Ndiye ndalala nomntu omtsha, kwaye ndiziva ndinetyala kakhulu. Uyi-unicorn yaseBeanie Boo e-iridescent egama lingu-Uni kwaye uyintombi yam eneminyaka emi-5 ubudala. U-Uni kunye nam saye sasondelana kuba, ngaphandle kweenjongo zam ezilungileyo, ndiye ndadlula ebhedini yentombi yam phakathi kwe-lullaby nge-8 p.m. ubusuku obuninzi mva nje. Naxa sele ndikwazi ukuchwechwa, xa sele erhona kancinci, ndiye ndibuyele umva phantsi kwamashiti akhe e-ballerina xa evuka, oh, 3:37 a.m., aqonde ukuba ndimkile kwaye ndililela mna.
Ndifike njani apha, ndiphunga i-Uni, i-nightcream yam ye-retinol iqabe i-mesh guardrail yebhedi yomntwana? Ndifundile ZONKE iincwadi zokufundisa ukulala . Ndade ndasebenza nogqirha wokulala kwiminyaka eyadlulayo ukuze ndifunde indlela yokufundisa umntwana wam wokuqala ukuba azithobe. lo mfazi = ingcwele etshintsha ubomi). Ndinexhala lokuba ndimoshele intombi yam ukuba ilale yodwa. (Kuthekani ngee-sleepovers? Kuthekani ngenkampu?) Ndiba buhlungu gqitha ukuba ubuthongo bakhe buphazamiseka xa eshiya ibhedi yakhe ngeeyure zonke eze kundikhangela. Kwaye phezu kwayo yonke loo nto, ndidiniwe emathanjeni am. Ukuba bendinokuhamba phantsi kwale Pottery Barn Kids duvet, bendiya kuba ndizikhaba.
Kodwa incwadi entsha ebizwa Akukaze kube Kade Kakhulu Ukulala Uloliwe ukhe watsala okwebhakana yethemba enqumla inkungu yengqondo yam. Kuyo, uGqr. Craig Canapari, MD, umalathisi weZiko Lokulala Labantwana Lale Yale notata wabantwana ababini, wenza esi sithembiso: Unokumfundisa umntwana okubudala bokuhamba isikolo ukuba alale ngokuphumelelayo njengoko unokwenza usana, neenyembezi ezimbalwa. umzali okanye umntwana. Unyanzelisa ukuba akukho festile yomlingo yokulala-uqeqeshe umntwana ovala emva kokuba eneenyanga ezi-6 ubudala. Emva koko akubambe emagxeni, akujonge kanye kwizangqa zakho ezingaphantsi kwamehlo aze athi: Uninzi lwabantwana abanobunzima bokulala banomqobo omnye nje omkhulu ekufuneka boyise: abazali babo.
Mhlawumbi ziikomityi ezimbini zekofu ezithethayo, kodwa ndiva ukuba uncedo lusendleleni. Mhlawumbi xa kuziwa ekutshintsheni imikhwa yokulala ebuntwaneni eyendeleyo, kubhetele ngenene kunanini na ngaphambili. Funda ngakumbi kwezona zinto zivula amehlo zencwadi.
Amashumi amabini anamashumi amabiniIxesha liyinto yonke.
Elona xesha lilungileyo lokuqalisa ixesha lokulala kuxa uzisa umntwana wakho ekhaya uvela esibhedlele, ubhala uCanapari. Ixesha lesibini elingcono kunanamhlanje.Kubantwana abaninzi ukuya kutsho kwiminyaka eyi-10, elona xesha lifanelekileyo lokulala liphakathi kwe-7:30 kunye ne-8:30 p.m. Ukufumana ixesha elifanelekileyo lokulala lomntwana wakho kuloo festile , phawula ixesha alala ngalo busuku ngabunye. Emva koko, qalisa inkqubo yakho yokulala malunga nemizuzu engama-45 ngaphambi kwelo xesha. Sukuqalisa ixesha lokulala kwangoko ngethemba elikhohlisayo lokumthoba nge-6:30 p.m.; uya kuba uzibekela ukusilela. Kungenxa yokuba mhlawumbi akayi kuba noxinzelelo olwaneleyo lokulala kwangaphakathi kwangoko, kwaye iya kutsala idrama kuphela.
Qinisekisa ukuba indlela yakho yangokuhlwa ikhokelela kwicala elinye kuphela: ukuya ebhedini. Ubhala uCanapari: Ndiya kwenza nantoni na ukugcina abantwana bam babuyele ezantsi emva kokuba siqale ukuxubha amazinyo.
Izixhobo zakho eziyimfihlo: Unxibelelwano, ukulungiswa kunye nothando.
Inyathelo lokuqala ekwaphuleni umkhwa womntwana okhulileyo wokulala ethetha naye malunga notshintsho oluzayo. Mxelele ukuba unebhongo ngaye ngokuba yintombazana enkulu kangaka, kwaye lixesha lenyathelo elitsha elinika umdla.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhetha ibhedi yakho, yenza igumbi lakhe lokulala libe nomtsalane ngakumbi ngokumvumela ukuba akhethe amashiti amatsha okanye umqamelo, okanye mhlawumbi i-unicorn enkulu ngakumbi. (Ayisosinyobo. Ngumvuzo wokuvuleleka ukuba utshintshe.)
Cacisa ngokuthe ngqo into eza kuqala ukwenzeka ebusuku ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili (ngaphezulu koko ngemizuzwana). Kwaye wenze imini uqheliselo ngoko umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni ngexesha lokulala. Yenza uguqulelo oluncinci lwendlela yakho yokuya kulala, kubandakanya indlela yakho entsha yoqeqesho lokulala (siya kufika apho). Oku kuya kunciphisa uloyiko kunye nexhala kuni nobabini xa ilixesha lesivumelwano sokwenyani. Zenze zibe mnandi ezi zihlandlo zokuziqhelanisa! Ngena kwiipjs zakho, wenze ngathi ungumntwana, kwaye umntwana wakho akulalise. Mcele ukuba aziqhelanise nokulalisa isilwanyana. Mncome ngokumncoma nangothando emva koqeqesho oluyimpumelelo. Unxulumano oluhle nexesha lokulala? Khangela.
Xa ebuza ukuba usenako na ukungena kwigumbi lakho ukuba uyoyika okanye edakumbile ebusuku, phendula uthi: Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo unako, kodwa ndicinga ukuba uyintombazana enkulu kangangokuba akuyi kufuneka ukuba njalo. Ukuba uvakalisa uloyiko lokulala yedwa, mxelele ukuba, uMama usekho yaye uza kukunceda. Yiza uzondithatha ukuba uyoyika okanye ulusizi. Kodwa ndicinga ukuba uyathanda ukuba neyakho indawo.
Yandisa uthando lokunxibelelana ngokomzimba ngexesha lokuvuka, kwaye uthomalalise umsindo wemini ngeTime-Ins. Ukuhlala uzolile ngexesha lokunyibilika kwemini kukulungiselela ukuba ulawule ezinzulwini zobusuku obungenakuthintelwa.
Ukuqiniswa okulungileyo kusebenza kwimikhwa yokulala-kungekhona nje ukuziphatha kwasemini. Rhoqo thina bazali sisabela kwindlela yokuziphatha engalunganga kodwa singayihoyi ihambo entle, ubhala watsho uCanapari, osandula kuphumelela iwonga lokuba ngoyena Bawo uBulumko. Ungaphoswa ngamathuba okudumisa umntwana wakho ngokwenza umsebenzi olungileyo. Qaphela nawaphi na amanyathelo amancinci ukuya kobo busuku bugqibeleleyo bokulala. Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhala kancinci ngexesha lokulala, yimpumelelo leyo. Mhombise ngokumwola nokumanga ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba uhlala egumbini lakhe de kube yintsimbi yesi-6:01 kusasa ngokuchasene ne-5:55 a.m., mbethe ngothando. Ncoma amanyathelo amancinci ngathi luloyiso olukhulu, ubhala uCanapari. Mvuze ngokuzama okuhle.
UMladen Zivkovic / Getty imifanekisoKe nantsi into oyenzayo:
Ukulala ukuqeqesha abantwana abadala, iCanapari ikhuthaza indlela ebizwa ngokuba yiProgressive Breaks. Unika ezinye iindlela ezininzi, naye, kodwa ndiyayiqaqambisa le kuba ifanelekile kubazali abaxhalabileyo (ndim ke lowo). Ngamafutshane, ulindele ukuba umntwana wakho ajamelane nokungabikho kwakho ixesha elifutshane, elikhula ngokuthe ngcembe.Kwakhona, ixesha lingundoqo. Ndicime isibane ndilale nentombi yam ngo8 ebusuku. kwaye uqhele ukulala nge-8:20. Ngoko ngo-8: 10 PM, okanye phakathi kwenkqubo yakhe yokulala, ndiya kumkhumbuza ukuba (njengoko sasiqhelisela) ndithatha ikhefu kwaye ndithembise ukubuyela kwigumbi lakhe ngokukhawuleza.
Emva koko uphume kwaye ubuye ngomzuzu omnye (okanye ngaphantsi), kwaye udumise umntwana wakho njengokuba uphumelele ibhaso leNobel, ubhala uCanapari. Yithi kuye, ‘Jonga ebhedini yakho njengentombazana enkulu! Ukhangeleka ukhululekile kwaye ukhululekile! Ndiyazingca ngawe ngokuhlala kwaye uphumle, njengokuba besithethile. Bendisazi ukuba ungayenza loo nto!’ Indumiso ifanele ibe yeyokugqwesa, yaye ukuba akuziva uneentloni ngendlela onehlombe ngayo, yibeke kokutyebileyo. Nje ukuba ubuyele egumbini lakhe, hlala naye de alale.
Ngobusuku obulandelayo, yenza okufanayo, ngaphandle kokushiya ikhefu lemizuzu emibini. Ngobusuku obulandelayo, shiya imizuzu emithathu. Kodwa soloko ubuya njengoko uthembisile ukuze ungamophuli ukuthembela kwakhe. Ukuba ubuyile uze ufike elele, ungamvusi.
Injongo kukuba alale yedwa ngelixa uphuma kwikhefu.
Unokwenza njani xa umntwana wakho engena ebusuku:
UCanapari ucebisa ukuBuyisa okuthe cwaka. Iqanjwe ngumbhali wencwadi yobuthongo oyintshatsheli uGqr. Marc Weissbluth, oku kuxa ungathethanga (okanye phantse ungathethi; ungaphinda amazwi alalwayo, njengelixesha lokuba ulale. Ndiyakuthanda. Shhhh…) khapha umntwana wakho abuyele egumbini lakhe. qho xa evuka ebusuku. Kusenokufuneka wenze oku izihlandlo ezingama-30 ngobusuku bokuqala. Kodwa ukuba amaphupha amnandi enziwa ngale nto, ndingubani mna ukuba ndingavumelani?
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