa nokuhlala silala njengoko sikhula. Kodwa kukho iitoni zamaqhinga alula onokuthi uzame ukuziqeqesha kwakhona-ukuqala ngokuhlwanje: 1. Bhala phantsi izinto ezikuxhalabisayo kwijenali yenkxalabo, ngaloo ndlela uzisusa engqondweni yakho ukuya kwiphepha. 2. Dock ifowuni yakho kwigumbi elahlukileyo. Kwanokukhanya okuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka kwisixhobo sokutshaja kunokukhuthaza. 3. Vula umnyango, unciphise i-temp ukuya kwi-67, kwaye ungenise isityalo sokucoca umoya. 4. Yenza inkqubo yokulala ngexesha elingaguqukiyo, elizolisayo (ukufunda, ukucamngca, ukuzinyamekela). 5. Namathela kwishedyuli yokulala, oku kuthetha ukuba uya kulala kwaye uvuke ngexesha elifanayo yonke imihla (ngaphantsi koMgqibelo wokusnuza = ixesha elingakumbi lokufunda nokucamngca). 6. Ukuba konke okunye akuphumeleli, lala ebhedini kwaye uzame ngamandla hayi ukulala. Ibizwa ngokuba injongo edidayo kwaye ekuphela kwento eyothusayo ngaphezu kwengcamango ngokwayo yindlela esebenza ngayo kakuhle.
4. Funda isixhobo
Usenokuba ukhe wambona umdlali wepiyano wakudala Intyatyambo kaChloe ukuba neqonga noCardi B kwiiGrammys, kodwa umsebenzi wakhe kunye nesebe le-neurology kwiSibhedlele esiPhakathi saseMassachusetts ekhuthaza umculo wobomi bonke unomtsalane ngokufanayo. Ukufunda isixhobo njengomntu omdala, uthe , Akukaze kube kudala kakhulu ukuqala, okanye ukuqala kwakhona. Iyure enye ngeveki ilungile kuwe. Ukufunda ukudlala-nkqu nokuzama kunye nokudlala kakubi-usebenzisa ingqondo yakho, uphucula imemori kwaye unako nceda ukuthintela isifo sengqondo esiyingozi . Thetha nam ngoku: KUYA ll C ow KUNYE e G rass...
5. Funda ulwimi olutsha
Abafundi abadala kusenokufuneka basebenze nzima ukuze bafezekise indlela abathetha ngayo, kodwa bafunda isigama ngokulula ngakumbi kunabaselula. Iilwimi ezimbini ziyakwazi ukulibaziseka kwengqondo kwiminyaka eyi-4.5. Intle kakhulu!
6. Yonwabela ukuba wedwa
Ukufunda, ukubhala, ukukhupha, ukuhlamba amaqamza, ukubukela ngokuzinkcinkca, ukwenza maxing kwaye ukuphumla-uluhlu luyaqhubeka izinto ngcono zenziwe wedwa . Uphando lubonisa ukuba Abantu abangatshatanga baphila ixesha elide , ubomi obonwabileyo, obusempilweni, obunomtsalane kunabantu abatshatileyo. Ukungatshati, introversion, ixesha uwedwa-ayisenakubekwa ibala; kuyabhiyozelwa. Kwaye nokuba sikubudlelwane ozinikeleyo kunye ukutya isausage kwi shower ukubaleka abantwana bethu, sonke sinako ukuwola amaqhina okuba wedwa.
Amashumi amabini angama-207. Phinda uthandane neqabane lakho
Siyayithanda le perile yobulumko evela kwindawo yophando ngomtshato I-Gottman Institute: Kukho idrama enzulu kwimizuzu emincinci yothando…Uthando lukhuliswa ngexesha lokusila kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngamaxesha amancinane abonakala engenantsingiselo—ukwanga ngaphandle kwesizathu, indlebe enovelwano malunga nedrama ethile yomsebenzi, ukupakisha isidlo sasemini sabantwana ngaphandle kokucelwa—ngawona anentsingiselo kuwo onke… ngakumbi kubudlelwane bakho kuneholide yeeveki ezimbini eTahiti.8. Yiba ngumzali onovelwano, okhoyo ngoku
Eli cebiso livela kwi-Toddler whisperer kunye nomlawuli we Iziko loPhuhliso lwaBantwana kwiKholeji yaseBarnard , Tovah Klein, umdlalo uyatshintsha-kwaye usebenza ekukhuliseni abantwana babo bonke ubudala. Ukuba ungcolisa njengomzali kwaye wonakalise ubudlelwane bakho nomntwana wakho (ngokukhwaza, ngokuthetha into ezisolayo, okanye ngokulahlekelwa ngokubanzi sh-) ukwenza izinto ngaphezu kwempazamo : Isenokuvakala ingaqhelekanga, kodwa impazamo ayiyongxaki, okoko nje kukho uxhulumaniso oluhle, ukulungiswa, utshilo uKlein. Undoqo ngamaxesha anjengala—xa iimfuno zabo zingqubana nezethu—yindlela ophinda unxibelelane ngayo nomntwana wakho. Ukubuyelana kwakhona, ngaphandle kokusola, bazise ukuba ulapha ngenxa yabo, rhoqo, naxa kusenzeka amaxesha amabi.
9. Tshintsha imisebenzi
Owayesakuba ngumtyibilizi womtyibilizi kunye nomhleli wemagazini uVera Wang wagqiba ekubeni abe ngumyili womtshakazi eneminyaka engama-40. Leyo yayilingana nobudala bukatitshala wesiNgesi uJoy Behar xa wayezama i-standup comedy. UMlawuli u-Ava DuVernay wayekade engumntu woluntu. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba abe neminyaka engama-32, uJulia Child wayengazange apheke isidlo: Ukuza kuthi ga ngoko, ndandisitya nje. Ngaba ufuna inkcazelo engakumbi? Nalu uluhlu lwe abafazi abaphumeleleyo imisebenzi yabo yaqala emva babenabantwana .
Amashumi amabini anamashumi amabini10. Yenza ubomi bakho bube lula
Ubusazi sinxiba kuphela iipesenti ezingama-20 yento ekwigumbi lethu, kodwa ukuba abafazi bachaphazeleka ngakumbi Ukuphazamiseka kokuthenga okunyanzelekileyo ? Loo nto mininzi kakhulu imisebenzi yangaphandle inokwenzakalisa ngokwenene uphuhliso kunye nokuphila kakuhle kwabantwana? Kwaye ukuba ngo-2019, uMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi wavuma ngokusemthethweni ukudinwa (omnye umngeni wempilo yengqondo obetha abafazi ngakumbi) njengesifo esisemthethweni esibangelwa luxinzelelo lomsebenzi? Lisemthethweni: I-JOMO yiFOMO entsha.11. Cinga ngendlela eyakhayo ngakumbi
Amagama amabini: ijenali yombulelo. Bhala phantsi izinto onombulelo ngazo. Yiyo leyo. Kwaye ukuba ufuna uncedo, zama a Umcwangcisi wePanda !
12. Guqula ubudlelwane bakho notywala ... okanye iswekile ... okanye icaffeine
Kwi isithuba malunga (uninzi) ukuyeka utywala, ulonwabo Ingcali uGretchen Rubin ubhala: Enye yezona zinto ziyimfihlo zibalulekileyo zobuntu obudala: Ngenxa yokuba into eyonwabisayo komnye umntu, ayithethi ukuba iyonwabile kum-kwaye ngokufanayo. Dlala malunga nento ekusebenzelayo ngokususa.
13. Yenza abahlobo abatsha
Oh Nkosi yam kukho iBumble yezihlobo, kwaye ibizwa ngokuba yiBFF. Ngokuka-ambassador odumileyo uJameela Jamil, phantse isiqingatha sabo bonke abantu baseMelika bayavuma ukuba baziva beshiywe ngaphandle rhoqo. Ewe. Abaphandi bathi ukwenza abahlobo kufana nesihlunu; bubuchule obunokomelela, kodwa bunokomelezwa. Ukuba ungaphezulu komhlobo we-analog, a Indebe kaJo umfundi inika le ntshukumisa yokubuza umntu omaziyo ikofu: Yintoni eyona nto ibhetele kunokuba umntu athi ucinga ukuba ulungile kwaye angathanda ukudibana kwakhona? Ubuhlobo buqala ngokuba nobuhlobo, kungekhona ukuphola.
14. Hambela kwisixeko esitsha
Abantu batshintsha izixeko amanani erekhodi . Kwaye iMillennials injalo kabini kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuya kwidolophu entsha njengomndilili waseMelika. Ngoko awuyi kuba nguwe wedwa oyenzayo. Kodwa ungakhathazeki, nawe awuyi kuba ngoyena mdala. Ngokuqinisekileyo ndibone ukunyuka kwabantu emva kweminyaka engama-50 abenze isigqibo sokufudukela eNew York, umphathi wentengiso yezindlu nomhlaba uJoan Kagan uxelele Iposi yaseNew York .
Shumi elinantlanu. Tyhila isimbo sakho
Ngolunye usuku aluyiyo imini yokuzama ingwe, iiteki ezinelokhwe okanye i-neon green hair-tie. Injalo loo mini namhlanje .
Amashumi amabini anamashumi amabini16. Yitya izityalo ezininzi
Asitsho ukuba kufuneka wenze uBeyoncé ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ukuzama ukubandakanya enye yethu I-15 eyona mifuno inesondlo kwisidlo sakho esilandelayo yindlela efanelekileyo yokuqala.17. Yahlukana nefowuni yakho
UKevin Roose wabhala malunga neyakhe ukuxhomekeka kwesikrini kwi New York Times kwaye saziva sibona: Ndazibona ndingakwazi ukufunda iincwadi, ukubukela iimuvi ezipheleleyo okanye ukuba neencoko ezinde ezingaphazanyiswa. Ufumene amayeza afana nesabatha yedijithali, xa usiya ngaphandle kwefowuni usuku olunye ngeveki, kwaye watshintsha isikrini sakhe sokutshixa ukuze ambuze imibuzo emithathu ngalo lonke ixesha esiya kwifowuni yakhe: Yintoni? Kutheni ngoku? Yintoni enye? Mhlawumbi sonke sinokungenelwa ngokuzibuza okufanayo.
18. Yahlukana nomhlobo onetyhefu
Abaphandi bathi sihlala sihlala sihlala kubahlobo esityale ixesha elininzi kubo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba baqhubeka besinceda. Sithi ubomi bufutshane kakhulu. Ngoko ukuba ubona i iimpawu zobudlelwane obuyityhefu , mhlawumbi lixesha lokusika intambo.
19. Hamba blonde
Okanye uthuthu mavu , i-marshmallow etshayayo okanye i-lilac yetshokolethi. Umnyama yimbatyisi yakho.
20. Buyela esikolweni
Umndilili weminyaka yomfundi ophumelele isidanga eMelika unama-33. 40 ekhulwini yabafundi grad ababhinqileyo phezu 35. Ngokufutshane: Yifumane.
21. Lungisa iimali zakho
Ingcali yezemali uGqirha uBrad Klontz ufunga inyathelo lokuqala kukufunda incwadi-nayiphi na incwadi malunga nemali yomntu.
22. Zakhele umkhwa wokucamngca
Kundithathe iminyaka engama-20 okanye engama-30 yokuzama, kodwa ekugqibeleni ndinendlela yokucamngca enkosi kwiiapps zokucamngca, umbhali uElizabeth Gilbert. utshilo mva nje . Thixo, ukuba bebesoloko beneapps bendikwazi ukucamngca kwiminyaka eyadlulayo.
23. Yeka ukubulala zonke izityalo ozichukumisayo
Kwaye ukuba uyaqhubeka nokubabulala bonke, vele uye kwisityalo esikhulu sobuxoki. Hayi shame.
24. Qala umthambo
Lo mfazi uqeqeshelwe umdyarho wakhe wokuqala wama-60.
25 Njengawe;
Nanku uGwyneth Paltrow eshwankathela ukwaluphala, ukuyeka ukuya exesheni kunye nokuphulukana noluvo lokuba unguye-ngemigangatho yoluntu-usengumntu ngokwesondo. 'Ngethamsanqa, okwenzekayo ngaxeshanye ngokuhambelanayo uqala ukuzithanda. Ndicinga ukuba ufikelela kwinqanaba apho kufana nokuba uhlobo lwakho lwe-pulchritude luya luphela ngendlela kwaye ubuhle bakho bangaphakathi, ngathi, buphuma ngokwenene. Nantsi kwiibloomers zamva nje.
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