Iimpawu ezi-9 Unotata onetyhefu
1. Ukuthelekisa nabantakwenu
Wena nodade wenu omdala ningabantu ababini abahluke ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba engugqirha onabantwana abathathu kwaye ungutitshala omnye, utata wakho uyathanda ukuzama ukuniqhatha nobabini. Udade wenu uhamba kwindlela ephakamileyo, kodwa ukuqhula kukatata wakho rhoqo kusakwenza uzive ungakhuselekanga kwaye uyahlaselwa.
2. Akayihloneli imida
Uyamthanda utata wakho, kodwa usoloko enengxaki yokwazi indawo yakhe. Wenze umkhwa wokuzibonakalisa endlwini yakho, engachazwanga, elindele ukuba akwazi ukuhlala kwisidlo sangokuhlwa. Ngenxa yokuba uyamthanda, uyanikezela, kodwa nasemva kokumcela ukuba ayeke ukungena engakhange afowune, uyaqhubeka nokwenza.
3. Unyanzelisa ukuba ulungile
Utata wakho umthiyile wonke umntu owakha wathandana naye, kwaye iqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba akukho mntu uya kulunga ngokwaneleyo. Unezimvo ezifanayo malunga neenjongo zakho zomsebenzi, abahlobo kunye nayo yonke enye into. Ukuba uye wachaza ukuba wonwabile ngobomi bakho kunye nabantu abakuyo kwaye akasayi kuhlala ngaphandle kweshishini lakho, ngoko ubudlelwane bakho noyihlo bunokuthi buqhubele phambili (ukuba akunjalo) bunetyhefu.
4. Uziva udiniwe emva kokuchitha ixesha okanye ukuthetha naye
Ngaba uziva uchithe ngokupheleleyo ngalo lonke ixesha usebenzisana notata wakho? Asithethi ngokuziva ngathi kufuneka ube wedwa ixeshana-into enokwenzeka nakubantu esibathandayo ukuba kufutshane. Ukusebenzisana nomntu onetyhefu kunokukushiya uzive woyisiwe kuba utyekelo lwabo olukhulu, olunesidingo kunye nololongo oluphezulu lunokufunxa amandla aphuma kuwe.
5. Usoloko edlala ixhoba
Ngamanye amaxesha, abazali abanakukwazi ukunceda kodwa ukuba netyala kukhubekise abantwana babo. (Uthetha ukuthini, awuzi ekhaya ukuze uthabathe uMbulelo?) Kodwa kukho umahluko phakathi kokuvakalisa ukuphoxeka nokudala imekobume enetyhefu ngokugxeka wonk’ ubani ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Ukuba uyihlo uyala ukuthetha nawe iveki ngenxa yokuba uye wagqiba ukuchitha uMbulelo olandelayo kunye nabahlobo, unokuba kwintsimi enetyhefu.
6. Uzama ukukhuphisana nawe
Ngalo lonke ixesha ufowunela uyihlo ukuba athethe malunga nokunyuselwa emsebenzini okanye ukuqhubela phambili koqeqesho lwamanzi kunye nomntwana wakho, ngokuqinisekileyo uqhuba incoko ukuba ibe malunga. yakhe umsebenzi odumileyo okanye yakhe iindlela zokukhulisa wena. Naluphi na ubudlelwane obunempilo kufuneka bube yindlela ezimbini, kwaye ukuba uyihlo akakwazi ukubhiyozela impumelelo yakho-enkulu okanye encinci-luphawu lokuba kukho umba.
7 Yonke into imalunga naye
Usanda kutsalela umnxeba wemizuzu engama-45 notata wakho wafumanisa ukuba akazange akubuze nombuzo omnye ngobomi bakho okanye indlela oqhuba ngayo. Ukuba ebejongene nomcimbi obalulekileyo okanye eneendaba ezichulumancisayo, yinto enye leyo. Kodwa ukuba oku kwenzeka kakhulu ngalo lonke ixesha uthetha, ke olu lwalamano lunokuba yingozi.
8. Kuhlala kukho imitya eqhotyoshelweyo
Ngokuqinisekileyo, utata uyakuthatha abazukulwana esikolweni, kodwa awusoze uve isiphelo sethamsanqa onalo lokufumana uncedo lwakhe… silandelwa sisicelo esikhawulezileyo sokuphinda ahlengahlengise igumbi lakhe elingaphantsi. Asicebisi ukuba abazali bethu basenzela yonke into encinci, kodwa kufuneka ukwazi ukucela uncedo ngaphandle kokuba abeke phezu kwentloko yakho okanye ucele into engekho ngqiqweni ngokukhawuleza.
9. Akunakwenzeka ukukholisa
Uhlala ugoba ngasemva ukuze ukholise wonke umntu ebomini bakho-kubandakanywa notata wakho. Uninzi lwabantu luyabulela ngokuba bhetyebhetye kunye noncedo lwakho, kodwa utata wakho ubonakala efuna ngaphezulu. Ukuba uhlala uziva ngathi uza kufutshane emehlweni akhe, ayingombandela kwindlela ozenza ngayo izinto, ixhomekeke kuye.
Iindlela ezi-4 zokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho notata wakho
1. Misela ulindelo olusengqiqweni
Kwihlabathi elifezekileyo, sonke siya kuba nolwalamano olomeleleyo naye wonke umntu ebomini bethu, kuquka nabazali bethu. Kodwa into ekhoyo kukuba, ihlabathi alifezekanga. Abanye abazali kunye nabantwana ababini baya kuba ngabahlobo abakhulu, ngelixa abanye baya kukunyamezelana nje. Ukuba ujonge ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho, yiba nenyani ngayo. Mhlawumbi anifanelanga ukuba nibe ngabahlobo abasenyongweni—kulungile. Yintoni enokuba yinto ephazamisayo kukufumana ithemba lakho kwinto engasoze yenzeke kwaye uphoxeke xa ingenzeki.
2. Khetha amadabi akho
Ngamanye amaxesha kufanelekile ukuvuma ukungavumelani. Ootata neentombi (kunye noonyana), nangona ngokufuthi befana ngeendlela ezininzi, bafanele bakhumbule ukuba bakhuliswe ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo yaye baye baphila amava ahlukeneyo. Wena kunye notata wakho ninokuba nemibono eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo malunga nomsebenzi, ubudlelwane kunye nokuba ngumzali, kwaye kulungile. Kubalulekile ukuchonga iindawo apho kungekho namnye kuni onokutshintsha ingqondo kwaye avume ukuhlonipha uluvo lomnye ngaphandle kwesigwebo okanye ubutshaba.
3. Funda ukuxolela
Ukubambelela kwiemvakalelo zokucaphuka kuyingozi kuwe—ngokoqobo. Uphononongo lubonise ukubamba inzondo kwandisa uxinzelelo lwegazi , izinga lentliziyo kunye nomsebenzi we-nervous system. Ngaphandle koko, ukwamkela ukuxolelwa kunokuphucula impilo yonke ngokunciphisa amanqanaba oxinzelelo. Ngaphandle kwempilo yomzimba, ukuyeka ukuhamba kunokuphucula impilo yengqondo yomntu, ubudlelwane kunye nekhondo lomsebenzi. Umnxeba wezempilo iingxelo umsindo owakhiweyo kujongwe kwiqela elinye kunokopha kolunye ubudlelwane. Ukucaphukela utata wakho okanye ukugweba ubudlelwane bakho notata wakho kunokubonakala ukuba ungxolisa abantwana bakho ngokuwisa umnqwazi. Ukusuka ekutshintsheni imbono yakho ukukhuphela usetyenziso lokucamngca, Apha Zisibhozo imithambo eyodwa ukukunceda uyeke ukucaphuka.
4. Qaphela ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bungaphaya kokulungiswa
Bonke ababini bomzali nomntwana banengxabano ngamaxesha athile. Kodwa ukuba uhlala uziva ngathi ungoyena mntu umbi xa ubuyile ekhaya, usapho lwakho lunokunyathela inetyhefu intsimi. Abantu abanetyhefu bayaphuma; ukudibana kwakho kukushiya ufile emoyeni,' utsho uAbigail Brenner, M.D . 'Ixesha kunye nabo limalunga nokukhathalela ishishini labo, nto leyo eya kukushiya uziva udangele kwaye ungafezekanga, ukuba awucaphukanga. Musa ukuzivumela ukuba udinwe ngenxa yokupha nokupha uze ungafumani mbuyekezo.’ Ivakala iqhelekile? Nangona kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukunqumla umzali onetyhefu ebomini bakho, akukho ntloni ekwenzeni oko-ingakumbi ukuba kubonakala ngathi uzame yonke into.
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