Ubawo ufuna ukwazi ukuba iziqhulo zakhe zeentombi zakhe ezimbini, ezineminyaka esi-8 nesi-5 ubudala, zizithuko kusini na.
Utata wafuna uncedo kwaReddit Ndingu A****** iqonga. Ubanga ukuba ukubhekisa kwiintombi zakhe njengoPollyanna kunye noPrima donna kufanele ukuba uyathandeka. Noko ke, omabini la magama agqalwa njengethoba isidima kwabasetyhini.
UPollyanna uchaza ibhinqa elingaboniyo ukuba liza kumenzakalisa. Ukusetyenziswa kwegama eziklasini kuvaliwe yi-American Federation of Teachers ngokuba ngocalucalulo ngokwesini. Ngeli xesha, iindaba ze-BBC zabiza i-prima donna, ibhinqa elibi, igama elibi usahlala emsebenzini .
Intombi yam endala inobuntu bomntwana kumboniso bhanyabhanya weKrisimesi ofumana umgcini-bhanki okhohlakeleyo ukuba asindise ikhaya leenkedama, wabhala . Ukukhanya kwelanga, iimvula, ukulunga ngalo lonke ixesha. Xa wayemncinci, wadlula kwisigaba se-Disney sakudala, kwaye eyona nto wayeyithanda kakhulu yayiyi-‘Pollyanna.’ Wayezenza ngathi ungumlinganiswa obalaseleyo, kwaye igama lesiqhulo libambelele.
Emva koko wachaza indlela umntwana wakhe oneminyaka emi-5 ubudala awafumana ngayo igama lesiteketiso.
Ngoyena mntwana unamandla, ongagungqiyo endakha ndadibana naye kwaye unobuchule bomdlalo weqonga, wabhala . Ndiyayithanda lento ngaye! Kwakhona wayedla ngokugibisela ngomsindo omangalisayo. Ebudeni bobunye bolu gqatso, umfazi wam wambiza ngokuba ‘yiPrima donna’ laza igama lesiqhulo lahlala lihleli.
Kodwa utata waqalisa ukuthandabuza izinto xa unina wamtsalela umnxeba emxelela ukuba akavumelani naye.
Wathi babeza kubangela ukuba abantwana bam bazive bengavisisani yaye ndidlala kwiindawo ezimbi zobuntu babo. Andiqondi ukuba zimbi! wabhala . Ngokwenene, mna nomfazi sicinga ukuba ziziteketiso ezintle kwaye amantombazana awazange abonakalise ukucatshukiswa ngawo. Mhlawumbi babizwa ngamagama abo okwenyani ngama-80 ekhulwini ixesha. Ngoku ndiyazibuza kodwa.
I-Reddit commentariat yayithambile kutata oneenjongo ezintle, kodwa isigwebo sikukuba: utata akalunganga apha.
Kuya kufuneka ubone ukuba igama lesidlaliso lomntwana wakho libe sisithuko sokwenyani kuya kuthoba isidima sakhe. Umama wandibiza ngokuba ‘yidrama queen’ ubomi bam bonke, omnye umsebenzisi wabhala . Iqhubekile nosapho lwam kwaye ngenxa yokuba yayibambe intsingiselo yokuba nobuntununtunu, ukungabinangqiqo kunye nobushushu, akukho mntu wandithatha serious.
Amagama eziqhulo obanike wona ngawona magama, hayi iziqhulo. Kwaye ubenzele ukuzonwabisa kwakho, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba abantwana bebathanda, watsho umntu omnye .
Ubona le nto intle kwaye imsulwa kwaye ndiyasibona isizathu. Nangona kunjalo, omabini la magama eziteketiso aneentsingiselo ezithile ezimbi kakhulu, umntu wabhala.
Ukuba uyonwabele eli nqaku, khangela lo bawo balaselisa ulwahlulo generational kule ikliphu evula amehlo.
