Ngaba uyazi ukuba umhlobo, ilungu losapho okanye umntu omaziyo ocinga ukuba ihlabathi lichasene nabo? Uyazi, umntu oya kufumana naliphi na ithuba kunye naliphi na ithuba lokukhalaza malunga nendlela izinto ezingazange zisebenze ngayo kuye? Ewe, abantu abasoloko-nokuba bathini na—bedlala ixhoba. Abantu abanengqondo yexhoba bahlala besala ukuthatha uxanduva kwiingxaki ezenzeka ebomini babo kwaye balindele ukuba abo babathandayo bangene ngalo lonke ixesha kukho into engalunganga. Inyaniso kukuba, sonke sinemiba yethu, ngoko xa umntu ekuthwalisa ubunzima ngeengxaki zakhe, unokuziva udinwe ngendlela emangalisayo.
Ngokutsho kombhali uGqr. Judith Orloff, amaxhoba ahlala ekhona ngokwenene ngamavampire amandla. Kwimeko apho uphoswe khona, i-vampire yamandla ligama labantu ebomini bakho abafunxa onke amandla akho (uyazi, njengama-vampires). Zikholisa ukuba ziyamangalisa, ziswele kunye nokugcinwa okuphezulu. Ukuba uyakrokrela (uyazi) ukuba umntu ebomini bakho luhlobo oluhlala ludlala ixhoba, funda ngeengcebiso ezintathu zokujongana nabo, ukhathalelo lwencwadi enomdla ka-Orfloff, Isikhokelo sokusinda se-Empath .
1. Misela imida enovelwano necacileyo
Asikuko ukuba awufuni ukuba abantu abakungqongileyo bonwabe, kungenxa yokuba ayingomsebenzi wakho ukuba ube ngugqirha wabo. Ukuba umntu ebomini bakho uhlala edlala ixhoba, zama ukwenza kucace kubo ukuba ngelixa usecaleni labo, awukwazi ukuhlala ukhona (kwakhona, unobomi bakho). U-Orloff uphinde ucebise ukuseta imida yomzimba ukubonisa ukuba awukho kwindawo yokubamamela ngaphandle kweyure malunga nento ongakwaziyo ukuyilawula-okanye isigxina. Eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuwela iingalo zakho kwaye uphule ukudibana kwamehlo Thumela umyalezo wokuba uxakekile.
2. Sebenzisa ifowuni yemizuzu emithathu
Kulungile, ke le genius entle. I-Orloff's Three-Minute Phone Call Call ihamba ngolu hlobo: Mamela ngokufutshane, uze uxelele umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho, 'Ndiyakuxhasa, kodwa ndinokuphulaphula kuphela imizuzu embalwa ukuba uqhubeka uhlaziya imiba efanayo. Mhlawumbi unokungenelwa ngokufumana ugqirha oza kukunceda.’ Kufanelekile ukuzama, akunjalo?
3. Yithi ‘hayi’ ngoncumo
Le yindlela esebenzayo yokuvala izikhalazo zexhoba ngaphambi kokuba bahambe ngokwenene. Masithi umntu osebenza naye sele eza kuqalisa kwi-monologue yemizuzu engama-45 malunga nendlela ahlala edlula ngayo kwintengiso emfanele ngokupheleleyo. Endaweni yokuthi, Hayi. Awukwazi ukuthetha ngale nto ngoku, okanye ukuphulaphula ngenxa yokuba nembeko, u-Orloff uncoma ukuthetha into enje, ndiya kubamba iingcamango ezintle ngesiphumo esihle kakhulu. Enkosi ngokuqonda ukuba ndifike ngexesha kwaye kufuneka ndibuyele kwiprojekthi yam. Ekunye nabahlobo nentsapho, ucebisa ngokufutshane ukuvelana nengxaki yabo, kodwa athi hayi ngoncumo ngokutshintsha umbandela kwaye angazikhuthazi izikhalazo zabo.
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